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The choreographed dance numbers are one thing - but the dance-off between the girls from the bride's side and the boys from the groom side is totally Bollywood movie-like.
I keep waiting for Cupid to strike one of the singles from each side and a brand new love story to start a la Hum Aap Ke Hai Kaun?
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So basically, no matter what you do some woman in the audience will be cringing. 
Forget weddings, why don’t people just have a BBQ?
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^ I'm all for barbecues! Odds are the food and company would be more enjoyable :D
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Nikah/Barat bride very confidently and boldly having the eye contact with cameras and videos AND guests around..... laughing out loud....talking too much...... Miss the hayadaar brides... this part can be left for valima.
A bride looking like she's enjoying herself at her own wedding makes you cringe??
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Though on second thought, where;s the biryani going to be at this barbecue?
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We did that! Bwahaha. Best wedding ever, seriously. So laid back. I highly recommend it!
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A bride looking like she's enjoying herself at her own wedding makes you cringe??
exactly my thought!
the "hayadaar" brides were probably scared poopless because they were had to marry someone they didn't know from a family they didn't know. brides who actually CHOOSE (gasp) to marry the people they love (gasp) tend to be happier and more confident at their weddings :p
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Please instruct your photographer to document and not DICTATE the wedding. A good photographer will know that they are supposed to be in the background capturing exactly what is going in as an artistic and creative way as possible but some of the worse quality photographers and videographers act as if they are shooting a film about a wedding rather than silently observing.
i have recently been to several weddings where poor quality photographers and videographers were hired who seemed to think that they were in charge and instead of anticipating where they needed to be, they obstructed and hindered the bride's entrance by stopping her several times to take photos up the aisle. I even went to a wedding where the baraat was instructed to re enter again so they could photograph from a different angle.
this makes the wedding feel incredibly fake and as if the documenting is more important than the actual wedding and it ruins the natural flow and expression of celebration. Please tell your photographers to not be in the way!
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There is nothing better than seeing a joyful, laughing and smiling bride. Weddings are a celebration and who better to celebrate than the one who is being married?!?!!?
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LOL. Oh dear. That's so ridiculous, honestly. Sometimes these bridezillas really don't think before ordering people around.
That I understand. I've been a bridesmaid and sister/cousin sister wearing a particular group colour, that I like and have enjoy. Although I was exaggerating the point in my previous post, but I have a problem with the thinking that all guests or females belonging to certain age group must turn up in one colour. It's like deciding a uniform colour for the entire group of people. Following such trends once in a while is fine, but it seems as if all weddings come with a particular colour code these days. So really, the novelty factor that once surrounded such trend is now wearing off and this practice is becoming a total cheesfest in my eyes. You can only wear the colour Purple or Pink so many times (yes, the colour purple and I have fallen out big time). I am very particularly about my clothes, I enjoy dressing up, and I have outfits that I genuinely want to wear and wear it in certain fashion, so it gets quite frustrating when I'm not able to express my own style and taste. May sound quite shallow, but hey, this what Pakistanis weddings used to be all about. The whole dictated colour coding fluff has killed the joy of dressing up.
Agree!
Though, to be clear, this wasn't the bride, it was the bride's friend. The bride herself was a sweetheart and wouldn't have cared at all..... in the end I wasnt' able to make it for other reasons but that "wear sweats!" left a really bad taste in my mouth.
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^^Exactly!
It's always seemed strange to me that people encourage the guests to enjoy themselves + look happy.. same with the relatives and even the bridegroom but for some reason the bride's happiness being seen isn't 'appropriate.'
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Thankfully from where I belong, there are no dances on mehndi, barat or walima. No cake smashing, no themed outfits.
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Cake smashing?! :D
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because God forbid, a woman look happy at her wedding. 
stupid backward mentality. Yeah i said it.
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Cake smashing?! :D
I mean smearing cake on the face :p, like someone posted on first page.
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Though on second thought, where;s the biryani going to be at this barbecue?
There's no rule against eating biryani outside. There could be biryani stands everywhere. Just imagine...
We did that! Bwahaha. Best wedding ever, seriously. So laid back. I highly recommend it!
Lol a friend of mine did that. They had a quiet nikkah followed by a post wedding party in their backyard, just for the friends of the bride and groom. There were a handful of aunties and uncles there, parents of the closest friends, but they mostly sat inside and talked, while the rest of us enjoyed the catered food, live music, and dancing. There were only about 30-40 people so it was very intimate and a lot more fun than a normal wedding. I would highly recommend that over hundreds of bored, often rude guests.
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There's no rule against eating biryani outside. There could be biryani stands everywhere. Just imagine...
Lol a friend of mine did that. They had a quiet nikkah followed by a post wedding party in their backyard, just for the friends of the bride and groom. There were a handful of aunties and uncles there, parents of the closest friends, but they mostly sat inside and talked, while the rest of us enjoyed the catered food, live music, and dancing. There were only about 30-40 people so it was very intimate and a lot more fun than a normal wedding. I would highly recommend that over hundreds of bored, often rude guests.
I swear that's how I'm going to do my boys' weddings...no rasms...no choreographed crap and OTT preps...just a beautiful nikkah ceremony, followed by an intimate outdoor valima..complete with biryani stand :D
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Can I come to the weddings? For the kids of course, and not just for the biryani stand. :halo:
But honestly, that sounds amazing. Now you just have to hope that Mr.Khatti Jrs don’t marry bridezillas lol.
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I've read many people's comments about how many lavish weddings they've attended have been rather lacklustre and not very enjoyable and I'm beginning to think it isn't the wedding itself that was the issue but rather the hosts, the attitude of the hosts, and the crowd.
I've been to a few lavish weddings that were quite enjoyable and had a pleasant organic feel. They did not feel like an exercise in egoism and one-upmanship and did not have the "talent show" feel many people describe here. I think this is because the brides were not bridezillas and the emphasis was on celebrating with the couple and enjoying oneself and not on the lavish surroundings and "oh, what will people think."
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I've read many people's comments about how many lavish weddings they've attended have been rather lacklustre and not very enjoyable and I'm beginning to think it isn't the wedding itself that was the issue but rather the hosts, the attitude of the hosts, and the crowd.
I've been to a few lavish weddings that were quite enjoyable and had a pleasant organic feel. They did not feel like an exercise in egoism and one-upmanship and did not have the "talent show" feel many people describe here. I think this is because the brides were not bridezillas and the emphasis was on celebrating with the couple and enjoying oneself and not on the lavish surroundings and "oh, what will people think."
These are just general harmless personal pet peeves. Generally, Pakistanis weddings are amazing fun.