PLZ HELP ME

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As far as i know if u visit Uk (On visit visa) more than 2 times then u can get the next visa for 2-3yrs and also there is a possibility of u can getting a permanent visa after that period has finished.

Em goona start uni in 2010 Sep inshAllah n my course will take max of 4 yrs
N we r not planning to get married until ma edu is complete
He has applied 4 a job but not heard anything YET..........

I have no intrest in any other guy because i ONLY love HIM n i know hez gona prove himself a very good husband inshAllah

I understand what ur saying but we have met thousand of timeS n i know him very well............I have met his family aswell

SO WHAT to do now :)?
How can i convince him and his familY?

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:crying:
yahi to baat hy na ge
yahi to masla hy mera…kaya kia jay ab :(???

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so you haven't even finished your A-levels yet and you want to finish your degree before you get married. do all that first and then decide who's going to move where.

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So u r trying to say that i should 4get about all this NOW n when i have finished my education (After4yrs) Then i can alwaiz come back to this issuE?
But howz that goona help …everything will be same as i left off

Or maybe i misunderstood ur post :hmmm:

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Yes i want to finish my education b4 i geh married :)
Aray yaar koi solution batao k kaisy deal kero is situation k sath rather than saying k do all that first and then decide who's going to move where

A friend of mine finally caught cheating!
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Great advice given by some posters..

Seriously though, you should be concentrating on your studies, playing and having fun with your life. There's alot of growing up to be done before one is ready for marriage and in this day and age, very few teenagers are mature enough to handle the responsibilities, commitment and sacrifices involved.

You say you will be pursuing a pharmacy degree. Let me tell you girl, it's not an easy one and will need full-time commitment and dedication. By the time you finish you will be a different person, you may not agree with that right now but I can guarantee it! Your wants, ideals etc change and you willl not desire the samethings any longer. Think about this with your brain and not with your heart, easier said than done, I know but this is the time where your decisions matter the most.

They will either make or brake your future. The decision is yours. I pray that you make a wise one :)

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No. It won't be the same. You and your situation won't be the same in 5 years time. He and his situation won't be the same in 5 years time. The world won't be the same in 5 years time.

It's very easy to understand.

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i C wat u mean :)
well........thats an option aswell
thx 4 ur sincere advice

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I understand that its not an easy thing 2do..........its a career with many demands but i know that i posses the energy, determination and stamina to withstand these difficulties.

I agree that ppl DO change with time.......muj mai chai kesi b kisum ka change a jay but i will ALWAYS want him as my life partner because I LOVE HIM
I can't even imagine life without him.

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umm well i just read something from ur previous post... u said he doesnt want to leave his country because he was born there and grew up there etc. what would his reaction be if u issued him with an ultimatum? what would he do if u said to him u either choose ur beloved country or u choose me?

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The reason some posters are finding this difficult to advise on is because its not a practical situation.

You are only 18 years old and he is 23.

You havent even started your education yet and he is just getting done. Nothing will be the same by the time your education is over. The issue you are encountering really isnt an issue to most people because 4 year long engagements when the girl is only 18 dont make sense.

You might meet someone in college you like.

Your parents might find someone else they like.

He might fall in love with another girl in 4 years.

His parents might find someone in Pakistan that doesnt have to convince anyone to do anything.

Its 4 years...not 4 months or 4 days...there is too much uncertainty here. Getting involved with a guy sounds really romantic to our ears when we're 18 but practically living it is very different.

Focus on your studies right now, put marriage on hold and make that decision when someone actually asks you..."are you ready to get married now?".

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If things geh worse to worse (n em tawking about the worst scenario ere ) .....Then he would certainly chose me over his COUNTRY
BUT agar baat hy parents ki tu he WUD NEVA EVA leave his parents 4 the sake of any gal

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ok well u have recieved lots of advice from posters and it seems like ur just going round in circles now because everytime someone posts u say thank u but ask for more advice. really there is nothing u can right now because the time frame is so huge between engagement and marriage. u have 2 options either break it off with this guy or tell ur parents ur moving abroad because hes not changing his mind. end of story

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This will only happen if he doesn't agree 2 kum ere...........because i dun wanna transfer my course to pak i want to finish ma education in UK n then get married rather than both things at the same time

BUT if he agreez to come ere den it myt be a 2 or 3 yrs distance 2 our marraige because then i wont have any probelms as my family will be able to support me fully.............

Its my last yr in college n to b honest wid u so far jitnay b lerkay mai nay daikhay hy uk mai (Whether in college/skool or else where) they r useless :D
Sirf time pass kertay hy......... N i am totally against all this
(This is MY experince........By no means that every1 is same ere)

Meray parents nay mujay poori ijazut di hoi hy k i can chose a guy 4 myself
there are not against this BUT obviously he has to meet Mine+My famliez requirments
And Alhumdo-Lillah i have found sucha guy

I will kill him 4 dat :D

His parents did like sum1 for him but he said k He only loves me n will only get married 2me
And us k bad his parents neva said anything 2 him but yeah abi they r kinda putting pressure on him to ATLEAST get engaged with me because hez being approached for rishtaz (His tayya wants him to marry his daughter n dats y his dad is kinda putting pressure on him k angagment kerlo ta k hamari jaan to chotay na :D)

kesi ko bilawaja takleef kio do.........mai khood he bata daite ho na unhay :D

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Its very hard to make sucha decision :)
But u are right one day this story has to end i hope it will end ina gud way
Thanks newaiz :)

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I haven't read the previous posts...but my advice to you is to convince YOUR parents to allow you to move there...there are tons of ppl living in pakistan and they are surviving...so i'm sure you will be fine too Inshallah! And if you really love him and your parents really love you ....then you should find someway to make this work yaar! And if you can't then please just move on with your life...cause there really is no way this is gonna work...unless you want a long distance relationship for the rest of your life.....

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where were all these 18 yo girls when I was 23? :(

or may be MSN was not that advanced? Why do these cases pop up every 3nd day on GS? why? why? why?

ON Serious Note: Girl, get back to your studies and let him get settle. You have enough time on your hands to figure all this out later....

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Any update?

Being a girl, I can understand, girls can be serious even in long distance relationships so is ISHI88. But do you guys really think long distance dating can be a serious business which can lead to marriage? I mean, a girl and a guy got introduced on internet, they mite have also met 1-2 times with the agreement of their families, but can guys really be serious to any girl just over internet (after having a knowledge that they are compatible etc)? Marriages are common amongst colleagues/ class fellows coz guys meet and see the girls on a daily basis and this forms a strong connection. But can guys be emotional enough to miss a girl over chat, video chat etc, obviously after knowing that they can be a good match.

Do BOYS only get interested while having regular interaction/ meeting with girls through physical interaction or can they be REAL SERIOUS over internet too (I mean after seeing the girl physically for a few hours and talking to her over voice chat for a few hours which could had him feeling that the compatibility is present)?

Can BOYS become serious for long distance relationships? I know girls usually are very emotional... but can guys be emotional serious and sincere when in a long distance relationship where they do not get to meet the girl on a daily basis? The wait mite be because of any reason, the families taking time to decide on the marriage thing etc etc...

Can BOYS be serious enough to continue with the girl (just by being in touch through internet living far away from each other) despite the distance while waiting for things to sort out?

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I would say that he is 55year old fat uncle who is just playing with you. In Pakistan only fat old uncles can afford to buy a computer and pay internet bill.