hey guys im back........ just wanted to let you know about whats been goin on..... i did do istikhara and at first i didn't have a dream, sign or a feeling........ so i did it again and i got a feeling and it wasn't good.......
I am not too sure what this 'istikhara' is (I had never heard of it before joining GS), but maybe the 'not so good' feeling is for the arranged dude?
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long story short i know what to do now........ Allah mian showed me a way and i am gona take it..... if Allah mian doesn't want me getting married to the guy i love, i don't have a problem....
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Allah mian is supreme, and he has given us the ability to think for a reason. I think Allah mian would want you to marry the guy you love. This is why Allah mian just didnt create zombies, he sent men and women in this world with grey matter.
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and its because i know that Allah mian does things for us that we can benefit from and He wants us to be happy...... I am not gona question Allah about anything because i trust Allah and because we have no right to! ever since i did istikhara and left everything on Allah mian i feel much better! the only way i can get over the guy i love is by not thinking about him its gona be hard but i have to do what's right for me! Everything happens for a reason and i truly believe that......... if Allah didn't want me getting married to him then there has to be a reason........
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Again, this just sounds like a verbose self assurance, to deal with the reality you are facing. Remember in such a scenario if things don't work out well (I hope that's not the case), I hope you don't blame Allah mian for that.
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i also recently found out that the guy i like drinks alcohol.... im not sure if he's an alcoholic or if he just drinks occasionally but i am not gona take a chance and get screwed! i cherish all the moments we had and i respect him and love him for everything he did for me and i wont forget that he was my first and only love.....but..... now i have to start a new life and thats not gona be easy either so i have to pray and pray and prayyy........ and hopefully Inshallah everything is gona turn out the way it's suppose to....... i know a lot of you guys said to do what i feel like and just marry him........ you guys weren't wrong and i respect your thoughts and suggestions but now that Allah mian showed me a way i have to take it.............
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Ok thats a good reason to ditch the guy, but make sure the 2nd guy does not have any serious character/personality flaws either, because that would be unfair to the first guy.
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what if i get an awsome husband that i would totally fall for? that be nice.......
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What if...
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ive made my decision and its all because of Allah mian and im happy with it...... and its also with the help of all of you thank you sooooo much guys....... honestly you guys helped me out a lot....... just think what if Allah mian brought me here for a reason and it was so you guys could help me which you did....... and thx straight_up for the video you posted it really helped me!
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You should just say you made the decision on your own, because like every other decision it may or may not be the right one.
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I am gona start all over again and i just need all of you guys to pray that i can have a healthy, wonderful, happy, loving and a successful life and relationship with my future husband!
i will update you guys with everything that's gona happen!!
thx guyyzzzz!!!!!!!! XOXOXOXO!!!!!
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I wish you all the best, though I disagree with the way you are approaching things.