pashtunwarrior are you pak-one?
I wouldnt be surprised if he was.
uhh ... it's a PUBLIC FORUM ... if someone is so scared of being judged ... then better not bring your stories here ... and if you are bringing them here (even posting just your views) ... then you should be ready to receive pretty damn stark comments back ...
women need to seek "gold diggers" because the man is the provider ... and if he cant even provide ... whats he good for? ... and before anyone starts on this ... i'm using "gold digger" sarcastically ....
and if men seek "gold diggers" .... i dont find the reason for why they should ... becuz they dont expect anything (financially) off of them ... as PW has already mentioned ...
and if a man does want an educated woman ... i assume it's for the reason that he wants a mature, learned person who knows the world a bit more than the four walls of the house and can put a standard in their house and be role models for their children to follow ... and to fulfill this criteria ... doctor/engineer/lawyer is not the only thing in the world unless you DO expect to gain benefits out of that specific profession ...
people who are here attacking those who are labelling PW as a gold digger are basically the same ones who go label women as gold diggers in other threads ... so i dont know what morals exactly they are trying to share!
p.s. PW you may think other professions are less respected ... but it's not really so ... you change the world views person by person ... so how about making yourself part of the change? ... i hope you know what kind of timings a doctor has to put in his/her work .. how will that effect your household ? .... the kind of clients a lawyer has to deal with ... advertising is the second industry in line rated for super-lies after law ... and an engineer? it's mostly dominated by men ... and then some people have issues with women working in a male-dominated environment and call them "enlightened" ... so how is that respected?
Re: Pakistani-American or Pakistani Girl
after reading mroe replies, i think it's quite refreshing for someone to want someone who is financially secure or at least has the means to be. I'm sure if a guy said he wanted a woman who didnt work and wasn't educated, we'd jump at him, for wanting someone who was so dependent on him.
if a guy wants a woman who is even somewhat financailly secure and has her own career--it shows he's okay with her independence. And before someone jumps at me, a woman has every right to be financially independent.
I understand your point perfectly, I hope you understand mine. :)
What makes you think my comment was ONLY aimed at you? Are you the only one here? No. :)
Majority of the time, if a woman were to so openly demand a doctor for a husband...she is labeled as a gold digger by men AND women. The term "gold digger" is used mostly for women.
Anyway, this is getting nowhere now.
PW, do what you want but your best choice is not here...its in Pakistan. Girls here look for a lot more and need a lot more from their relationships and marriage. Thats not to say you cant provide that but it seems like you're looking for something else from your marriage. A girl that was born, bred, educated and lived here will have no need for your arrangement. But if you look elsewhere...you might find someone better suited to your requirements.
Good luck!
I did get your point. :-)
You were against double standards and so am I.
If a woman wants to make sure her future is safe then by using good standard methods she should be entitled to achieve that. And more power to her. Same rule should equally apply for men looking for women.
I think this gold digger term was coined for women who probably use deceiving methods or merely their illicit techniques to get powerful and rich men.
Many men do that vice versa. Young men marry older rich women too. I am sure we all are aware of these examples.
after reading mroe replies, i think it's quite refreshing for someone to want someone who is financially secure or at least has the means to be. I'm sure if a guy said he wanted a woman who didnt work and wasn't educated, we'd jump at him, for wanting someone who was so dependent on him.
if a guy wants a woman who is even somewhat financailly secure and has her own career--it shows he's okay with her independence. And before someone jumps at me, a woman has every right to be financially independent.
True! :-)
Re: Pakistani-American or Pakistani Girl
^ glad u agree. ;)
So anyone that wants or is willing to marry a doctor, lawyer or engineer is a gold digger?
What if you are a doctor, lawyer or engineer are you still a gold digger?
I have said before that I was talking about marrying a professional which includes other majors other than law, medicine and engineering. These were just the examples I gave.
I feel that all professions should be equally respected but in reality they are not equally respected especially in the Pakistani community.
I feel that all professions should be equally respected but in reality they are not equally respected especially in the Pakistani community.
See this is what bothers me. If you feel all professions should be respected, why does it mater to you whatever profession the person is?
Unless the wife is a stripper, why should what the "Pakistani community" thinks matter very much in making your dcision? It's just a lame excuse for being status conscious.
So anyone that wants or is willing to marry a doctor, lawyer or engineer is a gold digger?
What if you are a doctor, lawyer or engineer are you still a gold digger?
I have said before that I was talking about marrying a professional which includes other majors other than law, medicine and engineering. These were just the examples I gave.
I feel that all professions should be equally respected but in reality they are not equally respected especially in the Pakistani community.
Why single out Pakistani community?
In all societies, there will be some bias against or in favor of few particular professions.
If you meant there is selected respect and you are worried about that then that is understandable. But perhaps a man should be confident on his own too. I hope you know that.
I feel that all professions should be equally respected but in reality they are not equally respected especially in the Pakistani community.
Biwi ke saath tum ne rehna hai ya community ne? How about you grow up first before looking for a dulhan.
There are certain qualities that we all want in our spouse, these are the ones I want.
I know what my intentions are and Allah knows, at the end that is all that really matters.
I tried to explain to everyone the best that I could but with some of you it is like we are going in circles.
If this is how most Pakistani-American girls think then maybe it is best I go back to my beautiful country of Pakistan and get married.
There are certain qualities that we all want in our spouse, these are the ones I want.
I know what my intentions are and Allah knows, at the end that is all that really matters.
I tried to explain to everyone the best that I could but with some of you it is like we are going in circles.
If this is how most Pakistani-American girls think then maybe it is best I go back to my beautiful country of Pakistan and get married.
hallelujah brother.
Re: Pakistani-American or Pakistani Girl
I think you're a people pleaser, looking to add your wife to your family tree as a way to climb the social ladder and add to your personal wealth...nothing more.
The more you post, the worse it gets.
I was born and raised in the US, am a professional female and there is no way on earth I would ever agree to marry someone who thinks like you.
I think you're a people pleaser, looking to add your wife to your family tree as a way to climb the social ladder and add to your personal wealth...nothing more.
The more you post, the worse it gets.
I was born and raised in the US, am a professional female and there is no way on earth I would ever agree to marry someone who thinks like you.
My prophet (P.B.U.H) said there are four main things people look for in a marriage.
- Wealth
- Family/Status
- Looks.
- Religion
He said put number 4 in number 1 spot.
I am simply proof of what the prophet said is right.
I pray that my Allah gives you whatever good thing you want.
Indeed there is someone out there who will marry me simply because I think like this, such a beautiful thing.
Architects are so well-respected in UK and earn a lot!
Then don’t care what that backward-thinking community thinks!
I think you're a people pleaser, looking to add your wife to your family tree as a way to climb the social ladder and add to your personal wealth...nothing more.
The more you post, the worse it gets.
I was born and raised in the US, am a professional female and there is no way on earth I would ever agree to marry someone who thinks like you.
Well said!
Opps duplicate post! MODs plz' delete!