Re: Parents approving you marrying a non-Desi?
Any marriage can succeed or fail. Most of the other race/desi marriages that I have seen struggle have done so not becuase of cultural issues between the couple, but because of the interference from the desi side of the family. Perhaps desi parents need to learn to interfere a little less in the lives of their ADULT children.
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You know... it is possible for someone who doesn't speak Urdu to learn it... Just a thought...
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About Parents: Well who cares about them? Just don't listen to your parents bcoz they are the only people on earth who want the best for you and love you the most.
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Parents are not always right about everything... Sometimes you need to make decisions that aren't based on what your parents what and are instead based on what you need.
Re: Parents approving you marrying a non-Desi?
Any marriage can succeed or fail. Most of the other race/desi marriages that I have seen struggle have done so not becuase of cultural issues between the couple,** but because of the interference from the desi side of the family.** Perhaps desi parents need to learn to interfere a little less in the lives of their ADULT children.
so true.....I have personal experience in regards to that.
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Well I'm not going to be marrying a niqabi, a Wahhabi/Salafi/Deobandi, or a burka-clad woman so it's fine.
Dude,
She will be your wife. Niqab will be for others. She won't wear niqab in front of you so, why do you care? I am curious.
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No my parents arent concerned with ethnicities.
man u luky...
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i cud never marry a non desi man , gawd i cant stand goray and kalay boys , or wotever non desi ., however i cnt stand uk desi boy s either iwth all their nonsense black gangsta wannabe crap . anyways along with desi i guess a guy gtta b decent mature and loving and muslim
and bulleshah ur doing the muslim population a great favour by not producing ignorant brats like urself within our ummah , good luck with the gori or wotever
You will do yourself a favor when an idiot FOB like yourself puts your money where your mouth is and head back to FOBistan.
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that is indeed where i am headed soon , Fobistan for the likes of u home for the rest of us . but then u white ass lickin ****s will stay anywhere you can hide yourself and deny your true identity
:halo:
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u got styl....angel girl...:D
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hahha thanx dude :)
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i like fobistan..jus not the fobs who live there:phati:…lol
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i love pakistan and yeh but not some of the fobs that live there bt u cnt blame then its the way they are brought up n stuff lack of eductaion , lack of money
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I think a lot of these asian guys tend to look at non-desis for marriage as they want to get as far away from their culture as possible, dont kno why...
Im speaking from what i have seen in my family/friends circle... these muslim guys look at non-desis mainly bcos of their looks and their open-minded attitude, they just want to b part of an open society with no cultural strings attached to it... so really, with these kind of guys, i usually say it's up to them - at the end of the day its their life and they going to live wid that partner... some marriages to non-desis work out some dont - u cant generalise... but one thing is dat d non-desi spouse very rarely fits in to d desi spouse's family - its cos society may accept the rishtah but they will never mingle in wid d non-desi spouse d way they would have with a desi girl/guy... so really its up2 u wat u want... but u should b prepared to think about d consequences and affects on u and ur non-desi spouse...
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i disagree- i think its up to the couple as to how the marriage works out, i.e., whether they mingle or not. my husband and i just celebrated our first eid and it was fanstastic and IA in december, we'll be celebrating our first christmas as a married couple and my parents will be joining his parents for the celebration too. everyone in my family and in our circle of friends, i.e. people we care about and who care about us, have been supportive and loving and treat us no differently than if i had married a desi or if he had married a gori. i think at some point what society says has to stop mattering to you- of course there have been people who've been shocked and scandalised because he's white, but those are people who move on the fringes of my life and my family's so why care about their opinion? are you living to make yourself happy or are you living to make people who will always gossip and probably would have found something else to gossip about had you married a desi? thats the real decision.
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Bullehshah, do you really think the “lewant” chicks will ever give you any time of their day? They don’t like pakis! 
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Ok everyone, what do you mean by Desi?
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Desi (or Deshi; pronounced /ˈd̪e:si / or / ˈd̪e:ʃi, Hindi: देशी Urdu:دیسی ), literally means “local, regional” or “indigenous”, as opposed to videshi विदेशी وِدسی meaning “foreign”. The term may be used to refer to people or things of South Asian origin.
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Ok everyone, what do you mean by Desi?
For me, its Pakistani, Indian, Bengali.