Re: Problem marrying a girl who was divorced...
well its not like I have anything against divorced people or that they are bad people but the thing is why don't they find someone who is divorced too. I mean she is coming with a baggage but he is not.So much of tension is involved in it.Its his first marriage but for her its second. Marriage itself has so much in it, I mean you have to make compromises & adjustments normally & when she is already coming with a baggage I mean you will have to do alot.
In my opinion divorced people should marry divorced people, as they will get along quite well, as they both will know what they have been through. But in this case guy does not even have the idea what she has been through.Divorced/widowed people should marry someone like them & support someone of their own kind beacuse they can balance things out better together.
If I am a divorced/widowed girl, I will only consider rishtas from divorced/widowed people, I will never ever consider a rishta of an unmarried guy, I mean why would I? If I am a physically challeneged girl, I will marry a person who is physically challenged too like me, no matter what if some normal guy likes me I will never ever accept his proposal.
Well one should know to do justice on his own too, if she is divorced why she is interested in marrying a unmarried guy, why don't she fond someone like her.You also have to see what you are contributing to the society,there are so many girls who are not getting married & here we see unmarried guy wants to marry a divorced girl. There are so many divorced guys & girls out there, why don't they just marry each other, this will solve alot of problems in our society leaving unmarried guys & girls to marry other unmarried guys & girls. Guys getting married to divorced/widowed girls hence no rishtas for unmarried girls & that gose the other way round too. Well that is just my opinion on it.
Oh yeah right now you love her, you are emotionally involved with her, so no questions on that, you both should get married no matter what. Parents, family etc baaki sub cheezo ki khair he....
now go ahead everyone call me jahil... backward & what not, I am just giving out my opinion as you all are giving.
How old are you?
There are alot of assumptions in your post and it makes me and i presume many others, wonder about your life experience to have such pronouncements.
Divorced/widowed people aren't "diseased" that they need to be confined to only "their own kind". You think you're saying this from a social justice POV but on a personal level it doesn't matter that much. What matters is if the two people have some sort of compatibility and the families generally get along.
You may find this hard to believe but compatibility can happen between a divorcee and someone who's never been married (let's call them "single" for sake of argument). They too go on to have happy marriages.
Being divorced/widowed/single/physically challenged, doesn't matter. In your physical challenged example, you won't be doing anyone else a favor by rejecting someone who likes you, least of all anyone in society. No one will run up to you and give you a hug and say thank you for not marrying their spouse.
Also, not everyone goes out specifically seeking someone who's been divorced/never been married. Sometimes you meet someone and an interest develops.
Plus, if you believe in Islam, there's no sin or anything wrong in marrying a widow/divorcee. Divorce isn't haram. Also, rishtas are a matter of kismet, so someone may be fated to marry someone who was also divorced.
Divorced people marrying single people will not bring destruction to society like you think it will. On the other hand, the thinking of "stick to their own kind" and "divorced girls are not good enough for single men" like yours.....has already done that.
