Hello all.
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ufff…
excuse my rudeness in this reply…
it’s just dat dis is another case of 'man thinking for a change…but yet again…thinking wid his dik!..i mean cmon!!! dis pisses me off big time…
**he has sed 2 his wife dat she wud b doin a gud deed in Islam?..but yet he does not practise Islam?..iss baat pay ‘to marry another woman’ usko Islam yaad aya? Lahol parni chaheeye esay logon pay and den spit on em **
‘aaggtttoogghhh’ (spitting sound!).
ppl like these are da scums of da earth…
i hope ur cousin is doing ok now…she deserves much betta dan such a loser!..
she shud eat keep her health…dis aint da en of da world…many ind/pak women tend to think dat…and live their lives in misery…not gud!..who cares wot others think or say…she knows what she is going thru…
he is just nasty!..
i m so pissed off man!..
she shud just think abt herself and her kids…if he wants to go…let him…
but do not agree in having the second wife thing and talk you into the emotional u wud b doing a gud deed in Islam.
I was feeling sick b4 and was gettin betta…now…i’m feelin so dam sick again!
…Bless your cousin and her kids. May Allah Talah give them strength and aql to dat lame excuse for a man.
How’s da situation now btw? I wish ur cousin all da best. My prayers are with her and her kids.
FAsanti.
In Pakistan women are double in number then men .............. so ,Do you think they should live alone all their life ?
what catastrophe happened on the male gender in pakistan that they are 50%, male child infanticide?
please get your numbers right.
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oops, YP already schooled ppl on this :D
He can get married Islamically ( Nikah ) only and as long as he doesn't register with the kafirs law.
he can get his ass out of the kafir country then. he has to follow the laws of the land he is living in.
even if some punk get married 'islamically' and authorities find out, he goes to the slammer.
secondly, islam says equal rights does it not, and if she is not 'legally' his wife, she has zero rights, and well thats not the same as equal rights between wives, so he cant do it islamically either..oops.
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okey my take on this is that the husband didnt give any logical reasons for why he want to marry this other women, besides feelign attractiong for her which is many a time a fleeting impulse. He dont seem to have any problem with his wife and have 3 kids, too.
So, I fail to understand why he want to disturb a smooth peaceful life just because this women has caught his fancy.
Does he know that he'll have to maintain two families which is getting harder these days and which is not an easy task. Maybe he only remembered the right of taking a 2nd wife but forget that rights and responsibilities go hand in hand. Does he feel he would be able to do justice to both his wives? Will it be fair to his wife who hasn't done anything to deserve a 'sautan'? Perhaps he should take some time out and not talk to her for a while and think about this matter rationally. Once his ardour for 2nd women cools down, he might regret getting into a second marriage.
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Tell your cousin to drug her husband with hormones that kill sex-drive, wait a couple of days/weeks to kick in, if he still feels like marrying the other woman then its prob not for the sex, in which case she should drug the other woman with male hormones like testosterone to make her hairy/manly. If that doesn't work, tell her to pull a Britney Spears with the head shaving and all, should divert his attention to her more...
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Omg !!! this makes me soo angry!!! .youre cousin is right . he has to chose between her or the other girl.
can he give her her 14 years back ?? No he cant do that .
Plus can a divorced Pakistani woman with children go out and marry again ?? Highly unlikely .
So obviously he dosnt love her when he "accidenlty" fell in love again. What if your cousin did that to him ? She should sue him for every penny he owns.literally.She gave him the best years of life and he falls in love with someone else ??? HE CANT GIVE THEM BOTH THE SAME LOVE AND TIME AND ATTENTION.impossible.
i feel bad for youre cousin
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That or sue his ass and make him regret he had ever wven thought of marryign sumone else.
A husband/wife cannot be shared. Full stop.
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This is not true that such a man loves you...does he understands teh meanings of love, and after marrige it is a responisbility and not love. So first of all he never love dyou or his love died long ago thats why he fell in love and if anybody could go and ask that second woman you will get to know what he has been saying to her and in such cases men usually say they could not get the love they always dreamed of and got married by choice of family and continued with that, got kids and all but he was still waiting for that love in life and after i met you i realized what love is bla bla....So no one should be joked by such a man he is trying to use LOVE to maniplulate both women and infact it is all his lust for some new charm and fun in his boring life.
If you in any western countrym, let him do this and then teach him a lesson for life by putting charges of bigamy, child support, spousal support and just ruin his life as he has been insensetive and irresponisble towards FOUR human beings actaully FIVE only for his own lusty wishes.
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my cousin husband does listen he still talks to this sikhny and my cousin is still living with him she says he dont listen and that woman can never come over unless he leaves and divorce her which he doesnt want to do so her husband admits he only talks to her on the phone now and then so my cousin feels sorry for him and she doesnt bother him anymore infact she says life is much easier now his not hiding anything, but it is a waiting game really what if that sikhni comes back to this country my cousin say then she will see what happens then if he will marry her she will defnetly leave him for good at the moment he only talks to her.
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This is madness.
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- A man cannot marry another women without the permission of first wife.
- I dont know any women who would agree to share her husband unless there r certain circumstances where she is majboor.
- that case the husband is commiting sin becuz first wife was never ok with the marriage.
i feel so horrible for. may Allah help her in this difficult time . that man is a jerk and the sikni has no moral character obviously.
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Tell ur cousin to tell her husband...That she (ur cousin) has fallen in love with another man, he is a sikh, nd she has fallen in love with him, she didnt mean it but it happendd, the sikh guy is ready to convert to islam and she (ur cousin) will giv same rights to both husbands......
And tell me after what happens when she tells him this....Ask ur cousin how her husband reacts to this situation!
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is the husband mentally retarded????????
so he loves his wife AND has kids soooo why does he want to marry again??????
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Sana, your cousin needs to listen to me..... She should follow my advice.... Please tell her to divorce her husband.. Please... He is continuing flirting with this girl on the phone... Things are not gonna get better in future . The damaged is done... You know I really hate how we Pakistani women, including myself- ONCE I WAS LIKE THAT, are so dependent on boys that we make our lives miserable. Tell her to concentrate on herself. Do the things that she wants to do in life. Her husband is gonna keep running after other women and he is not a good husband. HE'S A LOSER... Time will make heal her heart the broken heart. Trust me.. I am experienced.... Tell your cousin to love herself more than the LOSER.... She needs to take a divorce so HE can have guilt on his heart forever... I know it will hard at first because ur cousin loves him but time will heal ur heart. It is not end of the world.. she needs to keep herself bz..... JUST DO THINGS SHE WANTS TO DO.. within 6months, she will be perfectly happy..... Ur cousin's love is spoiling this man. She is an idiot.. WE NEED TO BE INDEPENDENT... After she gets the divorce, think about her future with the kids and how she can do everything she wanted to do in life.... This man is worthless. Please teach him a lesson... I feel bad how PAKI women always sacrifice their happiness caz of emotions... Tell her to put aside her emotions for her husband and live her life.... He fell in love with this ***** caz he wanted too.... ur cousin will not be able to trust him again. PLEASE LEAVE THIS ASSHOLE.. TELL UR COUSIN THAT.. SHE NEEDS TO BECOME AND INDEPENDENT GIRL AND put her emotions away.. BE REAL!.. NOW I AM INDEPENDENT GIRL.. I DONT NEED A GUY IN MY LIFE.. M GONNA MAKE A POSITION IN THIS WORLD.