Question for long term married couples

Lifestyle Relationships
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she prolly doesn't get anything out of it.

i don't think her lying there and you just doing your business is giving her the happy ending that would make her want sex more often.

and if you think it is, she's prolly faking so as not to bruise your ego.

p.s you had the same complaint last year. why not search that thread? i'm sure the suggestions were just as good back then.

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pay her vacations to pk for 1 or 2 months in pk aloooooone

it should work

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No chocolate no diamonds? :hayaa:

The masjid is thattaway --------------------->

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^ people don’t even like massage . and you are talking about chocolate and diamonds… :mad: ..

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i was not talking about a role reversal mon ami.
anyways, it could be psychological issue like depression etc, could be hormonal issue,
lastly aside from this is your marital life okay? or are there issues that are manifesting themselves as lack of intimacy?

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maybe she doesn't like you

or maybe you're not helping her climax. ask her point blank if she feels satisfied at the end of the act. if she's not having true orgasms most of the time, then no wonder she'd rather sleep.

OR, your 10-12 year old kids plus her household chores are seriously tiring her out.

Gym helps for women - it gets their strength up, and they're better able to perform (they have more energy and their muscles are stronger) and it gets the endorphins kicking. Dunno about you girls, but I come home from the gym all triggered.

It's why I don't go to the gym anymore :(

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It isnt about you getting what you want and thats it.

Intimacy is about both parties. She doesnt think much of sex because she doesnt find it enjoyable. You want to see the frequency change, you've got to find out how to make it better for her.

You've been married well over ten years and you havent been able to figure out what she likes? What helps her get in the mood? What colognes are her favorites on you? How she likes to see you?

What about a surprise weekend away in a resort? Just the two of you? What about romance? Romance is huge for women. What do you do to romance her? Flowers? Dinner at a nice restaurant?

Aside from when you two are intimate...when does she feel like a sexy and beautiful woman? And not just your wife and mother of two?

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s&m.

worked for me and my wives.

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^
whats s&m?

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Point vigorously towards a cup!!!

Seriously though, this is bound to happen in any relationship, although 2-3 months is long time for a man!

Be kind and gentle with her.

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Some great posts in the last 24 hours.

Ok, I forced the talking today.

And I might be getting to the root of this.

It seems to tiredness

I think we will work on our timings & report back in a week :)

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^Awesome!

Tiredness is awesome, compared to a gazillion other reasons that can be much, much, much more difficult to deal with.

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well maybe your just hairy?! Wax your chest?? Groom yourself..

Maybe she is tired of lying on her back and not enjoying it! You have to let her want YOU. your running after HER toooo much!
Give her a nice foot rub... Run her a nice bath with rose petals, Throw rose petals on the bed. Show her how AMAZING she is to you.

Give her a nice back massage...
All this for 10 mins eh?!

Maybe you dont even last long. Maybe she wants it to last longer. Maybe she doesnt even get turned on by you if all you two do is her on her back! Who the hell would be happy with that for 7years?!

Or......................... maybe shes getting it frm someone else?! ......

But its all just maybe's best thing to do is ask her straight up how she's feeling!

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If you wanted a good sex life, then you should've never gotten married. Just keeping it real.

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Haha. love seeing the posts by unmarried kids as if they know everything ;)

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That's where lies your fault, where did you come up with this annotation?

Perhaps you need to purchase a sex manual, perhaps your routine missionary position isn't really doing it for her.

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sigh sweetheart. You dont have to be married to have sex.

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Yes hunnybunny you made that perfectly clear.

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i certainly did. And if there was 'married kids' on here i would be very worried!

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well you should be then coz teenagers getting married is pretty common in pakistani culture.