Question for long term married couples

Lifestyle Relationships
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Re: Question for long term married couples

take a bath

change clothes often

wear clean clothes

wear cologne

do ur hair

shave

brush ur teeth regularly

use mouthwash

shampoo and style ur hair

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oops..ok i waasnt supposed to post in this thread was i?..oh well :)

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hmm… i think you require the help of Ron Jeremey… :hmmm: ..

**the easy one… **

Massage her shoulders and slowly move to other places.. make it oily !
…then
Take a bath together
… &
Watch some porno together..
&
enjoy - don’t forget the wine..

hard one…

Wake up early, make her a breakfast …
compliments .. all day… chicks love it..
again.. compliments & praise her in front of others .. all day.. in and out of home..
sit down … and talk about your mutual goals.. write it down ..
Learn to say … I was wrong. I’m sorry. Can you forgive me …and blah blah .. etc..etc
refer to #1 in the easy one… massage her…

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^:rotfl:

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You need professional advice. Contact the experts Ron Jeremy or Peter North.

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^ Ron Jeremy … or his muslim lookalike Khalid Sheikh Mohammad

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^ LMAO man you're good.

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Get a chocolate spa treatment for both of you! Buy her chocolate dipped strawberries! Take her to VS, make her feel pretty!

p.s. diamonds always make a woman feel extra special :blush:

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The earlier you learn to accept that is how it is and come to terms with it that either her prime time is over or if you are lucky she has not reached it yet.

Many factors can affect sexuality, is she working too much, does she has a job or little kids, or lots to do in the household, if yes, this kills all mood for any closeness, the only thing then she want is her bed not her hubby.

and after 7 + years of marriage, its not the same as in your honeymoon time, don't expect that things will be the same again.

And how to keep it interesting, well the few times u do it, remember its the quality that matters not the quantity.

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Book a hotel somewhere plush, romantic dinner, candles and a massage!!

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Ok, some good tips, and some useless one.

Firstly, to clear some misconsceptions:-

I am clean shaven, well groomed, shower regularly, dress very casually & smartly!! SO this presesumption that some have that I am a stinking slob is somewhat off the mark!

Secondly, those who frequent the cooking forum will know that I DO COOK REGULARLY!!! I would say 3-4 times a week.

Thirdly, no she doesnt work - children are not toddlers, they are 10 & 12 years old. I take them to all their school & non-school activities.

Fourthly - she doesnt like eating out or chocolate or Western movies. She is Pakistani born, very traditional.

Fifthly - we rarely argue (2-3 times a year), so not an issue.

Sixthly - Diamonds? Out of my league but bought her a gold ring recently.

The issue is simple. I think her 'bedroom batteries' have expired permenantly. I am good to go for another 25 years.

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Example: I cooked a lovely meal last night. I bought her a foot spa so she lazed in that for an hour or so. We watched a funny Pakistani comedy show.

Went to bed. She falls asleep as we are talking. Well, I ended u ptalking to myself.

Kind of the usual ending....

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Again, an assumption that I ended the chat - she did!!!

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Old fashioned Pakistani larki.

I'd stil be a virgin if I tried to get her involved or start things off!!!

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Unfortunately, thats the way it is. If I dont. Then nothing happens.

Come on, in 12 years you dont think Ive tried the role reversal? Failed every time.

Some gals just dont want to!

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*No I didn't assume that you ended the chat, I was just pointing out the fact that in 5 minutes you can't really get too far in solving this problem. If she ended it then let her know that this is important to you therefore as a wife she has to listen and solve. *

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I doubt her "bedroom batteries" have expired permanently. She may just be experiencing a low sex drive, root cause being of physical or psychological origin.

First stop would be for her to visit her GP (or doctor at the family planning clinic or something..), so she has someone else to talk to about this, and they can rule out any problems that may cause a low sex drive (depression, stress, anxiety, anaemia, diabetes and other hormonal abnormalities etc).

Don't feel disheartened.....loss of sexual desire can be put right (most of the time)...but there aren't any quick fixes. Take it easy with her and try to be sensitive to her needs as well.

Good luck!

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:lifey:

At that age she should not even care if you smell like a pig.. if she have normal drive.

More then once I heard(over heard) doctors talking about it… it is as simple as … if blood flows where ever it needs to flow.. drive comes naturally.

Make her physically active..(work out and stuff)… I think she will come looking for you, very often…

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Hey paijee, she could be emotionally unhappy/depressed, or it could be something else entirely. Consider taking her to get her blood levels tested. Besides all the ones that maroush said, make sure her thyroid levels are normal as well. But you don't have to worry about all that, take her to do the doctor and they'll take care of it

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agree with maroush.