Re: Parents approving you marrying a non-Desi?
Well I'm not going to be marrying a niqabi, a Wahhabi/Salafi/Deobandi, or a burka-clad woman so it's fine.
okkkk that was pretty rude. I m sure all these nice girls wudnt even wanna marry u so they wud be happy with yr decision but i think u need some serious help dude. Nobody wud have had a problem with yr choice but learn 2 respect every1 for the way they r.
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nope....my family doesnt care and either do I. It's good to know that my family is pretty open minded about these things....well they have to be otherwise they would be a bunch of hypocrites since I myself come from a mixed background.
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When parents approve a none desi, its mostly being helpless. They know their kido will revolt...worst case scenario. So to keep up the appearences, they "approve".
And its also a matter of taste..... A guy who cant speak Urdu or farsi...it just doesnt cling. He will look at me being utterly stupid...if I wanted to quote my favorit poets etc. So much to learn the other person. marriage is a huge dard-e sar to begin with. Why be burdened with more responsibilities? And he wouldnt get half of my romantic vocabulary..... What a shame! Na baba, equal "kids" get along better....i gather.** None Desi is a trouble zone, you dont wanna head to**.
not if you have a marriage based on Islam ONLY. :)
I have seen many muslim couples who have married someone of a different race/cultural background and are quite happy and content with their marriages....ironically the couples I have seen....neither of them happen to be desi. hmmm makes you wonder!
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whats the Levant? 
If you really love hte girl, whatever she is, if you feel she’s worth whatever problems you’ll have w/ ur parents and whatever conflicts may come…then why not?
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Levant = Cyprus, Jordan, Syria, Lebanon, Palestine
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okkkk that was pretty rude. I m sure all these nice girls wudnt even wanna marry u so they wud be happy with yr decision but i think u need some serious help dude. Nobody wud have had a problem with yr choice but learn 2 respect every1 for the way they r.
Because I'm not interested in marrying a holier-than-thou religious fanatic, alright?
Before you start lambasting me for singling out Muslims, I feel the same about Talmud-obsessed Jews and Evangelical nutjobs. I'd rather drown in a pool of AIDS than to marry an Evangelical girl.
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^well we all know that there are a lot of pretty muslim women in the levant so why don't you spend some time there and see if you feel any sparks with any one woman there. The fact that she is a (moderate) Muslim will hopefully make your parents happy and her appearance and way of thinking will hopefully appeal to you.
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my family would be ok with it if he was a pious man... but i would never want that... i cant imagine having to translate stuff to him all the time... Dad's side is always cracking jokes and mum's side always passes sarcastic remaks... how would i explain that to him constantly... i'd like to be able to say "naach na a'ee, aangun terha", and expect to be understand :)
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^well we all know that there are a lot of pretty muslim women in the levant so why don't you spend some time there and see if you feel any sparks with any one woman there. The fact that she is a (moderate) Muslim will hopefully make your parents happy and her appearance and way of thinking will hopefully appeal to you.
Muslim women in the Levant are more liberal and open-minded than other women in the region, hence why I like them.
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Muslim women in the Levant are more liberal and open-minded than other women in the region, hence why I like them.
well it's great that you know what you want in a future wife and all i'm saying is why not go spend some time in those parts and see if there is a liberal minded Muslim woman with whom you feel that spark and just maybe you'll find the one you're looking for. This way both you and your parents will be happy.
Hopefully the fact that you two don't speak the same language or have the same culture won't be a huge issue for both of you
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Because I'm not interested in marrying a holier-than-thou religious fanatic, alright?
Before you start lambasting me for singling out Muslims, I feel the same about Talmud-obsessed Jews and Evangelical nutjobs. I'd rather drown in a pool of AIDS than to marry an Evangelical girl.
Ah what? what part of my post indicated what u r assuming i said??? Like i said before...i dnt care and i m sure nobody else here wud care what u prefer but the way u express yr opinion is not respectable. For me you can go ahead and marry a stripper and i wouldnt care....y wud i? i dont...i just felt that you should be told that stating yr opinion, no matter how weird or stupid it may be, is perfectly fine if it is done in a respectable way and is not disrespectable 2 any1 but if it is done otherwise it is not acceptable 2 any1.
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what you lafin at foo'
you know its true
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You have to have a lot of patience. A lot of EXTRA love and caring....especially if the person also converts. Im sorry, I cant look up to a man whom I have to learn/teach very basic things..... Im always doing things for my family and friends. In future marriage, Id like to be a bit of receiving end. My thing is, Im too darn responsible and it adds to tasks....if I should put it gently.
Its a girly thing. I wish to get pampered by my future hubby. Its better to "appear" weak than the knowing all or strong pathani image...it got me no where, just a lot of "gham". In my field, I meet a lot of goray men.....but I prefer not to even consider it. Some of my friends tells me, its my loss. That goray mard are more caring etc. less complicated. I just want to keep things simple, uncomplicated at all levels. Duno if I make sense, sweets. Its go home time for me now... ;-)
well, love is love and you need a lot of it and a lot of patience for marriage, generally speaking. but the thing is, you're assuming that you'd be the teacher all the time- he would have a culture, and possibly a native language, and definitely a family of his own too. i'm sure there would be a lot of positive things you could learn from him. my husband and i have taught each other a lot about our cultures, and honestly at the end of the day, his family and my family could be mirrors of each other in a lot of ways. in the ways we are not, it just makes thing more fun! :)
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my family would be ok with it if he was a pious man... but i would never want that... i cant imagine having to translate stuff to him all the time... Dad's side is always cracking jokes and mum's side always passes sarcastic remaks... how would i explain that to him constantly... i'd like to be able to say "naach na a'ee, aangun terha", and expect to be understand :)
Ditto !
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i cud never marry a non desi man , gawd i cant stand goray and kalay boys , or wotever non desi ., however i cnt stand uk desi boy s either iwth all their nonsense black gangsta wannabe crap . anyways along with desi i guess a guy gtta b decent mature and loving and muslim
and bulleshah ur doing the muslim population a great favour by not producing ignorant brats like urself within our ummah , good luck with the gori or wotever
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Levant = Cyprus, Jordan, Syria, Lebanon, Palestine
What about Israeli zionist women who beat the crap out of Christian and humanrights workers?
I think that'll be a perfect match.......she'll be dealing with Christians and humanrights workers and you'll be with Muslims................You two'll be taking great care of humanity. Just a suggestion.
About Parents: Well who cares about them? Just don't listen to your parents bcoz they are the only people on earth who want the best for you and love you the most.
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i dun intend to marry desi kuri..drum aur drama queen muje nahi chaiye:hinna:…
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For my parents the religion is most important. If we married desis who were not Muslim, they would be very very upset.
That being said, I'm pretty certain that at least my mother would not be happy about a marriage to a Muslim non-desi, not because of any specific prejudice against that person but because it's just one more thing that will complicate the marriage in the future. We've seen enough Arab-Pakistani marriages fall apart and white-Pakistani marriages struggle, that she has her "proof."
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I have a thing for white guys these days - they’re so much more focused, mature and easy-going too 