Nadz.. if you just wanted to share this view to backup your last thread, why make a new one? why not share it in the same thread? I am sure people would have responded there as well. Secondly, when one wants to prove something, one is asked for evidence. You said you read it in non-electronic, if you really wanted to prove your point, you could have found it online or perhaps at least shared the right date and name of article so interested people could find it themselves if you didnt have time na? Beside I thought you said you had done Law, if so, proving your point with evidence should be in your genes now :) Thirdly Nadz, one doesnt need to name other people to put them down or be judgemental. I am not going to qoute you now, but like you said, you dont need to say "Sweetmoi is a bad mother" exactly, you can say it in other words as well, like you are saying here, that people who put their kids in other rooms, only do it for sex, really nadz are we being that immature now? :) Chill okay.
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Everything gora/gori is wrong. Only desi nanni and daadi knows best. All the daqyanossi tales are all true. Follow them till the day you die. God forbid you let your kid develop a personality...
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I think 1 year old is perfect for moving into their own room. For god's sake, it teaches a child to be independant. I would NOT like my 2+ year old sleeping with us in our room. I know people who have 4 year olds in with them, that's just too clingy for me.
Get a sensor monitor, they monitor breathing and movement of your child so you would never ignore something such as a fit etc. Technology is very advanced nowadays Nadz, it's not as if your with your child every time they are napping and i'm sure they have an earlier bedtime than you so of course they will be left alone at some point anyway regardless of if they sleep in your room or not. Parents need to get smarter, seriously dunno what all the fuss is about. Spend a bit of extra money and save yourself the worry.
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okkkkkkkkkk who said sharing room with sisters...?Im talking about one small infant, not a 15 year old teenage
anyway i guess if these children stay out late and dont want to spend time wth their parents when their older because of their independency i guess these parents will be pleased..............AND YESSSS i know kids who are also independent who have been slping with parents in same room, yes yes yes i know. but im making the independency point here, no one is talking about smothering your child untiltheir adults..
Nadz do you SERIOUSLY have a degree? How can you correlate a child sleeping in the same room as their parents to how they will behave as an adult in such a negative manner! LOL You have been born and brought up in the UK but sometimes you come out with such typical paindoo backward comments LMAO!
My child will behave how I inshAllah teach him or her to behave and what morals and ethics I promote in my house thank you very much. Please don't be so patronising.
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Nadz do you SERIOUSLY have a degree? How can you correlate a child sleeping in the same room as their parents to how they will behave as an adult in such a negative manner! LOL You have been born and brought up in the UK but sometimes you come out with such typical paindoo backward comments LMAO!
My child will behave how I inshAllah teach him or her to behave and what morals and ethics I promote in my house thank you very much. Please don't be so patronising.
are you blind. seriously.
did you not read what my reply was in response to.
someone said that if baby sleeps early on, itl be easier for later life. she mentioned that someone she knows has a 4yr old that slept in the same room as her, and now wont move into his own room, i gave her the other side. where my own neices and nephews happily went into their own rooms even though they slept in their parents room until they were 5.
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I think 1 year old is perfect for moving into their own room. For god's sake, it teaches a child to be independant. I would NOT like my 2+ year old sleeping with us in our room. I know people who have 4 year olds in with them, that's just too clingy for me.
Get a sensor monitor, they monitor breathing and movement of your child so you would never ignore something such as a fit etc. Technology is very advanced nowadays Nadz, it's not as if your with your child every time they are napping and i'm sure they have an earlier bedtime than you so of course they will be left alone at some point anyway regardless of if they sleep in your room or not. Parents need to get smarter, seriously dunno what all the fuss is about. Spend a bit of extra money and save yourself the worry.
spend some money and not worry? wow answer to all the problems in the world.
anyway, you think people who keep their kids in their rooms over 2years are stingy and dont spend their money? whose patronising now...
