Tradition, obligation, and duty rule the lives of Constantia and Josephine in Katherine Mansfield's The Daughters of the Late Colonel. From their childhood, these women lived out a strict ritual, and when their father, an important part of that ritual, passes away, the women have to find a new course for their lives.
After their father's death, Constantia and Josephine don't focus on their own feelings, but instead follow the rituals governing the mourning process. While in bed, Constantia asks if they should have their "dressing-gowns dyed as well"(2410). The women don't want to do anything improper, forgetting about their own feelings while attending to the business of death; giving out their father's possessions to the worthy, writing thank you notes for sympathy letters, and worrying about the proper degree at which to mourn. Josephine "had broken down and had to use her handkerchief" to keep tears off the pages while writing the twenty-three thank you notes. The ritualistic notes take precedence over her feelings, and she has to work to suppress emotion while work remains undone.
Ritual, rank, and status all are important factors in the Colonel's household. His daughters live by rules as if they were in the military, for instance "*t had been a rule for years never to disturb father in the morning"(2414). The women don't just live by courtesy or understanding, but by an established set of rules. When Cyril came to visit his grandfather, he is described as "most unmanlike in appetite"(2417). This character does not do what is expected of him, and when Constantia and Josephine ask for some piece of news about his father, Cyril lies, telling them "Father's most frightfully keen on meringues"(2418). This false news relieves the stress of silence, which the women were dutifully trying to avoid. When they hear this insignificant information, "Josephine went scarlet with pleasure...Con gave a deep, deep sigh"(2418). While the Colonel is alive, these girls live by his rules and the standards established by society.
After the Colonel's death, Constantia and Josephine begin to experiment with freedom from the restrictions imposed on them throughout their lives. Instead of paying the organ-grinder to leave as they had for their father previously, the women "forgot to be practical and sensible", allowing the music to continue (2421). Without a governing Colonel, they can experiment with freedom, but the women have only known a life of rules and rituals. The story ends with awkward silence, neither Constantia nor Josephine knows how to fully express themselves, only beginning important sentences with the phrases "don't you think perhaps..." and "I was wondering if now..." (2423). Unable to fully express new inappropriate emotions because they find some enjoyment in a life free from their father's rules, the women live in an awkward silence, neither one willing to break down the barrier of decency and civility.