What would a guy's reaction be if his wife told him that on their weddign night?
He probably would try to get the marriage annuled. I think that is exactly what the wife should do.
There is absolutely NO point in being in the marriage if he tells you that she/he is committed to someone else.
It is precisely to avoid problems like these that the to-be-groom and to-be-bride shoule meet atleast once in private (with the agreement of parents ofcourse) to ask these questions face to face. If one of the partners is involved with someone else lets say the girl, then the boy should simply take the responsibility on his shoulders and tell his parents that he doesn't like the bride or something. Much better this way rather than ruining two lives.
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Sue him for everything he is worth...he had no right to lie to me and trick me into marrying him just because his spine has turned into jelly.
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I would plunge a dagger through his heart.
where dus the bride get a gun frm>>>:D
Does she need a gun to hurt him there ?
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Chavy, you are a guy, you aren't suppose to talk about 'him' in that way. Or may be you are. Not sure. Anyway.
As much as I am tempted to write a "what will I do" excerpt where I sound so vicious and cold, I have to say this would be the biggest blow to me and I pray to God to save me from it.
We all say we'll be heros at the time, but who knows really until you are put in that place. :(
okay...what would you do in this situation...? we've all prolly seen this happening in movies and all ...but what wud you do if it happened to u in real life.... okay say you get married and on the wedding night your spouse goes and say's ./..."look , your a great person and all and realy dnt deserve to hear this but i think we should just be friends as im in love with someone else ...and this marriage was forced on me"...? what would your reaction be ...?
What a difficult situation!
Any individual who does such a thing is unbelievably selfish. All that money spent on the wedding has been wasted, so many people will get hurt and the wife’s future could get ruined by this short-marriage.
If he had been that seriously in love with his previous lover, then he would never have married another woman. His chances of marrying his lover were impossible anyway – or else he would have married her.
If the wife has the strength to do so, she could help him get over his lover and convince him to give their marriage a chance. But understandably it takes a lot of courage and strength to do this. If he is not willing to accept her as a wife or if she can’t accept what he has told her, then she should talk to her elders. She has been tricked and used into a false marriage. Why should she live in agony, worry & stress everyday wondering when he will love her.
He should tell her parents himself, so that her parent’s can give him a few slaps with a Bata Chappal and their marriage can get quickly annulled.
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Wife should appreciate his honesty.
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^ Yes, she should. She should appreciate his honesty, feed him artery clogging food for the next 15 years and watch him die of a heart attack. Good advice.
What a difficult situation!
Any individual who does such a thing is unbelievably selfish. All that money spent on the wedding has been wasted, so many people will get hurt and the wife’s future could get ruined by this short-marriage.
If he had been that seriously in love with his previous lover, then he would never have married another woman. His chances of marrying his lover were impossible anyway – or else he would have married her.
If the wife has the strength to do so, she could help him get over his lover and convince him to give their marriage a chance. But understandably it takes a lot of courage and strength to do this. If he is not willing to accept her as a wife or if she can’t accept what he has told her, then she should talk to her elders. She has been tricked and used into a false marriage. Why should she live in agony, worry & stress everyday wondering when he will love her.
He should tell her parents himself, so that her parent’s can give him a few slaps with a Bata Chappal and their marriage can get quickly annulled.
Well-worded! Ditto!
This isn't an acutal scenario is it? If so, that's horrible. What would my reaction be? I would tell the guy that what he did was deceptive, selfish, and cowardly. Lying to someone about your intentions for getting married is deceptive behavior. The woman was probably looking forward to a real marriage with love, romance, and kids...and this guy has ruined her life by telling her this. Even if she gets divorced.....divorce is such a stigma in desi culture and the consequenes are more severe for a woman, sometimes even so if she's innocent. The idiot didn't think about that did he?
He's also a coward. He was too afraid to tell a woman about his intentions. He could have done that when they were engaged.......and the whole wedding/rishta could be cancelled. He had plenty of time to inform her of the truth.....but instead he waits to tell her on the wedding night?????? That is sick and pathetic! And i wouldn't be surprised if he married the girl to make his control-freak parents happy. And giving into their emotional blackmail and pressure is cowardice as well. A real man stands up to his parents....and stands his ground......and both of these things can be done respectfully.
