Re: only married 2 months and feel depressed
I despise pity people. Our culture produces more pity women than any other. Keep your girls dependent, lowly educated, and rush to marriage... you people are pathetic.
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I don’t see her asking for pity. She’s asking for Advice. 
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Her situation is pitiful
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sara pathan.. my dear .... and there in lies the eastern/western culture dare I say it.. clash????..........wishing u the very best...
Re: only married 2 months and feel depressed
These small issues can break your marriage even ... this is where it starts from :(
I've seen one such family (it was a love marriage), the girl was raised in UK and the guy was from Pakistan. They had cultural issues (not even religious ones) and they kept having one kid after another (stupid people) After 4 kids, they finally divorced.... the guy got his citizenship, earns big bucks, has a house and what-not, then recently got married again. Who ended up getting a bad deal.... the poor kids.
Sara, you HAVE to resolve this issue with your husband NOW. No fighting/arguing, sit down and discuss reasonably.
My sincere advise would be to try to solve the issue with your husband and not here. I'm sure many of us who are replying in response do not know you. So, some of the replys, instead of helping could dishearten you more.
I personally think that if you think with a cool head, he isn't asking much.
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^ I agree. People here do not know you adn do not know your situation. It's so incredibly easy to pass judgment when you are on the outside looking in. Only you know what is going on. So just take everything you read here with a grain of salt. I hope you are able to resolve this. Inshallah. Best of luck.
Why can’t people discuss these things before marriage? I don’t think you husband is been controlling it’s his religious obligation as a Muslim and your spouse to encourage you. You need to be upfront with your husband, either tell him you are going to wear it in certain amount of time (and stick to it) or tell him you are never going to wear it and deal with the fall-out.
I feel a bit sorry for the guy why couldn’t the guys parents marry him to someone who wears hijab happily.
Re: only married 2 months and feel depressed
Sara, you should send a Thank You card to the people who forced you into this marriage. And if this marriage was after your approval then your should quietly put the dupatta on you head.
The issue seems to be more about ‘who has got the control’ than the duppata. Duppatta seems to be just an indication of who wears the pants in the house. Duppatta and pants don’t go together by the way.
Anyways, one of you will have to bend and whoever bends will hear it from the crowd but it may avoid resentment. Couple who don’t work towards the big picture normally f up their lives.
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*Since we had a totally different discussion going, I have removed a few particular posts, and they will be appearing in religion forum shortly. I will post the link soon, in the meantime please continue the discussion and stay on topic..thanks *
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K Teacher. Anything else for us? How long of sentences can we type?
btw, please make sure you have your dupatta on your head while chatting with non-mehrums.
I despise pity people. Our culture produces more pity women than any other. Keep your girls dependent, lowly educated, and rush to marriage... you people are pathetic.
Oye bandar -- come over here and I'll show you quite the opposite of what your seeing/saying.
Dont pity anyone honey - hum kaun se perfect hai?
Anywhoo - before Sara gets mad; I think Sara_Pathan you can do two things; talk to him about it clearly and say that you're not ready for it or you can actually see it as Allah mian's will; maybe Allah mian is helping push you along a bit.
K Teacher. Anything else for us? How long of sentences can we type?
btw, please make sure you have your dupatta on your head while chatting with non-mehrums.
I have plenty more :D
Oye bandar
hey how do you know me?
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Im a bundar magnet myself.
Im a bundar magnet myself.
I will convey your sentiments to your majazi-e-khuda
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he’s the reason I’m this way…
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who's the reason you're what way u guys are so confusing :|
Bichaara!