Over-done/cheesy Wedding things

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What do you guys think are the over-done or cheesy wedding traditions or customs or things that people do at weddings? For me the top of the list is the photo montage of the couple’s baby pictures, especially awkward pictures. Second has to be wedding speeches.

(no offense to anyone btw. If you’ve done this at your own wedding or someone close to you)

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First dance.

I do cringe my feet a bit but mostly because the couple is being awkward and pretty much every guest is also.

The over-ly awkward romantic poses - if you’re in love, a smile will do the trick. You don’t need to put your hands inside his shirts and if you do, please don’t show us. Yes I have seen that :hypo:

:hehe:

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wedding it self :snooty:

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Oh yes!!! The first dance. How can a bride even get up with 10 kg on top of her restricting her every movement, and take more than 10 steps with those va-va-voom heels. Plus awwwwwwkward in front of the uncles and tsk tsking aunties IMO. Or maybe it’s just me :hehe:

Oh and the pictures! I am seeing every couple do this end-of-the-line-gun-to-the-head-poor-groom shot, and it’s getting more and more disturbing. Like this picture

But it can be done a lot better, less morbid and more funner, like this couple here

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lol yeah I wonder that too but I’ve seen brides really shake it with all that jazz on so I guess it isn’t that difficult :stuck_out_tongue: .. or they are in good shape!

I don’t know, why can’t we take “natural” pictures instead? :hehe:

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You know hunger can make you do a lot of things :p

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Hunger :hmmm:

Is it the kind of “hunger” you’re talking about that I’m thinking about?

I’m familiar with the “thirst” .. but hunger is new

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In addition to all of the above, too many rasmein or OTT entrances are just unnecessary.

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  • Bollywood posing, yes even the typical Irfan Ahsan couple poses are getting so repetitive, forced and cheesy.

  • Bollywood styled choreographed dance and 'item numbers'.

  • Wedding speeches.

  • First dance, though I really don't mind Dullah being forced by his friends to do some bhangra on live dhol beats, lol. I've seen someone full that off so effortlessly.

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^My best friend did the speech thing at his brother’s wedding. I know people do it but I find it cringing. Its just me though, I hope noone gets offended. :hehe:

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People actually do that?

I've never seen this done but I imagine it would be rather cringeworthy as most people cannot dance well, let alone dance well in coordination with 20 other people. (No offense to anyone who did this/plans to do this at their wedding). :D

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Things I have seen at Desi weddings, which make me think WTH..

1) Nikkah time; groom or someone from wedding party on stage whips out cell phone and proceeds to talk

2) Attended a wedding where the groom removed the garter from the bride. I cannot tell you how disgusted I was when her lengha was being hiked up, and the groom in all his masti pulled off the garter and proceeded to tug at it with his mouth. He then tossed it to the lined up groomsmen. Utterly gross.

3) Cake cutting ceremony, where bride or groom will smear cake over the others face.

4) When the groom does not stand up for the bride as she makes her entrance/approaches stage. Seen the new MIL pull her son (the groom) down to sit when bride is approaching. So wrong.

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Inside jokes during wedding speeches...the entire crowd is completely confused and awkward silence follows because they don't know to laugh.

Bollywood poses.

First dances...I would rather see something a bit more fun and entertaining.

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Haha nooo I meant more like, you know, it’s not like the bride’s eating much during the day, so she’s hungry, and when you’re really hungry the body releases all these hormones and you feel energized even though the battery’s actually reading zero. Woh wali hunger :bummer:

Doli-esque entry at a mehndi. Mehndi! :smack: The bride leaves for her susral on a doli, not enters on a mehndi on it…

The Irfan Ahson poses are being done everywhere now. The novelty has worn off. But just to one-up the khala’s beti’s pose the new poses are just getting too…akward. Nothing natural or beautiful about it. Looks forced.

Last wedding I went to, the cousins and friends did a dance number. They needed more practice :chai:

I feel like weddings are turning more into a talent show, every 5 minutes there has to be something new to entertain, and not an event to mingle, talk and take pretty selfies :gina:

OMG did that actually happen?? Was this in front of just the friends or the entire guest party?

And who in their right mind would let someone smear cake over their makeup after paying $700+ for it! I would be so infuriated if that happen.

Does anyone even stay for the speeches at this point? I feel like everyone runs away after the dinner’s served :halo:

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So innocent :hehe:

:halo:

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Shhh, we’re trying to keep this Rated G here :snooty:

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choreographed #s, actually it's not so much cheesy and OTT, I just find them boring.......I'd much rather it was an open dance floor and be able to join in (or not) than just have to watch.

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I don't like over the top décor - completely blinged out event even if it just a dholki / mayoun. A little moderation and modesty goes a long way IMO. A Mehndi, where dances never end.... and how about no one playing the dholak and singing shadi songs at Mehndi anymore - it just goes to a dance-off between the 2 sides. But yeah, the wedding poses (with groups / bride & groom) are all getting kind of meh ... even the AJ photography ones like "point towards the bride everyone". Also I am not a huge fan of caked-on makeup (even the Natasha bridal type) for a mehndi / nikkah or engagement. Come on guys, mehndi & nikkah are events where a bride is supposed to be maintaining a natural look. You can doll up a bit for mehndi and go all out for baraat and valima. I'd actually like to see the bride look like herself in at least one of the events.

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I know they do the open dance floor thing at sikh weddings. Dances in general should be kept for a smallish, close mehndi, where they people attending are people you personally know.

I don't know, I think it doesn't hurt to get a flawless skin for mehndi/nikkah. Maybe not go OTT with the rest of the face.

And yes! Does no one do actual singing at mehndi anymore? That's the best part of the mehndi I think.

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The garter thing...WHAT THE WHAT. How disturbing :/

Cringey stuff can be sweet like speeches and cheesy poses, if the couple enjoy themselves or they don't take themselves too seriously. Like, I saw a groom get down on one knee to put a ring on his wife, or silly poses on stages, if they enjoy it then it's not a big deal.
I don't like overly-arrogant posers who think that they're modelling kachis for Armani or something.

Most cringey things I've seen, hmm. I see a lot of girls who won't stop dancing when everyone's bored. Like, I have a couple of friends who made everyone look at them dance for like 2 hours at a friends mehdni. When we told them to sit down, they said no the bride WANTS us to dance, she likes it while everyone looked at the floor and clapped their hands. Totally ruined the fun :/