Re: Maid issue
Ummmm..some people need to stop hating on the woman if she wants to hire a maid.
Also, islamically it's her right.
"A woman thus has the right to continue living the kind of life she had before the marriage; if she lived a life of luxury than she should not be expected to marry a street-sweeper.
Islam says that it is the responsibility of the man to hire a wet- nurse and even a maid. The mistress of the house is not forced to do the daily housekeeping, as the children are her sole responsibility; the rest is done by the servants. Islam says that it is the man who pays"
You know, you need to listen to Mabrook.
The best way to deal with such in-laws is to pull yourself back a bit.Slowly decrease the amount of work you do around the house, but don't make it obvious. If you're going to be running around trying to do everything and getting it all done, they obviously would'nt see the need for a maid.
Start spending more time in your room, and if theyre knocking down the doors, ignore, and say, oh I was in the wash-room, or if your praying, delay the time you spend by yourself, focus on your son.
Always keep smiling, don't let it show how much the situation bothers you, go to your parents , enjoy, and always act as if nothing has happened.
Try to keep your hubby close to you, some men can turn a blind-eye to what their wife is going through, but keep him on your side.
Good luck, just know that this shall pass too, keep regular with your prayers, and you'll get the reward for sabr i'A.