Spent a few weeks trying to get to the bottom of this.
Its clear - the main reason is tiredness. Getting up early, making breakfast, chasing after 2 children trying to make sure they are ready for school. Taking them to school on time etc.
Then the daily chores of a housewife, along side the 1 day a week that she works.
I also went about changing some of my wardrobe, and tried different kinds of clothing.
Something that also came up was nervousness due to children growing up, and her not feeling comfortable or at ease during the night.
All adds up to the issues I raised.
One of the solutions? Do it in the day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And guess what, she initiates it :)
No pressure of children in the house, no fear they might become aware of what mum/dad are up to.
She said I wasted my money on the new wardrobe change.
So things are great. I imagine some of you guys that mocked me might also have to go through this as you have children and those children start growing up.
I wont take any of this for granted though. May need a bit more fine tuning in time but its a great start for us both. Probably the 1st sort of issue we've encountered like this in married life.
I think we didnt factor in the children growing up & the effects it would have, so let this be a lesson to you all who have children aged about 5 years old - they soon become 10!!
Don't take this for granted coz it may not last a long time, worry about the future. When my bestfriend went through this at a point in her life, the solution that worked for her (recommended by a doctor) was GYM. get your wife to go to the gym regularly. if she says that house chores tire her up and is enough exercise for her (which most of women would say) dont listen to her. go to the gym with her if you have to. it did wonders for my friend.. as in a long term solution. this is permanent. good luck
women are not supposed to "just lay there". Why dont you ask your wife what she likes, or would like? If she is not asking for it or doesnt want to do it, maybe she is not enjoying herself as much as you think she is? (im not saying this to insult you)
The earlier you learn to accept that is how it is and come to terms with it that either her prime time is over or if you are lucky she has not reached it yet.
I dont agree. Many health professional actually agree that women reach their so called sexual "prime" in their 40s.
Many factors can affect sexuality, is she working too much, does she has a job or little kids, or lots to do in the household, if yes, this kills all mood for any closeness, the only thing then she want is her bed not her hubby.
*True. Make sure you are helping at home and allow your wife to have some leisure and relaxation time for herself. *
and after 7 + years of marriage, its not the same as in your honeymoon time, don't expect that things will be the same again.
And how to keep it interesting, well the few times u do it, remember its the quality that matters not the quantity.
