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India is number 4. Jeez.
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LOL, out of 10, 7 countries are muslim ...
Hi JaanLeva, here is the data from google trends:
Google Trends: sex
I think we ought to be realistic…I’m sure lots of girls do search, but the majority will be guys in any culture. Just a natural fact, i am not saying one gender is better than another.
Your question suffers from a logical error-asking a question does not imply involvement. If I ask about killing someone, that does not mean I’m a killer. The reason I asked is because a couple is on the verge of divorce due to this issue. Man says it’s a natural thing and it’s not cheating, while the woman feels very hurt like she is a backup. And I have not been able to form a clearcut opinion, so i’m just eager to hear everyone else’s. Thanks for your input anyway.
LOL, out of 10, 7 countries are muslim ...
that's..ridiculous..
also, no matter what anyone says, or how many loop holes someone may try to find to justify porn, it's a sin in islam. end of story.
when you're young you hear about this and you're curious so you try getting little sneak peeks. once, you know what it is, that should be the end of it and that's how it was with me. so no, i'm not okay with it or with people who are obsessed with it
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Every kid has that curiosity factor inbuilt, and they all turn 16 at one time, so its normal... In Pakistan most guys don't get to see any action till they get married so they continue to rely on porn.
However, once they get married, and they're still addicted to porn, theres something wrong.
This one time I was passing a netcafe in Pakistan, and I saw this mazdoor/worker scrolling up and down a nude portrait continuously (they call it a tota)! The guy was like 50 and was still exploring female anatomy like Ferdinand Magellan!
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May be the thread starter is checking those words which are commonly used in Pakistan.. and of course it will bring the similar results… **Check google trends Google Trends: porn with the word ‘porn’ .. **
- South Africa
- New Zealand
- Ireland
- Australia
- **United Kingdom **
- Norway
- Canada
- India
- United States
- Finland
Pakistan is not even in Top 10.. whats this contradiction in stats..
Does it mean all people living in above 10 countries are sex starved…???
The stats vary according to the most commonly used word in various countries.. the word ‘porn’ is less used as search keyword in Pakistan as compared to other words like ‘sex’ … and used more in above countries.. check Google stats in some French word.. it will make all French speaking areas sex starved
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Most people search islamic websites,Quran,Hadith are pakiatani as well
look at these results of google
Google say pakistani are best muslim believe it as well
It's well known that Pakistani guys are the biggest consumers of porn in the world (Source: Google Trends). I know lots of guys rely on it instead of relationships for whatever reason. After marriage, what is your view on porn? Would you be ok with your husband using it? I am trying to see all perspectives..please add your own...I hope it will help me formulate mine.
Google trends will not discriminate between searches by men or women. So why you automatically assumed that ,based on google trends statistics, Pakistani guys are the biggest consumers of porn in the world. Porn sites are blocked in Pakistan , they can search all they want but they cannot be biggest consumers as they have no access to it.
Watching/subscribing to porn by married men and women is taboo in all societies it is not limited to Pakistani society or Muslim society. The difference is that porn is not allowed before or after marriage in Islam.
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Well, which ever country it is, it is still a terrible addiction. I think at we can protect ourselves knowing its negative effects in this life and the hereafter.
i know what u mean..our family friend..this girl..she got married 2 her cousin ..he came from pakistan..and he used to watch porn..and she was really disgusted by it..she couldnt believe it..i didnt understand why he would do that..she was really pretty..and he was dying to get marreid to her..he even threatened to cut his wrists if his parents did not get him married to her..but he had other issues too..not a good guy..they got divorced 3 months after..he didnt respect women..he was really aggressive n stuff..maybe these traits came from porn-watching?..so yeah i think its not good..makes the guy’s character bad too..
who can be ok with it,im sure guys who are into it will also wont be ok with it like they wuld know its sick
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well i have some far distant relatives in pak and when i went to pakistan they visited and one of the relatives of mine i found out was highly addicted to porn. he had dirty videos on his mobile extremely dirty and he had weird kinds of smss and images also. when he found out that i knew about him and his habit he started behaving weirdly towards me and talked to me in a flirtatious manner and tried to corner me and talk to me when no one was around and he also acted really aggressively towards me and sent me such disgusting smss on my number. i also later found out that he had been going to hira mandi and also watching mujras and he had also spent some time in jail regarding his illicit activities which i am sure started from his habit of watching porn. he also tried to make a pass at me once in the night but thank god i told mom and it was sorted.
i think porn is really bad for a person regardless of whether it is a sin in islam or not! this is from my own personal experiance and i can relate to it.
