Re: okay what wud u do in this situation...?
loll i am married :) i started this thread before i got married it just came up againlook atta the date of my first post
u wudnt beat him ???
No coz I don't think my beating would affect him at all considering guys are quite strong.
now what if its similar situation, they guy tries to act all normal in front of his parents but doesnt even touch his wife.... is in love with a gori friend who the parents have just started to know about after 6 months of wedding.... and that gori friend is saying that she is broking up with him as she doesnt want to have anything to do with a married man......
wife is still keeping up with all this, hasnt told her parents yet hoping he would turn towards her sometimes soon..... and doesnt want her parents to be worried......
guy's parents are helpless, they feel for the girl and keep on telling their son to get his act together who keeps saying that he will but doesnt at least for now.....?
Re: okay what wud u do in this situation...?
This happened not long back in our family, but it was the girl who told the guy she couldnt love him. She'd been involved with a guy for years but because he was Bengali her parents were dead set against it. Her husband kicked her out the day after their wedding and the valima got cancelled. Was awful, anyway long story short her parents refused to let her come back home and her in laws refused to let her back in the house. I think she ended up marrying the Bengali guy but I'm not sure. The guy was gutted, cause he really liked her but mashallah he got married again and is happy this time.
now what if its similar situation, they guy tries to act all normal in front of his parents but doesnt even touch his wife.... is in love with a gori friend who the parents have just started to know about after 6 months of wedding.... and that gori friend is saying that she is broking up with him as she doesnt want to have anything to do with a married man...... wife is still keeping up with all this, hasnt told her parents yet hoping he would turn towards her sometimes soon..... and doesnt want her parents to be worried...... guy's parents are helpless, they feel for the girl and keep on telling their son to get his act together who keeps saying that he will but doesnt at least for now.....?
OH WOW!!! that would reallie sux!!!
well first of all if it ahd been 6 mnthes and he ahsnt touched her howd the walima take place since the walima isnt jaiz without u knww ....??
bu long storyt shorttt
this hapnd to my cousin she got married to a guy and after abt 3 mnthes gotta divorce becase he ahdnt touched her at all he was actually mre interested in the same gender himself an his parents reallie tried to set him straightt bu he jus cudnt touch her and in the end ....she js cusnt take being married to sumone interested in someone else mree!! when get married to someone its like a mutual understanding that there ure everything now!!! soo when sumthing like this pops uppp its reallie sad!!!
This happened not long back in our family, but it was the girl who told the guy she couldnt love him. She'd been involved with a guy for years but because he was Bengali her parents were dead set against it. Her husband kicked her out the day after their wedding and the valima got cancelled. Was awful, anyway long story short her parents refused to let her come back home and her in laws refused to let her back in the house. I think she ended up marrying the Bengali guy but I'm not sure. The guy was gutted, cause he really liked her but mashallah he got married again and is happy this time.
damn.... well ...poor girl tooo bu she deserved it!!!
OH WOW!!! that would reallie sux!!!
well first of all if it ahd been 6 mnthes and he ahsnt touched her howd the walima take place since the walima isnt jaiz without u knww ....??
!!!
Thats not true.... isnt Valima always preplanned to be on the next day of wedding.... guest are already invited and all and not everybody does it the first night!
Anyways, family is so much in pressure now.... they really like the girl and are doing all tehy can to have their son listen but to what it seems like, it doesnt seem to go anywhere.....
I am not sure if much can be done in this situation....
She really would appreciate his honesty if he had told her everything before the wedding 
okay...what would you do in this situation...? we've all prolly seen this happening in movies and all ...but what wud you do if it happened to u in real life.... okay say you get married and on the wedding night your spouse goes and say's ./..."look , your a great person and all and realy dnt deserve to hear this but i think we should just be friends as im in love with someone else ...and this marriage was forced on me"...? what would your reaction be ...?
What I would do to make him/her friend and say ok we can be friend. Friend is the best relationship. Then try to win him/her by loving him/her caring him/her and all other thing.
But
First I'll ask why did you marry me at the first place. If it was forced why didn't you say no at the time of marriage. If husband says it then I would kick his face (dili khuwahish hogi per you know ladies can't do that). If wife says then I would say that is so stupid. I'll say same thing and aik zor ka chanta agar buchpun main lagaya hota to aisa na hota (as bari bi says for SRK in film Main hoon na).
What I would do to make him/her friend and say ok we can be friend. Friend is the best relationship. Then try to win him/her by loving him/her caring him/her and all other thing.
But
First I'll ask why did you marry me at the first place. If it was forced why didn't you say no at the time of marriage. If husband says it then I would kick his face (dili khuwahish hogi per you know ladies can't do that). If wife says then I would say that is so stupid. I'll say same thing and aik zor ka chanta agar buchpun main lagaya hota to aisa na hota (as bari bi says for SRK in film Main hoon na).
no joke guys but seriously what would you do?
Re: okay what wud u do in this situation...?
okay...what would you do in this situation...? we've all prolly seen this happening in movies and all ...but what wud you do if it happened to u in real life.... okay say you get married and on the wedding night your spouse goes and say's ./..."look , your a great person and all and realy dnt deserve to hear this but i think we should just be friends as im in love with someone else ...and this marriage was forced on me"...? what would your reaction be ...?
If I was NOT in love with him to begin with, then I would JUMP WITH JOY. HURRAY I'd be single again....
but I'd make sure he DRIPS HIS BLOOD EMPTY and pays me back for the wedding expense.
But I'd be free alas! lol
I would THANK HIM for allowing me to do an expensive fashion show / real life "practice" for marriage without doing the deeds....
and THEN I would NEVER marry AGAIN =(
Re: okay what wud u do in this situation...?
well if i wer in a situation like dat id tell ma parentz so they dnt think im inda wrong :-) or onda uda hand id also say ta ma mubby (well i dint wana get marid ta u anyway and whod wana marry u anyway) lolzz hahahaha
okay...what would you do in this situation...? we've all prolly seen this happening in movies and all ...but what wud you do if it happened to u in real life.... okay say you get married and on the wedding night your spouse goes and say's ./..."look , your a great person and all and realy dnt deserve to hear this but i think we should just be friends as im in love with someone else ...and this marriage was forced on me"...? what would your reaction be ...?
I like always think in an unique manner. Most "mothers" will hate me for this. But I frankly plan on asking a girl who I am there to see:
"Hey let me know if you are interested in some other guy so we can both save each some major headaches. I frankly am not interested in being married to you if you are gonna pine over some guy and write really bad and dark poetry. So if you got a guy, lets figure out who says no and get on with our lives."
I refuse to put up with this bull**** in the first place and certainly not in marriage. If this actually happened on the day we got married, she can go home and I will send her the divorce papers.
Trust is a major issue. You don't lie to me that simple.