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Saima - I am sorry to hear about your father. There are numerous hospitals in NJ that have charity for care for patients. The Hospital in Denville, NJ (St. Claires) is one of them.
Please call them and fill out the paperwork so that you can get some relief from medical bills.
Does walmart offer disability benefits?
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Can't believe some of you are falling for this.
Can't believe some of you are falling for this.
What makes you say so ? Did you check the information she posted ? Is all the information she provided false ?
Thanks for all the advice. Let me just make it clear that my father took an early retirement from the Army many years ago because he needed to take care of his ill father. after his retirement he started working as a marketing manager for a private company. Due to the fact that he asked for early retirement himself, he was not entitled for any benefits through pakistan Army. I have no reason to make up this stuff. As far as moving back to Paksiatn, it is not a wise dicision because he wouldn't have any job there and also the medical treatment that he now requires because of his injury and the physical therapy that he is getting here in this country is not possible back home. We are paying for his medical insurance etc. so he can atleast continue treatment. I have looked into social security disability, Medicaid, Medicare, Long term disability etc., but he is not eligible for any of it. He will get Medicaid after 2 years. Believe me I think at this point I know everything by heart. I have written to all the senators, assemblymen, governor of NJ and also to President Obama, requesting to make an exception to the Medicaid rule for him, but I have gotten a negative response from everywhere. I really appreciate everyone's time to read this post. Thank You
Saima, I am sorry to be nosy but something is not making sense here. Lets assume no time is lost in between, your dad is 65 now and he has been in the US for three years. That means he was 62 when he came here. According to your first post he had worked 25 years for the company. That means he joined the company when he was 37. That constitutes that he had taken early retirement as a major general when he was 37. When you say major general do you really mean General or Major? It's really amazing to know someone who is General at the age of 37. Secondly, a General (Major General) would not take an early retirement to take care of his ill father. Please clarify.
I would certainly help you once you clarify above mentioned things.
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Frist of all I apologize for using incorrect terminology. I meant to say Major not realizing the big difference between Major and Major General.
I am going to set up a paypal account for my dad tonight and will soon post the information. thanks that is a good idea I didn't think about. People who are considering helping financially, I just have to thank you for trusting my words. I don't blame the people who are skeptical about all this, unfortuantely despite the fact that we are muslims, there are people in this world who cheat other people and are scam masters and makes it difficult for people like me and my dad who deserve to be trusted and is entitled for all the help he can get. So like I said I dont blame some people in this forum who are suspicious about all this. but I do have to say one thing. I dont think anyone, or any child, man, or woman would make up such a horrible story about their father/mother for the money. I have so many things that I can provide as evidence for what I'm saying is true, I can even post pictures and videos, medical records of my father from the hospital, but I wont do all that, first of all because its going to break a lot of hearts, even though none of you probably know my father personally, but still its hard to see someone in this situation. Secondly I dont have to prove myself to anybody. Whoever can help, Allah will give you jaza, if for any reason you are not able to help financially, please pray for him. That is what he needs the most right now. Once again, I want to thank all my brothers and sisters who are taking time out to read this post. May Allah bless everyone and again I pray no one goes through what we are going through. I will post information about my father's paypal account tonight.
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njgal, as far as charity care, I know its available for emergency hospital stay, inpatient stay etc., (application is in process) but not for home health care and that is what he needs right now. A home health aid is charging anywhere from $13 to $15 an hour, and he needs atleast 6 to 8 hours a day. He aslo needs to get a wheelchair accessible minivan, because we cannot transfer him from a wheelchair into a regular car. All this is cost a lot of money, I wish charity care would help with all this but it doesn't.
Um.. I tried calling you and left a vm. We can start over the whole campaign to get you help while exhausting the resources that we know inside these institutions. Its never easy but its doable, I'm more than 100% sure.
I would love to help her as much as I can on a regular basis and get the word out in my social circle.
But to be 100% honest with you all, she sounds like a scam artist to me.
She is not consistent in the story. First off, 25 years in a pvt. company, then Major General in Pak. Army at the age of 40?
Well I may be wrong and she may be telling the truth but It would make a lot of positive difference if some one like you (SID_NY) can go and meet with the family and report back.
I am asking you because you live right next to them (if NY in your nick means New York).
Can't believe some of you are falling for this.
I am glad I am not the only one who has a hard time believing this story...
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I was skeptical initially then subsequent posts by Saima made me believe. Now this post# 25
above makes me skeptical again. Come on if you were born and raised in military family you would know there is a big difference between saying that your father was a major journal vs major.
The way she is defending her stance and the mistakes she made in the posts and they way she said that she has records to prove but she will not share them are all making me suspicious again.
May Allah forgive me if I am wrong in be suspicious but I am trying to do due diligence.
I agree with bitter_reality above , if someone from these forums could visit her and verify the story then it will help everybody to decide.
I was skeptical initially then subsequent posts by Saima made me believe. Now this post# 25 above makes me skeptical again. Come on if you were born and raised in military family you would know there is a big difference between saying that your father was a major journal vs major. The way she is defending her stance and the mistakes she made in the posts and they way she said that she has records to prove but she will not share them are all making me suspicious again. May Allah forgive me if I am wrong in be suspicious but I am trying to do due diligence. I agree with bitter_reality above , if someone from these forums could visit her and verify the story then it will help everybody to decide.
