Re: Only marrying within your race - racism or preference
*Just because two people are from the same country/background doesn't mean they're more compatible. Culture is just the way people lead their social lives, food, music, language etc. A 2nd or 3rd generation Pakistani living in the West might have more in common with a gora than someone back home (not speaking about religion here). *
I'm sure someone might have already mentioned it on this thread that how people choose to pick their spouse depends on ones preference. My fiance is a Pakistani who was born and raised in the U.S but is brought up in a strict religious family. I'm from Afghanistan but I was born and partially raised in Pakistan . He's completely whitewashed and I'm very desi-ofied and that makes us a really confused couple where I might not be as compatible with him because I'm too Desi for him even though he's the Pakistani here. But what actually brought us together was what we seeked in our significant other in terms of religion and certain character traits.
Re: Only marrying within your race - racism or preference
For most people it is preference. For example, I am not in the least bit attracted to desi guys. I always only be attracted to white guys, however, I still married a Pakistani guy because I would never be able to relate to a white guy (they are just mere eye candy for me). I need someone with a similar lifestyle, background, culture and religion so we can "understand each other."
Please help me understand why you are not attracted to desi guys?. Is it just based on confidence, personality or pure looks?. Also, I am assuming that you are not attracted to all white guys. Some you may find good looking and others not so much. Why does the same thing not apply to desi guys as well, some desi guys might be good looking and others not. Why do you have to say that you are not attracted to all desi guys?
Re: Only marrying within your race - racism or preference
Definitely not racism. I personally prefer middle eastern or our own Pakistani. So for me i guess Pakistani it is..coz at the end of the day i would relate with Pakistani more than middle eastern chick. And my mother would be happy as well..!