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Thank-you for understanding the core problem I see with women these days. What surprises me is when I see women in professional schools or already into their profession behaving this way. Were they this spineless during professional school and before getting into professional school? How does the dignity just disappear like that, in a chutki?
Are girls watching too many bollywood movies and paki dramas?
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No they're not practiced with desis, sara516, because desi women don't know that its actually not an Islamic responsibility to do all the cleaning and cooking. Most desi men don't know this either!
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God knows what they’re listening to or doing, PCG… It’s like as if the eduction they have gotten has taught them noting at all..
u know what it is, some (most) girls are taught by their mums how to be a good wife, how to obey their hubby’s and so on and so forth.. that girls just assume that they have absolutely no choice at all but to succumb to the hubby’s decision..
blame the mum.. blame the society.. blame these women who never stood up for themselves… blame those who are feeding this crap to their daughters..and those who are not willing to grow a spine…
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just wanted to add.. i have full respect for those females who do give up their jobs to stay home... only because its THEIR descision alone... and not forced by society. Its a tough job looking after rugrats...
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And I have full respect for males who help out their wives the best they can rather than expect the wife to be superwoman and handle raising kids with good values, cooking excellent food, and keeping the house spit-spot clean when the kids are having "accidents" and "spills" thru the day.
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^ :) hopefully u'll end up with one just like that...
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but it is the woman’s Islamic responsibility to take care of her kids. in fact a child has Islamic rights as well…that right includes being breastfed for up to two yrs if the mother is physically capable. If she fails to do so, which most women nowadays do simply because they choose their careers over the rights of their children…she will answer to Allah.
Also i have mentioned this several times but people fail to acknowledge it…Islamically, when a man dies and he was pleased with is wife…the gates of heaven open up to her. So if my husband wants me to quit my law career than I will for the sake of our marriage, for the sake of Allah. I dont know what more a woman needs to hear. I live for Allah and I will please my husband for the sake of Allah because that is what I have been told to do. Why cant women get that…let go of your feminist views and do things to please Allah and stop living for the duniya.
***sorry for posting my religious views on this forum…but this forum is called “life” and my life is my religion. ***
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I doubt it's simply what they're watching. It's a lot to do with pressure and expectations from family and friends. Plus, when you've got a mother that has been super housewife all her life and has also had a career once the kids grew up, it's hard to not feel the pressure, even is she doesn't expect or want the same things for her daughter.
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it’s not TV…god knows i dont watch these corny bollywood movies etc. I cant say it has much to do with family expectations either. My sisters and I have different views on this. My older sister is all about her career. Her kids have been going to daycare since they were born.
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I’m not very well read in Islam… but i dont think what ur saying is quite right… the door to heaven is under ur mothers feet and the key under ur fathers.. where does the hubby come in here? hmm
neways, to each their own…
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you are right about the above. But there are many things that can open the gates of heaven…one includes pleasing your husband.
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said**: **“The woman who passes away in such a state that her husband is pleased with her will enter jannah.” (bukhrari)
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said**: **“There are three types of people whose salat is not accepted, nor is any other good act of theirs accepted. One is a slave who runs away from his master. The second is a woman whose husband is displeased with her. The third is a person who is in a state of intoxication.” (muslim)
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A woman came to ask the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) about some matter, and when he had dealt with it, he asked her, “Do you have a husband?” She said, “Yes.” He asked her, “How are you with him?” She said, “I never fall short in my duties, except for that which is beyond me.” He said, “Pay attention to how you treat him, for he is your Paradise and your Hell.” (muslim)
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it still doesnt mean a female does not have the right to voice her opinion..
if she's going to sit their like a mute thinking "keep saying yes, its the only way i can enter paradise".. thats just silly..
as a wife, you should be able to, and have every right to talk to ur husband.. just because he doesnt get his way, doesnt mean he is displeased.. if he loves u enuff, he will understand ur point of view and come to some compromise... me thinks
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but that isnt what i said nor did anyone else say that.
…u simply asked where does the hubby come in here and i answered it by giving evidence. 
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^ u said earlier, if ur hubby wanted u to quit ur law degree/career.. u would just to make him happy...
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ok perhaps i need to clarify. of course..it doesnt mean that i am going to just shut up and quit my job because he said so…hopefully i wont marry a guy that tell me what to do but instead discusses his likes and dislikes. I’ll quit because i want to OR because it is causing problems b/w us. If we are fighting about it all the time than i will quit because i want a happy marriage.
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That whole hadith about a displeased husband is overrated. If displeasing your husband means doing something good in the way of Allah, like practicing medicine or law or business and being of good civil service to your community, then I'd rather displease the husband.
Displeasing the husband is wrong when you're also displeasing God. If your husband is displeased over something perfectly halaal, then your argument falls down the drain.
Rahi baat breast feeding ki, there are plenty of women even with today's science who do long-term breast feeding. There is nothing wrong with that. There is also nothing wrong with switching over to forumula, since science shows that is okay. And God is the biggest scientist of all. If formula's were available in the Prophet's time, he might have encouraged it for all we know.
Furthermore, if you actually crack open the Quran and read that verse, it explicitly says that the husband and wife will make this decision of when to wean the baby AND that outside advice should be sought on the matter. Oh my, could God be asking us modern day muslims to go see a doctor on the matter? Wow, isn't God so omniscient? Really, don't quote hadith without knowing what the Quran says on the matter, since Quran is superior to any hadith.
I agree with sadzz. A good wife is not the one that says "haan haan" to everything her husband says. A good wife is the one that has the balls to challenge her husband when he's wrong, so that the family doesn't propogate bad principles and values onto their children.
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You get cursed/punished by Allah (SWT) for displeasing your husband. I cant say the same for choosing 2 or NOT to chose to continue your career.
In Islam a woman’s career isnt even a priority. Your family and home is. Therefore, whether it is halal or not if your HUSBAND isnt pleased than Allah isnt pleased.
Even in today’s world people say “breast is best”. It is your child’s haq to be nursed until he reaches age 2 if the mother is able to. The mother wont be able to if she works. Formula will never replace the the natural nutrients that are found in breast milk…NEVER.
I can go on and quote many verses that say that a woman must “obey” her husband…yes “obey”…believe it or not that is the translated word 
…of course women have many right over her husband as well.
Point being..if you follow the quran and sunnah you’ll find that your family comes first. Pleasing Allah (SWT) and “obeying” your husband comes first…PERIOD. This is written in many verses…does anyone want to argue what is in the quran and hadith?
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yawn .. i just feel sorry for the men u guppans would get married too...i mean why make everything confrotatonal with your sig other...why not do something which is best for your baby or your marriage..
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i agree
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man, theres a lot of women going to hell then.. including me