Nadz.. if you just wanted to share this view to backup your last thread, why make a new one? why not share it in the same thread? I am sure people would have responded there as well. Secondly, when one wants to prove something, one is asked for evidence. You said you read it in non-electronic, if you really wanted to prove your point, you could have found it online or perhaps at least shared the right date and name of article so interested people could find it themselves if you didnt have time na? Beside I thought you said you had done Law, if so, proving your point with evidence should be in your genes now :) Thirdly Nadz, one doesnt need to name other people to put them down or be judgemental. I am not going to qoute you now, but like you said, you dont need to say "Sweetmoi is a bad mother" exactly, you can say it in other words as well, like you are saying here, that people who put their kids in other rooms, only do it for sex, really nadz are we being that immature now? :) Chill okay.
firstly i wasnt trying to PROVEEEE, i was merely sharing an article that i liked. and understood. i didnt need to prove it as we all know that these things DO HAPPEN and sometimes with tragic conqs. secondly, its in the wednesday or thursday real life section in the DAILY MIRROR...someone can go check....i felt patronised that i had to link it JUST SO PEOPLE WILL BELIEVE ME, i couldnt car eless if you guys didnt to be honest.
thirdly, im calm. seriously. do people really commit suicide just because of some cyber forum people....?
Fourthly....
reason i used sex...was because all replies people said we cannot be intimate if kids are in room...this seemed to be the only and most common reply...with independency ( im surprised these 2 year olds dont go to work full time already!) as a second reason....so thats why.
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Amusing thread.
Btw, I can understand if the new mothers are so overwhelmed with their newborn hence physically want to maintain a closer proximity, in terms of having bassinet in the same room, but having a child sleep with you till the age of 2-5 is pretty funny, unless there are financial reasons to consider.
firstly i wasnt trying to PROVEEEE, i was merely sharing an article that i liked. and understood. i didnt need to prove it as we all know that these things DO HAPPEN and sometimes with tragic conqs. secondly, its in the wednesday or thursday real life section in the DAILY MIRROR...someone can go check....i felt patronised that i had to link it JUST SO PEOPLE WILL BELIEVE ME, i couldnt car eless if you guys didnt to be honest.
thirdly, im calm. seriously. do people really commit suicide just because of some cyber forum people....?
Fourthly....
reason i used sex...was because all replies people said we cannot be intimate if kids are in room...this seemed to be the only and most common reply...with independency ( im surprised these 2 year olds dont go to work full time already!) as a second reason....so thats why.
oh the fun......happy 2011
Again, I will just ask you to be calm. You seem to loose all your patience very quickly.
You feel patronised, because you're asked to prove what you're saying? Again, I will ask, have u really done Law? Whats there to be patronised about? .. You are patronised about this simple thing, yet you dont understand why people are feeling you're being judgemental, when you label their parenting, one of the most sensitive issues, as being wrong. Seriously?
You mentioned the sex as a reason and so did I. Did you even read the context I mentioned it in? Do you think you need to defend that?
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^I suppose it is not my place to psychoanalyze nadz, but I do feel (as i said in my earlier post quoted below) these illogical and passionate declarations are made out of a feeling of defensiveness, as if her own competence and knowledge as a parent have been challenged. So what if you can't or haven't provided a separate room for your child, nadz? That doesn't make you a bad or negligent parent. And giving your child a separate room does not make you a careless or negligent one either.
And as I said before, these kinds of unsupported and offensive comments will only lead to you annoying people who could be great resources for you. But that is your choice.
Just rereading your initial post makes me wonder if the strong feeling you have about this is a little bit defensive. Like you're talking to all these people who feel it is a matter of fact that you must provide a separate room for your child. And for whatever reason, if you did not feel it was necessary, did not plan ahead for it, or just didn't have the means to provide it, you go the opposite way and insist that what they are doing is WRONG (not just different, but WRONG).
If this is even partially true, just remember to be aware of these kinds of feelings, and know that a good parent is not defined by the THINGS s/he gives, but by the love, guidance, and wisdom s/he provides. People are at different stages in their lives and in their relationships, and that affects their approaches as parents. Don't let it get to you. But also don't let it sour you toward different ideas and methods.
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^I suppose it is not my place to psychoanalyze nadz, but I do feel (as i said in my earlier post quoted below) these illogical and passionate declarations are made out of a feeling of defensiveness, as if her own competence and knowledge as a parent have been challenged. So what if you can't or haven't provided a separate room for your child, nadz? That doesn't make you a bad or negligent parent. And giving your child a separate room does not make you a careless or negligent one either.
And as I said before, these kinds of unsupported and offensive comments will only lead to you annoying people who could be great resources for you. But that is your choice.
i wish i had the 2 fingr salute as an icon to show here. as well as some sort of laughing out loud one. unfort my smilys dont seem to work. and your right, your not qualified to analysis anyone. AND i can provide a room if i so wish for my child. i wish not to. didnt you get this point from my threads.
