Re: Only marrying within your race - racism or preference
I'm gonna force one of my children to marry a chinese person, my sister in law is half chinese and she has to be the most stunning women I have ever seen!
It's fine to have a preference as long as it's not in an elitist kind of way, you can't help who you are sexually attracted to. I want my kids to marry good Muslims wherever they may be from.
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I would feel so lost if I cannot share so many things that are uniquely Pakistani such as food, TV, jokes etc with the person I marry. So, Yes I think for a happy and joyful life, a person of the same background and culture is very important. In the case for us it is someone from Pakistan.
Yes that's great I'm happy for you that you are having a happy and joyful life . I'm having a great life too alhumdulilah with my bengali husband and our two daughters. I think its the fact that me and him were born in the uk and grew up here that's makes everything similar, like our jokes and tv. food differs, but im an expert on bengali food and he does like pakistani. And at other times we meet halfway with english food. So it differs for everyone on how they live their lives. But I wouldn't want to have it any other way.
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What is your opinion.. and would u want/allow ur kids (or siblings) to stick to only marrying Pakistanis as well??
Yes or no, what would be your reasons?
What an obsolete question. Race, ethnicity and nationalities are old issues. We now debate about marrying within own gender.
Re: Only marrying within your race - racism or preference
What an obsolete question. Race, ethnicity and nationalities are old issues. We now debate about marrying within own gender.
Not according to a lot of the answers on here.. Every so often someone comes along and says they aren't even being allowed to marry out of their caste (and they're often not even living in Pakistan) let alone race so it's hardly an old issue..
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I totally agree, you want them to marry a muslim, reguardless of their colour or culture.
On the other hand I would just want to marry a Mirpuri guy- that would have to exclude Urdu and Punjabi speakers too.
That's just my views and the way I feel I guess.
Isn't a Mirpuri guy a Pakistani too? And what is a difference between a Mirpuri guy and a Punjabi/Urdu guy?. Please, lets not divide Pakistanis into different groups anymore.
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Not according to a lot of the answers on here.. Every so often someone comes along and says they aren't even being allowed to marry out of their caste (and they're often not even living in Pakistan) let alone race so it's hardly an old issue..
With so many gay and lesbian threads popping up these days, I thought GS was 'advancing' to 21st century already.
Re: Only marrying within your race - racism or preference
Not according to a lot of the answers on here.. Every so often someone comes along and says they aren't even being allowed to marry out of their caste (and they're often not even living in Pakistan) let alone race so it's hardly an old issue..
Allow caste.. I know people who are not allowed to marry out of their own family.. This one girl I knew had a choice from 3 male cousins only !
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He doesn’t hate Pakistan for 71? 
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Isn't a Mirpuri guy a Pakistani too? And what is a difference between a Mirpuri guy and a Punjabi/Urdu guy?. Please, lets not divide Pakistanis into different groups anymore.
Perhaps you are almost 100% sure a mirpuri will be paindoo compared to urdu or even city wala punjabi guy?
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Isn't a Mirpuri guy a Pakistani too? And what is a difference between a Mirpuri guy and a Punjabi/Urdu guy?. Please, lets not divide Pakistanis into different groups anymore.
Hey it;s her right if she wants to marry a purely mirpuri guy. Maybe she wants to preserve the mirpuri language and doesnt want her kids talking punjabi. She has her preferences just like you have yours.
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What a silly comment!
sure it’s a bad moment in history and we have to condemn that, its bad what the pakistani army did. , but he isn’t going to hate me or hate all pakistanis because of it (that would be so retarded) , who can’t be held responsible for what happened . Was I actually there and helped commit these crimes? Sure he hated the actual people who commited these crimes and so do I and as muslims we should condemn it
LOL he does have a life unlike some people on this forum. Get real! Why the heck would he marry me and have kids with me if he hated pakistanis because of something that happened before many of us were even born?
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Perhaps you are almost 100% sure a mirpuri will be paindoo compared to urdu or even city wala punjabi guy?
I didn't mean that. Any guy can be paindoo, it doesn't have to be mirpuri. That was my point exactly, that there is no difference between a mirpuri guy and a Pakistani guy. They speak the same language, same religion, same culture, then why divide ourselves?
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Hey it;s her right if she wants to marry a purely mirpuri guy. Maybe she wants to preserve the mirpuri language and doesnt want her kids talking punjabi. She has her preferences just like you have yours.
I agree, but there is not too much difference between Punjabi and Mirpuri. I can understand both. I mean, we have to draw a line somewhere without considering even other Pakistanis alien to us. Now someone else would say, I only want to marry a mirpuri whose family is from North Mirpur. Let's draw a line at Pakistan and say we are one big family and we would not have any problem marrying any other pakistani
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I didn't mean that. Any guy can be paindoo, it doesn't have to be mirpuri. That was my point exactly, that there is no difference between a mirpuri guy and a Pakistani guy. They speak the same language, same religion, same culture, then why divide ourselves?
Well im originally from mirpur and our family speaks pothwari, im marrying my cousin, i dont think i can marry a punjabi guy, first of all even though pothwarii is similar to punjabi in some words its also very differnt. I would have trouble conversing with him, also tbh i like the sound of the pothwarilanguage than punjabi. I would rather my kids speak english and pothwarii, so my mother tongue can be preserved. Also i speak very little urdu, and even my parents cant speak it that great they didnt finish their schooling back in pakistan.
Also I wouldn't want to get married to anyone from sindh whatever, i cant even understand sindhi language at all. I respect them , but i would want to marry them personally. Their food is very different. So your thing about us all having the same food goes out of the window. Have you heard of "Ku-ini Kich-anee" before? My parents wouldn't accept it and rightly so,
And do you know about the sidi people who live there? Pakistanis of african descent, would you marry a girl from there? She's sitll pakistani?
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Just because two people are from the same country/background doesn't mean they're more compatible. Culture is just the way people lead their social lives, food, music, language etc. A 2nd or 3rd generation Pakistani living in the West might have more in common with a gora than someone back home (not speaking about religion here).
I'm sure someone might have already mentioned it on this thread that how people choose to pick their spouse depends on ones preference. My fiance is a Pakistani who was born and raised in the U.S but is brought up in a strict religious family. I'm from Afghanistan but I was born and partially raised in Pakistan . He's completely whitewashed and I'm very desi-ofied and that makes us a really confused couple where I might not be as compatible with him because I'm too Desi for him even though he's the Pakistani here. But what actually brought us together was what we seeked in our significant other in terms of religion and certain character traits.
Re: Only marrying within your race - racism or preference
Just because two people are from the same country/background doesn't mean they're more compatible. Culture is just the way people lead their social lives, food, music, language etc. A 2nd or 3rd generation Pakistani living in the West might have more in common with a gora than someone back home (not speaking about religion here).
Agree.
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For most people it is preference. For example, I am not in the least bit attracted to desi guys. I always only be attracted to white guys, however, I still married a Pakistani guy because I would never be able to relate to a white guy (they are just mere eye candy for me). I need someone with a similar lifestyle, background, culture and religion so we can "understand each other."
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^Were u not attracted to your husband when u first met?
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He is one of the better looking Pakistani guys out there but I still am more attracted to white guys. He is fully aware.