Still, sex is a generic term… it doesn’t prove that GUYS are doing it as you mentioned in your initial post, nor does it prove that search is being done for pleasure purposes.
If you have not seen porn and you don’t know what it is, how can you ask question about its validity? Why does the man feel he needs to look at porn? Maybe there is something wrong with the woman? Maybe he does not find her attractive anymore? Maybe she doesn’t stay clean, smells, doesn’t shave often, has other bodily deformities, obese, etc. …there could be many reasons…
Well...I suppose it could be girls, but considering the difference in literacy rates between men and women in Pakistan, and also the fact that men consume more porn than women, it's realistic to assume that the majority of ppl searching for porn in pakistani 'net cafes' are men. But you can replace Pakistani 'guys' with 'web surfers'..question is the same.
You make a huge assumption based on a misreading of the statistics. Googling sex is not the same as watching porn.
Still, sex is a generic term... it doesn't prove that GUYS are doing it as you mentioned in your initial post, nor does it prove that search is being done for pleasure purposes.
If you have not seen porn and you don't know what it is, how can you ask question about its validity? Why does the man feel he needs to look at porn? Maybe there is something wrong with the woman? Maybe he does not find her attractive anymore? Maybe she doesn't stay clean, smells, doesn't shave often, has other bodily deformities, obese, etc. ...there could be many reasons...
^so instead of taking care of such problems.......and doing something called 'sabr' .....he decides to go down the path of self-destruction??
why cant he partner up with his wife for improvement...a more positive approach??
please dont say that he watches porn because his wife is undesirable............i have seen many mismatched couples...and more often its the other way around.......
on the other hand…googling sex…leads to watching porn… 
^so instead of taking care of such problems.......and doing something called 'sabr' .....he decides to go down the path of self-destruction?? why cant he partner up with his wife for improvement...a more positive approach??
please dont say that he watches porn because his wife is undesirable............i have seen many mismatched couples...and more often its the other way around.......
So very right here.
A lot of couples don't address issues in their relationship and try to work things out. They justify their misdeeds by blaming the other person or creating a circumstance.
I know a young couple with 2 little daughters. The husband has been addicted to porn.. yes it has become public knowledge due to possible divorce issues that leaked from one family to another. This guy got so involved that he used to spend weekends away from home visiting women he "met" via porn sites that offer such deals. Wife caught his communication and he admitted to it.
2 little daughters and a beautiful wife.
These kind of men should not be allowed to touch those innocent children and a loyal wife because they are not only mentally but physically filthy.
He should rather divorce the wife if she is so undesirable, but this was obviously a case of dirty addiction, a disease if you may. I don't know what became of that family.
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niksik..well said...i do believe natural diseases are a work of nature, if Allah gives you health, he can also put you through tough times...but these man created diseases that society has inflicted upon us, not only destroy relationships and families, but also put men under a cloud of misery and guilt...and what not...they cannot have a healthy relationship with their wives....in addition to the pre-existing communication issue..that led to them to porn in the first place.
On a second note.....people have no right to corrupt the ones who dont want to be corrupted...why force sex into movies...music videos..TV...?? it seems as if they are purposely feeding us this....and making us believe its ok to be promiscuous...by carrying the 'sex sells' mentality.....its not that sex sells....its just that...they have nothing else to sell.....entertainment industry has minimal talent..yet they want to make billions off of it.
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what is porn 
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i don't wish to get too ingrained into this topic but just on one point which has cropped up, which is the sensitivity about the allegation that pakistani men are most prolific porn viewers.
i have spent the last 7 years working in not just a male dominated environment but in one where i am the only woman. and i can say with confidence that virtually all guys watch porn or have watched it at some stage. if they really don't then they have very strong religious convictions or a strong feeling that it is inherently wrong so they keep away.
now we come onto why it may be a bigger a problem in 'islamic' countries. in the UK, the average atheist/non religious guy will probably watch his fair share of porn but also probably indulge a lot of sex on a casual basis. society deems this as acceptable and there are no restrictions. so if you have countries in which society imposes all kinds of restrictions you are going to see the behaviour come out in different ways.
when me and the fiance first started on our long distance relationship, he didn't have the internet at home so he would go to the 'net cafe' to talk to me. he really didn't like going there and after a while confessed it was because while he was sitting there chatting to me, every single other guy was watching porn. the same story when my brother was in damascus for an arabic course - he went to a net cafe to check his email etc and accidentally went to the top floor as there were no free computers on the ground one.. and same story, it was basically a room for guys to watch porn without restrictions.
it's going on, same as everywhere else in the world. just elsewhere, people do it at home.
anyhoo, i really hate that porn has become something which is viewed as acceptable and 'normal' and part of a healthy sex life.