parents who put their newborns to slp in another room is WRONG.

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i hear so many GOREY saying they made a nursery for their expected arrivals…i always say to them that the kid should be with u in the first few months, hell, first few years…they always look at me amazed…

i find it wrong to be honest, is it a western thingy, do any pakistani parents o this?if so, why?

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Re: parents who put their newborns to slp in another room is WRONG.

my daughter has been sleeping in her own room since 6 months, minus a few days here and there. before that she was in a bassinet in our room. we have a video monitor and there's been no issues.

saying what a parent does is "wrong" without really thinking it through or presenting any basis for such a judgment is idiotic.

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My daughters slept in their cribs in their room since birth. Now that they are older, they want to sleep with at least one parent :smack: so we are working on helping them get back to their room without a parent now :hehe:.

Do what works for you. Nothing is wrong or right at the end of the day.

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why just first few years? why not until they graduate high school?

Jokes aside, it's your personal choice whether you want to keep your baby in your room or in her own room. My 5 month old son has been sleeping in his room since he was born and he sleeps well and there have been no problems yet so I don't see a reason he should be sandwiched between his mommy and daddy all night!

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The UK government suggests a baby sleeps in their parents room until they are 6 months old. I have a three week year old and she is sleeping in our room, however if everything is fine I will inshallah consider moving her to her own nursery when she is 6-8 months old. Nothing wrong with giving a child there own space as long as safety is considered e.g. monitors etc. It's up to the individual parents really.

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Dont think there is a right or wrong thing..however dont they say islamically you shouldnt leave a child alone in a room due to jinns and stuff...im just saying what i've heard...could be wrong :S

When I have a child...I would like the baby to sleep with me in my room in its own cot until they are slightly elder...maybe 1 or 2 or until the next one arrives :)

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For the first month we made our boy sleep in a bassinet in our room, but he hated it from the start. We figured that since he stayed in the NICU's isolette for 18 days he would like it, but NO. So reluctantly we put him in his room and made him sleep in his crib. He was more confortable there. In the third month, he figured out that he was all alone and would cry for company, but my hubby patiently worked on that and now alhamdulillah, he sleeps as soon as we put him in his bed and he likes it. My MIL would sometimes complain that in Pak, women keep their young ones with them for some time, lekin our baby was too eager to sleep independantly, so we worked with him. As far as the jinn part..I don't wanna think too much about it. I do however, read ayat al kursi and a little prayer for him to keep him safe.

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Years?

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I think the best you can do for yourself, your marriage, your husband and your child is make him/her sleep in his/her room as soon as possible and with that I mean within the first 6 months of his/her life. By doing so, you will overcome to many problems.

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What sort of problems?...

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^ like them wanting to be in bed with you all the time and refusing to sleep in their own rooms ever. my friend has a 2.5 year old who is finding the transition into his own room very tough right now because she's always slept with her parents since birth. she refused to sleep in her crib ever and its miserable for all involved now.
parents need their own time and space too.

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Nadz when i was pregnant with my son, i'd decided for sure that he'll go in his own room- I was so determined starting collecting ideas for the nursery. Anyway hubby convinced me that we'll get that sorted once he's here.
But now that he's here, there is no way I can put him in a separate room!!.. It just doesn't seem right to me :) So i know exactly what you mean!

But everyone has their own parenting styles - whatever floats your'e boat.

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it was a topic for discussion. presenting a basis can be given, i was meely asking.

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The only thing that matters is that you get your sleep and the baby gets his/her. Doesn’t matter where, what, and how. :yawn:

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ok firstly, there have been times my baby has had the blanket somehow ending up on her face, alot of kicking and fighting shes always gdoing with the blankets and stuff, and somehow alhumdulilah by chance ive woken up to see or shes start to wimper, also have been times where shes starting coughing, now if she was in her own room, would i hear her cough? coughing alot, people say oh youll hear them crying, why should i let her cry.....crying for a baby is the last resort......why should we let them get to that stage...just for our own sanity/peace of mind whatever. i find it BS that the reason for serperate room at such a young age is so they wont trouble you later or whatever, of course they will, they will trouble you always....your having a child, its not just for christmas dil bar gaya tho seperate kardo, theres a reason why docs recommened atleast 6months, and il do anything to r educe any sort of chance of anything happening to her. its not smothering, keeping her safe is not smothering, yes if i wanted her to slp with me when she was 15, of course it is.

and by few years i mean atleast until theyr 2 or 3......they wont be that young ever again.

one thing i have read is that the chances of SID and other fatal accidents has been where baby has been seperated.......that scared the hell out of me.......

anyway i do find it odd people would KILL themselves to have a child, would do anything for one, but as soon as they get one, they cant get away from the child.....seperate this and seperate that just so that mummy and daddy can get someprivate` time.....please.

however im not attacking anyone here personally.

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its not just sleep. its to keep an eye on them, so their safe, why let them cry as a last resort for them for you to hear them and go running in their rooms. secondly, ammi kay pehron mein jannat aram say nahi mili, that we have a baby and send her off into her room.

just remembered, my cousins mostly have their kids slp seperate, i stayed with her few times, and the kids crying, and she cant hear him. because he would first start wimpering, then crying, and because she was in deep slp, the room was next door, so its not as loud as she thought its be…you have to a light slper to hear them…

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nadz - chances of SID ALSO increases if you let a small baby sleep in middle of a huge bed with bedding.

You can put the crib or bassinet in your room and put a sleeper on your child - thing that zip up at the bottom. My crib was blanket free. Just swaddled them and put a fleece sleeper on them.

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Can't sleep with one eye open :) moniters do the same thing. Its actually more of an inconvenience to walk back and forth between rooms. More qadams for the jannati ammi :)

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just remembered, my cousins mostly have their kids slp seperate, i stayed with her few times, and the kids crying, and she cant hear him. because he would first start wimpering, then crying, and because she was in deep slp, the room was next door, so its not as loud as she thought its be.....you have to a light slper to hear them......
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She needs a baby monitor. I still use one for my daughters room and they are 6 and 4.... I hear every breath they take :) every sneeze they make.. every plate they break... I finally got waht STING was talking about.

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thats why there are baby monitors so you can keep an eye on them.. I have seen monitors where you can actually hear them breathing... thats how sensitive they are! Also, there are video monitors out there that can be used to keep an eye from the different room!

We dont have kids yet but I dun think we will want them in our room or in our bed.. they are more safe in the crib in different room..We may crush them in our bed,, they are TINY!!!

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I would NEVER put my tiny babies in my bed. My GIANT husband would roll over them and not even realize it - meray becharay bhachay.