Are your parents picky about your choice of a non-Desi fiance?
I just simply can’t see myself marrying a Desi woman, preferring a woman from Eastern Europe, the Levant, or even South America, for that matter, and of course that will bring conflict with the parents. 
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My parents wouldnt mind it as far he is muslim but I personally think I would never be comfortable with non desi husband, but oh well thts just me
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Well I'm not going to be marrying a niqabi, a Wahhabi/Salafi/Deobandi, or a burka-clad woman so it's fine.
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^^ Good for You
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Well , for myself , I aint in favour of marrying any one outside my Desi people , either she has to be a Pakistani or at least has Pakistani descent in lineage.
I aint up for some cultural shocks in me life .
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Ahhh.. another case of "I will not put up with stupid desi people attitudes, but will gladly put up a gori. No matter what she throws at me, I will take it with a smile"
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Yeah, a Lebanese gori chick :D
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No my parents arent concerned with ethnicities.
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Well I'm not going to be marrying a niqabi, a Wahhabi/Salafi/Deobandi, or a burka-clad woman so it's fine.
You would rather marry a Nungee dharangee, bikini clad woman???
and all the desi ladies are not Burka clad, although 99 percent of them really know how to cover themself up properly
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Desi girls are prudish. You can spend the rest of your life with your left hand.
Problem with Muslim girls and desi girls in particular is they dont want to be intimate until they are ready for having baby. So thats like what? You have 3 kids, so max 6 times in your life span?
No thanks.
Plus, nangee girls are hot. You know what your getting too. Dont have to guess whats covered underneath.
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^ lol! thats hilarious!
i have a hungarian husband and he's awesome :) we dated for a while, then we got married. initially, my parents were resistant mainly because they didn't know him and they were worried about religion. then they got to know him and his family really well, they realised he made me very happy and vice versa, and we had our nikah. so no, my parents aren't bothered with ethnicity; mainly religion. as for culture shock, nope, so long as you know each other and understand each other, thats the number one thing. we celebrate eid and christmas, he's picking up urdu and i'm picking up hungarian. if you're compatible with someone and love them, and vice versa, i don't think many parents should have issues-- their number one priority is seeing you happy and settled in a good life.
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Not at all. In fact my mom is Russian and my dad is ok with me marrying anyone as long as the person is Muslim. It would probably be an issue if the guy wasn't Muslim though. You can't have it all your way all the time :)
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^^ Good for You
and good for girls too
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Not at all. In fact my mom is Russian and my dad is ok with me marrying anyone as long as the person is Muslim. It would probably be an issue if the guy wasn't Muslim though. You can't have it all your way all the time :)
I am a muslim.
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When parents approve a none desi, its mostly being helpless.
They know their kido will revolt...worst case scenario.
So to keep up the appearences, they "approve".
And its also a matter of taste..... A guy who cant speak Urdu or farsi...it just doesnt cling. He will look at me being utterly stupid...if I wanted to quote my favorit poets etc. So much to learn the other person. marriage is a huge dard-e sar to begin with. Why be burdened with more responsibilities?
And he wouldnt get half of my romantic vocabulary..... What a shame! Na baba, equal "kids" get along better....i gather. None Desi is a trouble zone, you dont wanna head to.
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I don’t get it.
I didn’t say anything about you.
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When parents approve a none desi, its mostly being helpless. They know their kido will revolt...worst case scenario. So to keep up the appearences, they "approve".
And its also a matter of taste..... A guy who cant speak Urdu or farsi...it just doesnt cling. He will look at me being utterly stupid...if I wanted to quote my favorit poets etc. So much to learn the other person. marriage is a huge dard-e sar to begin with. Why be burdened with more responsibilities? And he wouldnt get half of my romantic vocabulary..... What a shame! Na baba, equal "kids" get along better....i gather. None Desi is a trouble zone, you dont wanna head to.
Why is it a trouble zone? You could teach each other, learn from each other. I prefer the harder route over the easier any day :)
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Why is it a trouble zone? You could teach each other, learn from each other. I prefer the harder route over the easier any day :)
You have to have a lot of patience. A lot of EXTRA love and caring....especially if the person also converts. Im sorry, I cant look up to a man whom I have to learn/teach very basic things..... Im always doing things for my family and friends. In future marriage, Id like to be a bit of receiving end. My thing is, Im too darn responsible and it adds to tasks....if I should put it gently.
Its a girly thing. I wish to get pampered by my future hubby. Its better to "appear" weak than the knowing all or strong pathani image...it got me no where, just a lot of "gham". In my field, I meet a lot of goray men.....but I prefer not to even consider it. Some of my friends tells me, its my loss. That goray mard are more caring etc. less complicated. I just want to keep things simple, uncomplicated at all levels. Duno if I make sense, sweets. Its go home time for me now... ;-)