I have to disagree with the first part. You forget that a man’s upper body strength is far greater than a woman’s. You smack him back, he’ll be dazed for a second, but then he’ll come on stronger than ever and will pummel you to death. It’s happened to women all over the world. The best thing is that if a man hits you, do not tolerate it. Call the police or leave. They advise women here in the US that if you have an abusive husband, don’t leave at that moment, make a plan first, call a women’s shelter if necessary, secure some money, and then leave. In Pakistan, the beating of women will continue because often times, other women (ahem, like the mother in law), encourage it and instigate it. The police is totally unreliable and criminal themselves, so until you get a major social change, the situation is dire. Women should not be afraid to leave an abusive husband, but the reality is that they are.
As far as the money thing goes, you are absolutely right. Women need to learn some finance, but what about those who have controlling husbands? I doubt those men would even let their wife near their accounts. Think about all the women who do that committee stuff–they have to pool with their friends rather than ask for an advance from their hubbies. Once again, we have to wish for or work towards social change.
And as for not respecting his parents…one way ticket to divorceville.
Well you can sit there and worry about the difference my friend plus take all the abuse on earth. I so dont feel sympathy for low lives.
This is what i told my UNN. I dont take abuse live with me with peace if you plan on abusing or anything close to it. Consider rest of your life living in hell then.
its like puri dunya mein dhindora pitna par kud kuch nahe karna
This is what i told my UNN. I dont take abuse live with me with peace if you plan on abusing or anything close to it. Consider rest of your life living in hell then.
I dont know if you know this we got heck of a power from our waste and below. If we can take pain of child birth i am sure kicking guys guts is a lot easier.
If women is educated i dont see how she is not part of the finances. If you dont ask or state what role you play in married life ofcourse you wont get it.
Guys dont get me wrong i dont promote fighting with your husband or beating the crap out of him for no reason. But yeah if they give abuse give them so much at once that they will never ever even imagine to say a dang word again.
itsme - ofcourse! i am not claiming all women are saints either. I know there are tons of Bs out there
I see it like this if ur not happy with ur husband our wife and you
tried everything to save your marriage but it does'nt work,
Then i think its better to get a divorce but you have to try
first to save your marriage/relationship with ur hubby/Wife.
Nia, I beg to differ. Just because a husband physically abuses you doesn't mean you stoop down to his level and do the same. I don't think it is very nice or sensible. Instead, I agree with raatkirani, prepare and move out.
Physical abuse is not women always go through. There are other forms of it as well.
In any case, I just feel if things don't work out after trying everything, perhaps it's better to move on than to stay in a bad marriage. I feel our culture, family, and relatives should be more supportive of it.
Sadiyah ofcourse move out is the choice there is no choice besides that.
But lets say if the guy cheats what would i do? do what other girls wou ld go divorce him and live my seperate life OFCOURSE.
But i will make sure i abuse him as well and torture. If someone decides to be a back stabber i wll make sure i do stab from the front.
Sadiyah you were askign why do women have to suffer when they can get out of divorce. FINE you get out of it but that dumb ass guy would do something similar to another girl. My soul wont be satisfied until i literally throw something at him or hit him where it hurts the most with my 3 in heels.
I do believe in donig something bad to them. I just cant seem to see a guy getting away with a divorce.
Getting divorce is one but what about my emotions, feelings, dreams etc. You know how girls are. Where its a need for 2 dreams we would have freakin 2 dozen of them. When everything gets scattered it hurts.
I would make sure he will remember that forever....
Sadiyah Yeah not our parents generation but i think our generation would be supportive of our kids in this matter pecifially.
nia khan i love your brutal thoughts lolz
i kinda agree with nia also expect the fact that not respecting his parents and back stabbing thing this isnt right becoz "usnai apni kabar mein jaana hai aur tumnai apni mein" and i supprt fighthing bak 100 pourcent its self-defense
it gets you though aur hausla detai hai mard se muqaabla karne se and makes you "bazboot" also you start to think from now on if a man bugs me thats what he'l get now im not telling you to make him a punching bag or train yourself while using him but if he hits you do defend ureself if he doesnt thats just perfect then !!!
and if your happy and everything he doesnt hit you then join a karate ya boxing club seriously its good to train yourself and if possible have regular playfights wid him lolz
you know the reasons why desi women stay with their hubbys even thoug they mis-treat them abuse them torture dem....
aik to allah aur ke rasool ko yeh baat nahi pasand
doosra yeh hamara moashara nahi jenai dehta us aurat ko uskai uppar "thouhhh" "thouhh" karta hai aurus aurat ki saari self respect matti mein mil jahti hai along wid family/khaandanz izzat so vo muun band karle zulm seh lehti hai
or kisi ka dubao hota hai usmein her parents or her relativz
or "is dunya mein uska koi nahi" so uski majboori hai
or she cant go back kyon kai she has lots of brother and bhabbis in the house and they might not accept her
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