Pros and Cons of marrying a lady doctor.

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My two cents to OP or anyone else who is considering to marry a male or lady doctor make the decision BASED ON YOUR PERSONALITY AND CIRCUMSTANCES. Times have changed. Both spouses contribute income and do a lions share of household chores and shuffling the kids to numerous afterschool and enrichment activities. Gone are times when the wife just stayed at home, cooked, cleaned and exclusively took care of the kids. while the man was the sole bread winner.

it does help if you are marrying a lady doctor:
1) You don't have ego or mind issues (she may earn more than you and will work closely with MALE COLLEAGUES)
2 ) You are VERy supportive, hands on and can come up with solutions.
3) Have a supportive family and she also has a supportive family. Grandparents who are willing to help out are PRICELESS when there are kids.
4) You have other hobbies and are secure as an individual.

REmember not all lady doctors are alike! There are some who can work a twelve hour night shift come home cook, clean and spend quality time with husband and kids. Yes, there are some who can do it all and are very balanced. Others may not be to balance all things as well. Then again remember there are differences in SAHM- some keep the house spic and span, cook gourmet meals, balance their household bills, keep the kids entertained...and then there are others who do very little are bitter and constantly whine. There are husbands who work full time and then come home and do household chores, help take care of the kids even though the wife is at home. Each case is individual. Its best to ask yourself what you expect from a spouse and what kind of lifestyle you want. There is no right or wrong but essentially what YOU PREFER.

My personal advise to anyone getting married - IS SEPARATE FANTASY FROM REALITY! Be realistic and honest first with yourself and then with others.

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This is why dentistry is better. 9-5 job. Also dentists get paid better.

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^ I had an easy time last few months. Looks like got to revert to spell checking mode.

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^everything’s spelled correctly! :snooty:

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About the greedy holding of seats in Pakistan.

That's probably the reason you can't go into med school back in the States without a 4 year degree. Med school doesn't ask for a lot of commitment over here, yeah the degree is an year longer than your regular 4 year college, but that's just one year.

Conversely, in the US those 4 years of college, before med school, give you plenty of time to think about how serious you are about being a Doc and the degree gives you an option to do something else, if you decide being a Doc ain't for you. Asking an 18 year old to be sure about what their goals are in life is pretty ridiculous.

You PCG probably entered Med school when you were 22 or 23. You were probably a different person then compared to when just graduated high school. Girls in Pakistan however are shoved into med school right after high school. Taking an year off after high school, to think about your life, is not an option because you get penalized for it. If your high school diploma is an year old, they drop your grade reducing your chances of getting an admission.

The girls who sit home(after med school) can't be absolved of all blame, however you will have to agree the system is setup such that some of the students won't make it to medical practice. Some students who shouldn't be there get admitted because getting in is just too easy, given you have the right grades. And we all know what kinda kids get grades here, kids who don't necessarily have any appreciation of science, but can memorize a whole book without actually understanding anything it says and then regurgitate that on their test papers. Students(in high school) aren't taught to think anything for themselves much less make the difficult decision of what they're going to do once they graduate med school.

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No, we read the same PCG posts. I see exactly what is stated there and what she means. You may try to labe some seep hidden psychological meaning to it.
Sometimes things are clear and easy, but we like to fool ourselves.

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Again, we cannot judge the circumstances why people abandon their degrees, its a personal issue, why should we mingle in their life circumstances that might come along, things we don't know, their situation... can happen that life takes turn, career changes, takes a break, than maybe they start with more power & motivation.

I was most productive after I went back to work after my first kid. I had more motivation as the break did me good and made me realize how much I love my work and the work atmosphere that I took granted for.

The reason I never liked the medical line was I knew in future it will get in my way if I ever will have a family, so never thought of pursing it. But I was wrong, as I am in the IT line, I working full time with night on call duties, even weekends, and after work, teleworking at evenings, but all this before I had my first kid. After that my priorities changed, now you may call it whatever you want, but its very normal, you will feel it too only after you will have a family, I dont think u will understand this unless you are in the situation, till then happy planning of the future.

And btw after I had my kids, I completed 2 online diplomas with a reputed university in UK with on site exams, took 3 years for this, I was studying while I was pregnant or nursing, so I was not sitting on my fat bum (as you like to call it in general) along with household and family maintenance. So to put everyone in one plate and generalize is not a nice thing to do.

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Of course we read the same posts - it was a figure of speech.

Yes sometimes things are clear and easy. It was easy to conclude PCG made some excellent points. Would it have been better to tone it down? Sure.

Anyway, I am out.

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Don't know Pak system. Sounds like India system. Well thought out post.

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Sure - people make decisions based on a lot of factors.

In this case per PCG there appears to be a pattern of lady doctors quitting their profession. And she pointed it out - rather directly.

One cant sweep everything under the rug. No one has answered the question - is this trend more prevalent on Pak ( or India for that matter) relative to the west.

Rather than shoot the messenger, maybe one can research the facts.

I will google and report what I find. Others are welcome to as well.

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None of this meant to take a dig at Proto who is a gentle lady.

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Awesome points saeed. You may be aware that people who can't get admission in their own country sometimes go to Palistan to get a seat. I've known some of THOSE people that were essentially forced or bribed by parents to go back to pakistan to go to school - they had 4 yrs and maybe more to think of their decision. I know girls out of that crowd that dropped some willingly others reluctantly to save their marriages.

Its unfair to ask a woman afterarriage to leave her career when you knew darn well what her career involves and when you knew she wanted to continue on with practice!

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I'm not talking about taking time off. That's different , not sure what you're reading in my posts. I took time off too and did other things.

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I'm curious how guys who didnt make the cut for a seat feel when they hear these stories of women dropping careers (not time off but quitting period)

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Headline: Dr Doolittle’s At Home | IPS – Communicating MDG3 – Giving voice to gender equality

Ok took me 20 sec to find this. 50% of Pakistani women doctor grads stop after graduation. Half if them after having kids. I saw a post earlier that claimed no such trend exists. Lends credence to what PCG has been stating.

The 1 doctor per 100 ratio close to Sehrish 8 out of 1000. So passed sniff test.