Please help me.

[newbee13]

Re: Please help me.

@moonlight786

I completely agree with RV. Op, get hold of your emotions, you don’t want to hurt anyone, cant think of leaving your fiance, you mention he drunk once and then stopped, why are you even re-calling all this back if you are not evaluating your entire relationship with your fiance. & no i am not judging you…i am shocked to read your story !
Your confused and really not ready to get married, its a life long commitment. If you were, period, you wont be cheating your fiance, yes i call it cheating. Talking to your ex without your fiance knowing moreover meeting him be it only for 5 mins, it isn’t justifiable.

Dont you have self-respect, how can you compromise with it? talking to his bhabhi..i mean was she dead when you guys broke up, just because his devar all of sudden realised that he isn’t over you as yet and cant think of life with out you - crap ! utter crap !! she is trying to put “his” kind of “sense” into you re-think the realtionship you share with your fiance.

Don’t do that to yourself, not so long ago i was in similar situation you can say. But i was single and my ex was married but wanted to get back with the support of his mother by divorcing his wife. & posted my story here & few of the gser’s really gave me good input. I never looked back, too many red flags with a life full of hurdles. It just wasn’t worth it. you need details, check my post history. Now after an year, i am nikkafied and very happy ma sha Allah se

Cut all kind of contact’s with your ex. & get yourself busy in planning your future/wedding with your fiance. Sorry if you feel i was intruding much in giving advise, Its just i dont want you to do the mistake which i kept myself away from cuz at the end with time, you will realise what you did was right & better for you. Good luck !!

I please don’t say the ‘C’ word. I know what ive done comes under that… but sometimes when you’re in a situation you do not realize. I did not cross any limit with my ex. but yes you are right.. I find too many things in life are not justifiable.. however they do teach us great lessons..

I did not start the talk with bhabhi. she messaged me and spoke regarding normal things a few times,.. then a month back she said shes so glad we broke up.. and then all of a sudden she turned 360* and told me hes serious and blah. she also started her own story that I should not tell anyone but she liked someone and he came back to her before her nikkah and she regrets it every day that she didn’t go back to him..

im so glad you are happy and you found the right person I have left my ex for good and I hope that it is the best decision.. I have left everything in Allahs hands. thankyou so much