Glad I could help... and it's REALITY CHECK (RealityCheck) NOT bitter_reality...
Thanks
Frist of all I apologize for using incorrect terminology. I meant to say Major not realizing the big difference between Major and Major General.
As Mirch said, its hard to believe that an Army family child doesn't know the difference between Major and Major General...
I am going to set up a paypal account for my dad tonight and will soon post the information.
We Pakistani Muslims may be very emotional and soft hearted people but trust me we are not stupid to put our hard earned money on some scam artist's bank account without verifying the story.
I just have to thank you for trusting my words.
You don't have to thank because most are not trusting.
I dont think anyone, or any child, man, or woman would make up such a horrible story about their father/mother for the money.
People are capable of doing worst then this in today's world, this is nothing.
I have so many things that I can provide as evidence for what I'm saying is true, I can even post pictures and videos, medical records of my father from the hospital, but I wont do all that, first of all because its going to break a lot of hearts, even though none of you probably know my father personally, but still its hard to see someone in this situation. Secondly I dont have to prove myself to anybody.
I don't understand your reasoning for not sharing this information. And in this situation, Yes you do have to prove yourself to people who are willing to help you financially.
Regards
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I really dont know what to say about all of this. Anyone who wants to come see my father, I will be happy to give you his address. His next physical therapy appointment is on this Friday at Kessler Rehab. I will be taking some pictures and try to put a video together (I am not sure if we can upload videos on here) but I will try to post those. Meanwhile please feel free to call NYU Hospital where my dad was from October 2008 to February 2009 at RUSK Institute of Rehab and their number is: (212) 263-6037. His Rehab doctor over there was Dr. Jung Ahn and his number is (212) 263-6122. I will try to post whatever I can in the meantime. Please pray for him if you cannot help financially. Praying doesn't cost anything and even if you feel I am a scam artist, praying cannot hurt any body. We are having prayers for him after every Jummah Prayers in the mosque close to our house. Please do that much for him, being a fellow Muslim. Thanks
this may seem like a harsh thing to say but you cant expect people to cough up money like that on the internet. Most of us have seen con artists speak in the masjid after Jummah about their mishaps and collect money. I'm not calling you a con artist or anything, if indeed some thing this horrible has happened to you then it's very heartbreaking. But you gotta understand our point of view, as well, transferring money just like that into your paypal account doesn't make any sense. And how does anyone verify this info? by calling the number your posted? sorry ma'am.
what I would suggest like some one else have before, try contacting your local masjid, people in your neighborhood will be aware of your critical situation and wont doubt you. Try talking to the imaam masjid, let him know what's going on so he can talk to the namazies for donation and other imaams so they can spread the word from one masjid to another. Trust me I've seen Pakistani community put together thousands of dollars to help out another in need, you wont be left alone like that. Best of luck and my prayers go out to your family.
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Gohan, thanks for your advice.
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I understand the skepticism here...but there is no need to be rude.
I am really sorry to hear about your father but its probably not a good idea to be doing this over the internet, there are a lot of scams out there today and you might be classified as one. Like someone else already said, find a local mosque or charity. Islamic releif in your area?
Glad I could help... and it's REALITY CHECK (RealityCheck) NOT bitter_reality...
Thanks
Sorry for the mixup. :o
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Saima , forgive our skepticism at your plight.
People do donate over the internet and using the paypal. I have donated man a times at some authentic Islamic websites.
Here on GS a very respected and honorable member opened thread for financial help of someone in need in Pakistan and people responded.
So it is not impossible to go this route and seek donations.
I would suggest you contact one of the old guppies here who are known and respected and live in your area for example SID_NY if she can verify your information here on these forums , you might be able to get some donations.
Ok I was able to dig that thread out. See the response in the thread .
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/all-views/280253-appeal-donations-matter-life-death.html?highlight=donation
I spoke to Saima on phone. I understand some of you being suspicious of her due to all the past experiences. It happens a lot in this world so yes, its your right to make sure that the person whom you are going to trust is really trustworthy.
I may visit her/her parents in next few days and will surely let you all know how it goes. I've given some pieces of advice to Saima as how show can proceed with her father's betterment. In a nutshell, she'll have to contact Govt resources first and then the charity resources instead of going to general public directly.
And to Saima: You should understand that people here are ready to help but ofcourse you have to clear their doubts without thinking bad about it. If you reverse the roles and think, you'll be most probably doing the same thing so consider it very normal.
It will be much better if you post more factual details about your father, his treatment and the doctors/hospitals you are in contact with. Stay in touch.
I spoke to Saima on phone. I understand some of you being suspicious of her due to all the past experiences. It happens a lot in this world so yes, its your right to make sure that the person whom you are going to trust is really trustworthy.
I may visit her/her parents in next few days and will surely let you all know how it goes. I've given some pieces of advice to Saima as how show can proceed with her father's betterment. In a nutshell, she'll have to contact Govt resources first and then the charity resources instead of going to general public directly.
And to Saima: You should understand that people here are ready to help but ofcourse you have to clear their doubts without thinking bad about it. If you reverse the roles and think, you'll be most probably doing the same thing so consider it very normal.
It will be much better if you post more factual details about your father, his treatment and the doctors/hospitals you are in contact with. Stay in touch.
Thank you SID_NY for taking the time to help Saima and all of us out. May Allah reward you highly for this. Ameen.