What is your opinion.. and would u want/allow ur kids (or siblings) to stick to only marrying Pakistanis as well??
Yes or no, what would be your reasons?
Re: Only marrying within your race - racism or preference
My parents want me to marry a Pakistani which I will accept because its easier for everyone.
But my own children, especially because we live in the UK and not Pakistan I would be very happy if they married a good virtuous self sufficient Muslim, whether or not they're Pakistani. Just marrying people from your own race esp where you are a minority can often mean you sacrifice other virtues of a partner like deen, good manners etc for race which is a crap swap imo.
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Its racism if someone is of the opinion that they will marry only in race-A because race-A is better than other races
Its not a racism if someone thinks that there will be better compatibility if they marry race-A than race-B
Find racism in thought-behind-action and not in action.
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No, I would want them to have a happy life, with whomever they find, although I would want them to marry in the faith. I think multi-cultural weddings are soo fun!!!
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^ Like like (edit: D6C's post)
ps, where is the like button that I see people using?
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Everyone has their own POV and are entitled to their own way of thinking. I’m personally open to mixed-race unions and marriages. Especially when they outcome is hotties.
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DecentC, would u personally only marry a Pakistani.. and only allow ur kids to the same.. or not..
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Its racism if someone is of the opinion that they will marry only in race-A because race-A is better than other races
Its not a racism if someone thinks that there will be better compatibility if they marry race-A than race-B
Find racism in thought-behind-action and not in action.
This.
As for the question, I wouldn't mind if my kids decide to marry someone of another race as long as they're Muslim.
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**there was a psychology professor at University of Western Ontario in Canada who once did some research and published his work in reputable american journal. his findings were:
everyone of us is a "racist by nature" but those who act out their recism are the real racists.**
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everyone of us is a "racist by nature" but those who act out their recism are the real racists.
That doesn't really need a study. We all know that. And I doubt the study mentioned 'those who act out their racism are the real racists'. Its universally known we're all racists, its a defence mechanism. We've evolved to be wary of anything that is different to us. It may save your life to stereotype someone. It all depends on circumstance.
I'd say who act on their racist thoughts are bigots.
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I read on another forum that the way to tell if it's racism or preference is after they say 'it's just personal preference' u then ask them if they'd be ok with their own brother/sister/child marrying a person from the race(s) they wouldn't marry themselves..
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I would not say all such marraiges between one race are due to racism maybe practicability has also got to be considered.
If it's practical then multi0race marriage is not a problem with me... but when guys and gals go running after each other simply because they think having a mix race relationship is "cool" or becuase they have the hots for someone outstanding, then they may be disapointed.... then again I know many people who are mixed race fammilies and even myself in the past I considered it too but it's not practical in my case.
Everyone has thier opinion and needs but those who marry into a race due to superiority or inferiority complex.... Paah Kismet Khuda ne lekhee hain bhai... dhundna thumara kaam haye.
Re: Only marrying within your race - racism or preference
I read on another forum that the way to tell if it's racism or preference is when they say 'it's just preference' u then ask them if they'd be ok with their own brother/sister/child marrying a person from the race(s) they wouldn't marry themselves..
So wait, if I'm not attracted to Australian Aboriginals, I'm racist?
Everyone is entitled to their own preference. That's not racism. Racism is meaningless/harmless for the most part. But once it reaches higher levels of negativity, its called bigotry.
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No issue whatsoever with marrying someone from another race but of the same religion. This was discussed in AV a few days ago.
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DecentC, would u personally only marry a Pakistani.. and only allow ur kids to the same.. or not..
I married a Pakistani. I was never a "dating material" but I never had a preset criteria that I'll only marry a Pakistani or will only marry a specific cast etc of Pakistani.
As for kids, when they will reach their marriage age, question of "allowing" them would be obsolete. It will be their decision.
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So wait, if I'm not attracted to Australian Aboriginals, I'm racist? Everyone is entitled to their own preference. That's not racism. Racism is meaningless/harmless for the most part. But once it reaches higher levels of negativity, its called bigotry.
That isn't what I said at all.. I clearly made the difference between a person's own preference and then imposing that on others in their family (or not being happy with other family members choosing something different)
No, course u don't have to be attracted to them but if u don't allow ur children to marry one that would make u a racist..
Me personally, I'm not really attracted to Oriental people but if a sibling or one of my children wanted to marry one of them it wouldn't bother me one bit, I would be happy for them..
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Personally, I want to marry someone of my own nationality/culture. I want to be able to speak my language, get the humor etc. That's just my comfort zone.
And, I would be ok with my siblings or children marrying people of a different race.
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Point well made my friend :k:
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What is your opinion.. and would u want/allow ur kids (or siblings) to stick to only marrying Pakistanis as well??
Yes or no, what would be your reasons?
Well I may not agree with them marrying people from other races/religions but I wont be a hurdle as well -
I may limit my relationship with them or completely cut the ties off but again it depends on specific circumstances ( e.g marrying a non muslim ) and I reckon this is simply my personal preference not racism .
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Well not wanting your children to marry another race is still not bigotry but actually forcing them not to definitely is.