my life has been very messy past few months, I wrote regarding it a long time back when my fiancé had alcohol .. thankfully the issue is resolved and he will not ddrink and it has not been repeated. however during my tough times when I was upset with my fiancé my ex boyfriend who I was friends with contacted me.. I discussed the issue with him and we spoke on text only for a few days… I felt it was wrong to speak to him on texts even so I told him its goodbye and never contact again.. and I moved on.. my issues resolved and we were very happy..
and then my ex contacted me again and told me that we can just talk as friends.. as our dating period was of barely 7 months and consisted of us fighting. we were always better friends .. I also don’t have many friends so we spoke on texts occasionally on simple daily life matters.. anyway.. last week a mutual friend was over and I went to meet her where he came for a little while.. we were totally causal and then went home.. ever since then he has started acting crazy. he wants to propose to me now ( im getting married in few months ) he told me that he cant move on and he has not moved on in 6 years.. he has not liked any girl or gotten serious.. and I should think over it..
I really cared for him and what he said took me in deep shock as I was not expecting this.. his bhabhi also spoke to me regarding this and told me that shes never seen him this serious in life he wants to look for a job and propose to u.. and she also told me that ill never forget him because hes a part of my past. all this really made me upset as my ive been with my fiancé for almost 6 years now MA and how can I live with breaking my fiancés heart? a man who has always stood beside me…
ive been extremely upset and have been crying and praying to Allah for guidance. saying bye to my ex bothers me a tiny bit. (not too much) but somehow I feel ill miss him.
kindly advise me what to do.. as few friends have told me that I only spoke to my ex due to fear of getting married.. as I probably am not ready to get married.. thank you.. please refrain from judging me.. you don’t know my journey and difficulties I have endured. this is just a tiny summary. thankyou.
No we cannot refrain from judging you. Get over this foolishness and end any contact with your ex. He is a bad news for you. You are going to ruin everything if your finance found out about this crazy guy.
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Agree with TLK.! Grow up woman and leave the ex behind.! Hes an EX for a reason
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is there any reason why I should be second guessing my fiancé? :( im sorry im foolish but im so upset I cant think straight.
all the talk about hearting his heart would bite me (he too broke my heart)
also.. what are the things to consider when getting married? in a guy.
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Sorry to say, but it doesn’t sound like you should be marrying anyone right now…you have a lot of growing up to do 
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I understand im immature. but maybe knock some sense into me?
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he wants to get back to you for a reason...it's so obvious and i wonder why you can't see it yourself!
ex ko ex-communicate kar deN...isii meN aapkii bhalaaii hai!
Decide what u want And Pray everything will be much easier:k:
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he wants to get back to you for a reason...it's so obvious and i wonder why you can't see it yourself!
ex ko ex-communicate kar deN...isii meN aapkii bhalaaii hai!
back because he likes me and wants me ??
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Forget about your ex.... otherwise you will end up doing the same thing to your fiancé which your ex did to you ......
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thank u shonali that's what im doing :)
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Wait a minute.....why are you even contemplating the possibility of how you would live with yourself if you were to break your fiance's heart? If you truly care for him, why is this doubt even occurring to you?
He hadn't moved on these past 6 years eh? Well, then why didn't he come after you earlier.....at a point when your relationship with you fiance hadn't solidified. If he missed you that bad, he would have done something sooner....not 6 years later when you are only months away from getting married. He has no respect for another man's relationship and gas no qualms about destroying it, so doesn't that make you question if he can honor a relationship with you? This sort of "headiness" or "passion/junoon" tends to be short-lived....it fizzles out as fast as it started.
His bhabi made some stupid bollyoodish comment that you'll never forget him because he's a part of your past......so what? We don't "forget" anything in our past that impacted us....and it's not just confined to ex boyfriends....it includes many things; that's just the way human memory works. With time, things can decrease in significance. Your ex was a part of your past, but you moved on from him enough to have a 6-year relationship with another guy....and this is a sign that ex's "yaad" didn't plague you to the point his bhabi is suggesting or would like you to believe.
And even if you were to go back to your ex, there's a chance he might become insecure about your 6-year-relationship with your fiance....as in bring it up during conflicts or other points. That's one of the twisted things about human psyche. Your ex's disregard for another guy's relationship can say something about his character and should make you question it....but women tend to be more forgiving and will overlook.....but men don't overlook do easily. If you dump your fiance of 6 years for this ex......it also raises questions about your character....one that your ex may not entertain right away, but maybe at a later point when the headiness wears off.
Maybe you find the "newness" of the attention from your ex exciting and want that from your fiance...and that's why you're having doubts. I don't recommend going back to the ex, but I also feel bad for the fiance.....it's not fair to him if he's 100% committed.
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Forget about your ex.... otherwise you will end up doing the same thing to your fiancé which your ex did to you ......
yes the guilt of hurting him kills me.. :( I hate that others cloud my judgement so easily.. its unfair.
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back because he likes me and wants me ??
i think girls like to believe what seems to be far-fetched.
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^ it seems
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i think girls like to believe what seems to be far-fetched.
then what do u think hes after?
