You know, this post raises some really interesting questions about the way that boys are raised in south asian society, and what it means to be an adult.
I recently read a blog post about hand-feeding boys, how it is more common for boys to be hand-fed for a longer period than girls, and how while displays of affection are discouraged between husband and wife; father and daughter, they are perfectly acceptable between mother and son.
We know that in Islam our parents are to be respected and cared for, but no other muslim culture goes as far as South Asian in so clearly defining how that care is to occur. Why does the culture put so much emphasis on binding only the son to his parents? Is it because this is the only interpersonal relationship that provides security to a woman?
Your so right. This really annoys me and the worst part of it is that it is WOMEN enabling this 'needy' male behaviour.
Off topic but...
It seems that a lot of women are raising sons to be dependent on other women, they are not giving them the life skills in order to survive on their own.
When I first got married my husband could do nothing, and I mean nothing, there were times i would come home from work and he would be sitting on the couch with a blanket because he did not know how to work the central heating system!!! Never mind the microwave, washing machine or cooker. This really upset me as I worried for our children, I wanted to be sure that if I died he would be able to run a house and look after the kids, not just dump them on his mom and move on with life.
It's sad that these mothers are so insecure about their role, they would rather bring up a needy son who depends on them for everything. It's like thier lives are soo unfulfilled they have to ensure they are 'needed' all the time.
All this does is produce men that don't really have much to offer thier wives.