Re: only married 2 months and feel depressed
This thread is so calling for RV.
Where is she when we** need **her?? 
Ok, I get that you try to be funny and look at things in a light hearted way but alot of times, your humor in threads dealing with serious problems is just NOT funny. Your posts are rather insensitive and plain annoying.
I am so sorry parezy.. I took protein shake for the first time last night… now I can’t sit still..
I better log off.
But before I go let me
we here in the uk for a while, he came back for me. because i didnt want to move straight to pak i wanted to stay here in the uk atleast for a yr, so hes here with me.
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I doubt you guys will be going back to Pakistan.
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hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm 
since when wearing a dubata or covering yourself became a cultural thing
I remember it used to be a part of our deen, no? 
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sara pathan i have not gone through whole thread except pg no 1......
dear ur husband is not doing anything wrong. u shd obey him bcz its Allah's order which he is telling u to obey.
do not think bad of ur hubby. u shd pay ur thanks to Allah for blessing u with a good husband. wud u rather have a drunk, gambler, cheater.
listen to ur hubby he is taking u on the right way. u will get over ur resentment. do ur salah regularly. u will be thankful for this immense blessing of a gud husband.
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parents shd look for a namazi and practising muslim son in law. sara u found exactly that. mashallah.
I doubt you guys will be going back to Pakistan.
Ditto
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Ok now Serious....Sara...if u really want to keep your marriage forever thn u should listen him..and if u dont feel good thn discuss with him and listen what he have to say..
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i dnt see a pb with dupatta, i myself never used to so it before wel not on the head
but when my hubby came over he wanted me to do dupatta o my head at least in public which in my opinion is fair, like u i wasnt exactly hppy with wat he had to say so we compromised ok so i do it wen we visit frnds n family but wen its just me n him out in town n stuff i dnt have it on my head if i dnt want, ppl may think of me as crazy but i wear hijab half the week n not the rest, but he happy n so am i :)
we here in the uk for a while, he came back for me. because i didnt want to move straight to pak i wanted to stay here in the uk atleast for a yr, so hes here with me.
agar tum na chahte huwe hijaab karti ho toh you will be bitter
agar tum nahi karti he will be bitter because unhone apni expectations tumhe clear ki thi shaadi se pehle
ask him if he can give you time because you're not ready yet aur tum chahti ho k tum dil se karo
and if he says kab karogi jab marrjaogi toh boldo k insha'allah itni jaldi nahin jaan chorrti tum unki :p
i can understand you're annoyance
but main ek baat bolun please yahan thorra compromise karlo ..aap nahin chahti hijaab karna toh ghar mein nahi karo magar bahar jaate huwe karlo plz ... because uski wajah yeh hai k he will always feel uncomfortable and his soul will be in agony k woh ek religious banda hai aur uski biwi uske saath sorta "benaqaab" ghuumti hai.
i'm religious myself but m not extremely religious...main parda warda nahin karti magar mera bhai 2-2 foot daarhi vaala sakht qisam ka maulvi hai. uskio jhunjhulaahat hoti hai agar main aur uske saath bazar mein bina naqaab k ghuume...toh meri mama uske sath argue karti hain k tum humaare baap ya husband nahin ho khabardaar ma k aagay bole toh...toh woh chup kar jaata hai but his agony is clear on his face so maine apni mama ko kaha k kya farq parrta hai if we go out with him at least hum chadar orh liya kare...apne bande/loved one ko kyun zaleel karna hai aise hi. you know if you go out with ur hubby without dupatta he is gonna feel embarrassed k yaar main maulvi aur mere saath meri biwi ghuum rahi hai bina sir ko dhampe...so please try to understand him n please apne aap ko samjhao k tum pehle se jaanti thi k woh aadmi religious hai...aur woh iss cheez ppe compromise nahi kar sakta cuz uske liye yeh choti cheez nahin hai...toh tum hi karlo kyun apne hubby ko tang karna hai itni si baat pe hai na....unhe bolo tumhe rishvat chaahiye sir dhampne k liye that he should look at you with love in his eyes (which he will anyway) and he should appreciate you for wearing dupatta for his sake even though you dont want to...if you put aside ur annoyance at this you will see how happy he is and grateful that you are doing this...believe me when u see him happy because you did this for him...it won't bother you so much...he's not trying to control you...he's just trying to communicate what annoys him...so please remeber k unse zyada aapka apna koi nahin so if something annoys him toh itni si baat pe kyun apne aap ko bhi aur unko bhi azzeeyyat mein daalna...let it go apne aap ko samjhao you will feel good when u see him happy cuz tumne unpe yeh ehsaan kiya k jis cheez k liye unki itni strong feeligs hain tumne unki feelings ko aur unhe samjha aur unke mutabiq chal parri even if he dont verbally appreciate you he will in his heart and you will be happy k yaar bas itni si baat aur mera hubby itna khush...ghar ka mahaul bhi acha rahega andar andar ka conflict itni choti si cheez pe peyda na karo...life mein aur bohot si cheezein aayengi larraaiyyan aayengi agar ek ko avoid kar sakti ho toh kyun nahin?
plus woh bhi toh tumhaare liye sacrifice kar rahe hain na UK baithe huwe hain yeh soch k k unki wife ko adjustment period chaahiye he has taken care fo your feelings and moved to UK ...plz ab aapki baari
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^ lol
sara pathan are u a multi of nadz? lol
anyhows its a blessing in disguise, he shudnt force u to do it coz personally even if i was forced id rebel, now tht ur married u need to understand that ur not the only one who makes decisions for urself... tlak to him tell him its depressing u... im sure if he's an understanding guy u two will both feel better after talking it through.
after marriage uve only got ur husband to please anyway and if he finds happiness in seeing u covered infrunt of others then why not go for it? I mean i understand girls love dressing up and looking good but alot of hijabi's look gorgeous in their hijabs too... After my mum and dad got married my dad told her he didnt like her wearing jeans and she never wore them after a few months of marriage... and he didnt even tell her to take them off all he sed was he didnt like em... i think women shud take husbands likes and dislikes into consideration coz as i sed b4 he's the only one u need to dress up for.. If anything he'll respect u more for looking after his wishes..
If your totally against it then theres no other way out of this mess then to tell him
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I dont think she is a confused desi, I dont find her to be wrong either in not feeling comfortable with his request.
Doing hijab or pardah is something that comes from within...one should never be forced or shamed into it.
His constant nagging is going to make her resent him...it already has started to.
Sarah, talk to him and tell him its your choice and you'll do it when you feel comfortable. Unless you're out there showing skin and getting negative attention...he should keep his comments to himself.
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@lady lama
haww meri baaton pe lol kiya
KATTIIII JAO MAIN NAHI BOLTI
/cries and hides under bed
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Let me just say one thing about most of the replies in this thread, The husband is not being religious, he is being a MUSLIM when we say that he prays 5 times etc etc.
and secondly, I've heard that it is a father's/husband's duty to tell the daughter/wife to cover up including the hair as that IS part of our deen. I will try to research on the topic and get something authentic.
Some girls might not do it (just like most of us inc me unfortunately who follow some things and leave some) but justifying your actions with comments like modesty/pardah is of the heart and that we should try to be better from inside (not that we shouldn't) or that i've seen hijabis b**ching about others is plain WRONG!
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^ Oh Maheen, you are so clever 
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You and your parents should think twice before importing husbands from Pakistan to the West.
I think asking for dupatta as head covering is a bit too much. The fact that you wear one at all is good enough.
Does he let you wear non-shalwarkameez clothes?