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then what do u think hes after?
jaan deo jii...maiN noo naii Dasnaa :)
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Wait a minute.....why are you even contemplating the possibility of how you would live with yourself if you were to break your fiance's heart? If you truly care for him, why is this doubt even occurring to you?
He hadn't moved on these past 6 years eh? Well, then why didn't he come after you earlier.....at a point when your relationship with you fiance hadn't solidified. If he missed you that bad, he would have done something sooner....not 6 years later when you are only months away from getting married. He has no respect for another man's relationship and gas no qualms about destroying it, so doesn't that make you question if he can honor a relationship with you? This sort of "headiness" or "passion/junoon" tends to be short-lived....it fizzles out as fast as it started.
His bhabi made some stupid bollyoodish comment that you'll never forget him because he's a part of your past......so what? We don't "forget" anything in our past that impacted us....and it's not just confined to ex boyfriends....it includes many things; that's just the way human memory works. With time, things can decrease in significance. Your ex was a part of your past, but you moved on from him enough to have a 6-year relationship with another guy....and this is a sign that ex's "yaad" didn't plague you to the point his bhabi is suggesting or would like you to believe.
And even if you were to go back to your ex, there's a chance he might become insecure about your 6-year-relationship with your fiance....as in bring it up during conflicts or other points. That's one of the twisted things about human psyche. Your ex's disregard for another guy's relationship can say something about his character and should make you question it....but women tend to be more forgiving and will overlook.....but men don't overlook do easily. If you dump your fiance of 6 years for this ex......it also raises questions about your character....one that your ex may not entertain right away, but maybe at a later point when the headiness wears off.
Maybe you find the "newness" of the attention from your ex exciting and want that from your fiance...and that's why you're having doubts. I don't recommend going back to the ex, but I also feel bad for the fiance.....it's not fair to him if he's 100% committed.
Wait a minute.....why are you even contemplating the possibility of how you would live with yourself if you were to break your fiance's heart? If you truly care for him, why is this doubt even occurring to you?
He hadn't moved on these past 6 years eh? Well, then why didn't he come after you earlier.....at a point when your relationship with you fiance hadn't solidified. If he missed you that bad, he would have done something sooner....not 6 years later when you are only months away from getting married. He has no respect for another man's relationship and gas no qualms about destroying it, so doesn't that make you question if he can honor a relationship with you? This sort of "headiness" or "passion/junoon" tends to be short-lived....it fizzles out as fast as it started.
His bhabi made some stupid bollyoodish comment that you'll never forget him because he's a part of your past......so what? We don't "forget" anything in our past that impacted us....and it's not just confined to ex boyfriends....it includes many things; that's just the way human memory works. With time, things can decrease in significance. Your ex was a part of your past, but you moved on from him enough to have a 6-year relationship with another guy....and this is a sign that ex's "yaad" didn't plague you to the point his bhabi is suggesting or would like you to believe.
And even if you were to go back to your ex, there's a chance he might become insecure about your 6-year-relationship with your fiance....as in bring it up during conflicts or other points. That's one of the twisted things about human psyche. Your ex's disregard for another guy's relationship can say something about his character and should make you question it....but women tend to be more forgiving and will overlook.....but men don't overlook do easily. If you dump your fiance of 6 years for this ex......it also raises questions about your character....one that your ex may not entertain right away, but maybe at a later point when the headiness wears off.
Maybe you find the "newness" of the attention from your ex exciting and want that from your fiance...and that's why you're having doubts. I don't recommend going back to the ex, but I also feel bad for the fiance.....it's not fair to him if he's 100% committed.
No im not thinking about leaving him, I probably can never do that.. however all the stress that's been given to me... I started to think over IF I should. IF im making a mistake.. (mistake because I have made a lot of mistakes in life.. so I don't trust myself :( )
2 months after we broke up, my ex came after me. I told him I don't want to be with him as he never cared for me apart from the starting three months. he would ignore me for hours, give everyone priority apart from me, even his mother told him I was 'TIDDI' as im short so when I left him I never considered going back to him.. I don't know why when he texted me I forgave him and forgot all the pain.
as I told u im very emotional.. so what his bhabhi said.. somehow it made me feel that it would really be like this. :s kind of loss the ability to think clearly..
ive never thought of leaving my fiancé on a serious note so I didn't think of my past disturbing my ex.. but im sure I cant forget my fiancé ever in my life. I spent happy six years of my life with him. he has cared a lot for him and I also feel so bad for what ive done to him... but I never meant to hurt him.. humans make too many mistakes and realize in end.. he just manipulated me so badly into guilt.
sadly ill have to agree to you about the newness and the attention.. I get a lot of attention and my fiancé thinks im beautiful.. but theres a thing about new attention.. I probably liked it.. (when i initially started talkin to ex my fiancé was too busy in studies and job.. he gave me no time and i was lonely.. however this changed.) I know my fiancé is fully committed to me and wants to marry me :)
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Khalil khan: please? :)
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then what do u think hes after?
What kkf is so sharmaa'ingly implying is that the ex wants to get laid. And that his bhabi (unwittingly) is helping him score. Aren't bhabis the sweetest?