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bengali is deshi NOT desi..!
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So being desi is like nationality? I am confused because most of the guppies here are born overseas and can not live in a country called Pakistan.
What do we mean by Desi?
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Are you ABCD? Such such bata de! :p
Desi is like the word latinos / hispanics and has nothing to do with nationalism [a group of nationalisms, vague..].
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No, I am not ABCD.
I just don't know what makes someone Desi and other non-desi. Most of the Pakistanis who do are born overseas and/ or live there all of their lives. Marry someone who lives there. What makes someone desi?
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Trust me, I know first-hand. Because unlike other “Pakis”, I am not a fanatic, a fake wannabe mullah, nor do I want to impose the burka on them.
Not to mention Levantine women have the hots for me.
Don’t hate because you’re a hairy fob that can’t score a rishta.
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The reasons why some Desi's or ABCDs like to marry outside of their culture is because they are alienated from their culture.
Desi people, that i have met, are very anxious and "scared" of different cultures and what inter-cultural marriages mean. They feel like a "cultural invasion" will imbalance them.
However, people who have grown up in a non-desi nation and have desi parents learn to balance out their lives by respecting and admiring the good in all cultures. Encouraging themselves to do this, they begin seeing things from a "world-view" (to the best of their ability and experiences) instead of a "Desi View".
Personally, i also find Desi Culture very "elitist", socially stratified, ritualized (sit a certain way, talk a certain way, if you dont do a certain thing (insignificant in the eys of the bigger picture) youve dishonored the family, etc; and lastly very off tune. Its just not practical these days, maybe back when we lived Feudalist lifestyles. Not anymore.
Desi Culture also preaches Power and Respect for Power (bara admi mentality); elitism; Self-Agg*****zement at the expense of others (Corruption is allowed if you dont get Caught; Hey! Its considered a Hallmark of your Ability if you do something through Corruption and dont get caught).
Also teaches respect for family relationships, understanding of human relationships, and bending your back towards Power.
Western Culture has weaker family links, but much better administrative, civic, and social laws regarding due to others as you wish they do to you.
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Also, while all women act b*tchy, you can always count on a desi girl to not cheat on you over any other type of woman on this planet (with the exception of South east asian women and chinese women)
I think Desi Girls on a whole have lower sexual libidos though, so while she wont cheat on you, you wont be getting any either, except through coercion.
"Okay, i promise to take you to Bombay Buffet on saturday if you flash me. Pleaaaasssseeee!!!"
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\ I think Desi Girls on a whole have lower sexual libidos though, so while she wont cheat on you, you wont be getting any either, except through coercion.
"Okay, i promise to take you to Bombay Buffet on saturday if you flash me. Pleaaaasssseeee!!!"
This is so not true at all! It's all stereotyping and generalizations which are not based on any real fact. Relationships are not just one sided. The man kinda needs to do his part too
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Also, while all women act b*tchy, you can always count on a desi girl to not cheat on you over any other type of woman on this planet (with the exception of South east asian women and chinese women)
I think Desi Girls on a whole have lower sexual libidos though, so while she wont cheat on you, you wont be getting any either, except through coercion.
"Okay, i promise to take you to Bombay Buffet on saturday if you flash me. Pleaaaasssseeee!!!"
do u honestly feel that this is the reason why "desi" women dont cheat on their husbands? did the fact that maybe an abundance of loyalty, love, culture, and most importantly deen has something to do with it?
aggar aap ke apne experiences indicate otherwise, then maybe you should give that a mention rather than painting every other women with the same brush!
Re: Parents approving you marrying a non-Desi?
Also, while all women act b*tchy, you can always count on a desi girl to not cheat on you over any other type of woman on this planet (with the exception of South east asian women and chinese women)
I think Desi Girls on a whole have lower sexual libidos though, so while she wont cheat on you, you wont be getting any either, except through coercion.
"Okay, i promise to take you to Bombay Buffet on saturday if you flash me. Pleaaaasssseeee!!!"
Naive
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do u honestly feel that this is the reason why "desi" women dont cheat on their husbands? did the fact that maybe an abundance of loyalty, love, culture, and most importantly deen has something to do with it?
aggar aap ke apne experiences indicate otherwise, then maybe you should give that a mention rather than painting every other women with the same brush!
I read it in: The Book of Desi Law and Culture.
It specifically states that while Desi Women will not be cheating on you, relatively speaking, you will also make best friends with your left hand. They are good if you want someone to guard your property, but thats it.
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Okay, i was just joking. I dont have any experience with women, so i wouldnt know. This is just based on cultural observations.
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Okay, i was just joking. I dont have any experience with women, so i wouldnt know. This is just based on cultural observations.
So we thought so . i suggest u signup to some psychology and mental health classes oh yeah and not to mention some diversity and culture courses will do u some good.
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LOL!
messed up cultural observations though :P
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If I am “hairy” then so are you unless you are a gora / chupta gora wannabe combination.. 
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desi gals r ugly …generally speaking..lol…gora gosht tastes much better:5:
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I read it in: The Book of Desi Law and Culture.
They are good if you want someone to guard your property, but thats it.
and so u believe the stupid book that states that our women are only worth guarding a man's property... is this what youv'e reduced the females in your family to!?! once again, speak for yourself and not the rest of the "paki" men who value women for a lot more then bare housekeepers!
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And so out of curiosity lets begin asking Paki men what they think women are for.
Me: mom is to nurture you. sister is to annoy. daughter is to educate. wife is to guard my house, until i can replace her with Brinks or some other Home Security Company.
mistress is for fun. that desi wife cant provide. tee hee hee.
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lol, would they?
I think not! they probably would get over it eventually although it would help if he was muslim