Re: Not a Dilemma....Just give Ur Opinion
I agree with redvelvet.
Re: Not a Dilemma....Just give Ur Opinion
KA and Psquared?
That is such a joke. When will these smart ladies understand that these men do not care to be your friends!!! How the heck are you supposed to be “good friends” with someone who have just told you how they feel for you and you’ve said “thanks but no thanks”??
LOL. If she doesn’t respond and avoids you, she wants to be friends? 
Irony is too obvious here for further comment.
Uncle jee, you must have been really bored again today!
So, just for you, I am going to take my guess at the Guppan’s name: “e” and a “s” huh? 
Got it: Goodnews!!! :halo:
Hi Straight_Up,
I'm glad the answer amused you:) Sometimes a relationship starts out as a friendship, but one person starts developing feelings. Just because the romantic feelings are not reciprocated does not mean that the other person wants to end the "friendship" aspect of the relationship as well.
I've seen SOME guys and girls go back to being friends EVEN if the feelings of romantic love aren't mutual. Although things might be awkward, if they were good friends to begin with, then eventually they get over the awkward phase, and try to resume being friends again. Because they value the friendship that they had.
I'm NOT saying that this ALWAYS happens and I know I can't speak for every single guy in this world. For some people, it's impossible to go back to being friends after the rejection. They feel more comfortable maintaining a distance, and that's fine. But I've seen others who are able to move past it the weirdness after a while and find some normalcy in the relationship. Everyone is different.
Perhaps the girl in the scenario posted in the thread needs more time to process things. Whatever the outcome in this relationship is, I wish the people involved the best:)
simple: ask her straight forwardly whether she is interested or not. if he is that smitten and she rejects him, then back off or else, it will be a start of a GS love story :)
Agree.
It's the same old classic story of human nature: When you decide to back off, the object of your affection (who was once ignoring you) comes running back to you. And then you wonder if they came back to you because A) they missed you and are romantically interested in you B) Missed only your companionship C) Can't stand being ignored by ANYONE, let alone YOU. D) Decided to talk to you again only out of pity and doesn't feel brave enough to reject you.
See, you drive yourself CRAZY when your mind ANALYZES things from ALL DIFFERENT ANGLES. And while its fun to analyze and get various opinions......nobody knows the real answer except for the Guppan herself!
So, I would advise that the Gupster muster up the courage and tell the Guppan the truth about his feelings. If the Guppan refuses, don't pursue the matter any further, and just remain good friends (although its hard to do). And if the Guppan doesn't respond or avoids the issue, it's safe to assume she only wants to be friends. Rejection hurts, I agree, but having the courage to bare your soul, is admirable:)
WOW
Re: Not a Dilemma....Just give Ur Opinion
^LOL
Okay its not Punchingmonk. I was just teasing hima bit when i saw so many guppans suspecting him to be the one
Our beloved Prophet peace be upon him said that when two people are alone in a room (or talking on the phone, or online for that matter), then Shaytaan will always accompany them, even if you try your hardest to stay chaste in what you are saying, there is no blessing, because allah and His messenger forbade that. I am 100% sure that friendship between a girl and a boy is NOT allowed in islam. (Ref: Quran & Hadith)
The Quran and teaching of Prophet Muhammad show us that women and men are to be seperated. They do not gather together. There should be as little interaction between the two as possible. Of course business and school are different IF it is REQUIRED to have this interaction but it should remain minimal. Remember, the shataan is always the third party!
However in today's western society some Muslims see it acceptable and others only to a certain extent. Yet at university or college most Muslims will have friends of the opposite sex but many will limit that relationship in that they may not spend a lot of time with them outside school etc. So basically it's up to the individual what they want to do as although it would be perfect if we all followed Islam completely, some of us don't.
Personally, I have friends at College and Work but DO NOT socialise with them outside of that. For that I stick to my female friends!
Couldn't have said it better :biggthumb