All the money that was spent on the wedding, the hopes and dreams the girl might have had, the dreams her parents might have had for her.......all ruined because of this deception.......and it could have been prevented if the guy just told her earlier. This guy has BIGGER and MORE SERIOUS UNDERLYING ISSUES than his delayed honesty. He needs to develop a backbone and not be so self-centered. It's selfish to ruin a girl's life just so you can appease mommy and daddy and get them to stop nagging you. If he liked the other girl so much, then he should be persistent in his efforts to marry her. And if the girl that he loves is already married herself......then that is evern MORE wrong and complicates things further! YIKES!
Did the girl have any knowledge of this guy's feelings for another girl before the wedding took place. If so....then she should have cancelled the rishta. If she felt any shadiness in him or detected a weird/cold vibe from him....the she could have ended the rishta. This is really messed up. How can you tell someone that on their wedding day?
The other option this girl has is to stick it out and develop a friendship with him....and he might even develop love for her. But it would take COURAGE to develop a relationship with someone who has decieved you like this.
Sue him for everything he is worth...he had no right to lie to me and trick me into marrying him just because his spine has turned into jelly.
I would plunge a dagger through his heart.
What a difficult situation!
Any individual who does such a thing is unbelievably selfish. All that money spent on the wedding has been wasted, so many people will get hurt and the wife’s future could get ruined by this short-marriage.
If he had been that seriously in love with his previous lover, then he would never have married another woman. His chances of marrying his lover were impossible anyway – or else he would have married her.
If the wife has the strength to do so, she could help him get over his lover and convince him to give their marriage a chance. But understandably it takes a lot of courage and strength to do this. If he is not willing to accept her as a wife or if she can’t accept what he has told her, then she should talk to her elders. She has been tricked and used into a false marriage. Why should she live in agony, worry & stress everyday wondering when he will love her.
He should tell her parents himself, so that her parent’s can give him a few slaps with a Bata Chappal and their marriage can get quickly annulled.
^ Yes, she should. She should appreciate his honesty, feed him artery clogging food for the next 15 years and watch him die of a heart attack. Good advice.
Well-worded! Ditto!
uu guys are all rightt!!!
it doies sux and yeh this happened to a frnd of mines she and her fiance use to get along gbreat then on da wedding dayy he broke the news to hear and she started to cry and all he did was walk outta room...and the next dayy he acted as if everythin was normall infront of her parents bu was too late she tld emma nd u cud prolly imagine what happned bu now she's reli happy and married again with a beautiful daughter ...it all goes towards kismat
…wipe tears(of joy)
its lorenna bobbit angel jee… the awesome gutsy lady chopped em off her cheating skumbag hubby… 
well to answer my own question....if i was ever in this situation (allah na karey)..... i wud be heartbroken.....i wudnt noe wutta say and id call and tell my mom!!!!..... i wudnt stay aminute with this guy... and i definately wudnt stay quiet for his convenience!!!
i think this is exactly what i would do!
uu guys are all rightt!!!
it doies sux and yeh this happened to a frnd of mines she and her fiance use to get along gbreat then on da wedding dayy he broke the news to hear and she started to cry and all he did was walk outta room...and the next dayy he acted as if everythin was normall infront of her parents bu was too late she tld emma nd u cud prolly imagine what happned bu now she's reli happy and married again with a beautiful daughter ...it all goes towards kismat
Great to hear she found love at last and has a daughter! Great news! So happy for your friend. :)
What happened to her ex-fiance then? Did he marry his lover then?
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it is pure bad luck on the girl'z part and the girl should seriously think of formulating a decision instead of sitting and mourning at the fate. moreover, do not wait for some devine help and betterment just kick that guy out of ur life.
^ Yes, she should. She should appreciate his honesty, feed him artery clogging food for the next 15 years and watch him die of a heart attack. Good advice.
And then raise his 15 children alone....cool
ohhh nev ehard of her :S
ohh noo from what i heard that gurl broke up with him toi marry another guy and she’s happily married now aswell..as far as i knw her ex prolly regrets everythingg cuz she’s sucha sweet gorgeous gurl .!!
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arent u already married u always mention ur hubby in ur blog , or am i confusin u with someone else