Are you into showing affection to your significant other in Public ? What do you do ?
I can think of the most intimate thing a desi married couple can do in public is to hold hands. Share a drink or share food.
In Pakistan even that will be a problem the Police can demand you to show your nikhah nama.
You can find news in Pakistani newpaper about people getting arrested for being intimate in public. Pakistani newspapers have a term for it “Qabil a Aitraz Halat.” I do not know how do they define this term. If you know please do not hasitate to share.
Can you think of other ways which can be within the framework of our culture and religion ?
Pakistani and Muslim background will pose a problem to go beyond certain limits , some might not agree with me .
If you do not agree why not ?
What about if you are just engaged what are the limits ?
What about if your Nikhah was performed but no rukhsatee yet ? What are the limitations in this case ?
I am not saying whether it is right/wrong but i personally dont like or dont see myself holding hands and all lol…and people say to me wl see when u get married
I've seen in 80's, newly married couple's holding hands and walking on Mall road, Murree.
Qabil-e-Aitraaz Haalat is not holding hands. You can imaging what it is. I dont thin kthat any explanation is required :D
After Nikah, they are husband and wife, so they can do whatever. Only reason why elders ask to wait till rukhsati to avoid odd situations. One case could be if DUlhan gets pregnant before rukhsati and Dulha died before Rukhsati, how would she porve that she is bearing the child of her husband ...
I've seen in 80's, newly married couple's holding hands and walking on Mall road, Murree.
Qabil-e-Aitraaz Haalat is not holding hands. You can imaging what it is. I dont thin kthat any explanation is required :D
After Nikah, they are husband and wife, so they can do whatever. Only reason why elders ask to wait till rukhsati to avoid odd situations. One case could be if DUlhan gets pregnant before rukhsati and Dulha died before Rukhsati, *how would she porve that she is bearing the child of her husband *...
strange reasoning. If she is legally married tot he guy why does she even have to prove the child's paternity? Plus as Lusi mentioned hail technology!
as for Mirch's question, depends upon the place you are at and the people you are amongst for most part.
Are you into showing affection to your significant other in Public ? What do you do ?e ?
More than one aspect to this post I address one at a time.
Once I was in a championship(my first time out side of pak)
So many people were over from so many countries.(N-amreekan, Europe, south american )
Their we so many beautiful women over.(99.99 single).
There was a french athlete with his wife. I didn't see her sitting any where but on that guys lap.
Kissing touching 24/7.
She wasn't ,by far, as pretty as other girls.
3 days gone an Uzbek coach attempts RAPE guess who was the victim ??????
Didn't get my point?
Well I rather show respect to my wife than affection in public. Affection when we are by our self.
About Pakistani culture. If I touch my wife in public Its like I am inviting trouble.
NO questions about that.
My older brother got married at age of 19 when he got caught with my sis-in-law in a park by police.
Inspector him self visited my father and told him the story.
My father was like "pata naheen yeeh dono kia kia kerty rahy heen inka nikah ker do"
My brother hit the jack pot.
well do things in public with ur spouse , ya dont mind you sisters and daughther doing in front of you with their spouses........
well ... why sisters & daughters have to be a base model for how you act around your spouse? if sisters & daughters are grown up mature adults - they may want to show their feelings towards their spouses differently than you ('you' generally speaking). Concept of intimacy & affection differs from person to person.
Ya missed my point matey .... generally pakistanis are very negatively sensitive about their sisters and daughters .... they dont mind doing it with others but it comes to their own crowd ... there are quite impressionable.......
and it about creating a norm for intimacy and affection .... should be followed by our crowd ...men ....
Again we are talking about within the desi and Islamic framework. Married Desi daughters and sisters are intelligent enough and trained enough to be intimate to their spouses even in public when brothers and fathers are not around.If they choose to do so.
We are not talking about French/ Uzbek etc. we are talking about limits in desi culture and Muslim religion.