Every bride is beautiful, and ofcourse everyone will have their opinions. I don’t think that I can look back and think about somone I know that didn’t look good on their wedding. Pakistani’s will always be Pakistanis. We’re just breed this way in our culture. I know my aunt also didn’t mean to say what she said, she was just favoring my fiances Khala in the heat of the moment and didn’t realize how her words came out. I just got home from work and my mom told me she had actually called today to apologize because she finally realized about what she said and felt so bad about it that now she is making me a jewllery set to make up for it and wants to pay for the Mehndi event lol..
Some people are just oblivious and of course so many times they are just jealous too. I realized after that incident though, the best thing is to just stay positive and assured in my own decisions that I make about my wedding. From reading about all of your experiences I guess its just something that comes with the territory and your right, all we can do is ignore it and move on. 