No boxed gifts please

[gulab_jamun]

@SanaZaidi630

Opinions and advice are one thing GJ…up right name calling and telling people they are of a lower class for making their own decisions on what is right or wrong for them…is a judgment call.

True that… and being from the other side of the camp..I was equally offended with ppl calling ppl stingy, cab driver’s, rude and uncouth, etc just becasue they disagree with the action.

Let’s criticize the action, not the person…(most ppl here think the ACTION is tacky, not necessarity the person..For ex. I don’t think Reha is tacky at all, however, I do think that writing “No boxed gift” on a wedding card is tacky")

[Reha]

@gulab_jamun

Now if someone, say your sister, or friend asked you about your opinion wouldn’t you gladly give it to them…Wouldn’t you say no plz dont use that lne cuz it sounds cheesy, or dont wear that color cuz it’s blah blah…what ppl are doing on this forum is no different…OP asked a question, where sharing what comes to our mind, even if it’s just for merely a few seconds…

Below is not merely an opinion… Its an attack.

@janab-e-ali

If someone is so desperate to make a couple bucks that they’re willing to sacrifice their manners and their dignity and ask for money outright, I certainly wouldn’t dream of denying them their payout.

Their actions have consequences - and they should know that such behavior will be considered unacceptable and rude by virtually all of their American/Canadian/European guests, as well as a sizable chunk of their Desi guests.

[janab-e-ali]

@SanaZaidi630

Opinions and advice are one thing GJ…up right name calling and telling people they are of a lower class for making their own decisions on what is right or wrong for them.

Referring to the behavior itself as unsophisticated and tacky (which is what I did) isn’t the same thing as calling someone unsophisticated and tacky. Nor do I recall making any comments about anyone’s socioeconomic status (that was all your buddy Reha…btw, denigrating those less fortunate than yourself is really an excellent way to prove how sophisticated you are). I’ve seen brides from affluent families demand cash, and brides from more modest circumstances who are as mortified by the practice as I am, so I am entirely aware that this is an issue that transcends class.

[gulab_jamun]

Reha, nor is thisor that…it’s been done by both sides of the camp. so lets chill out and start fresh.

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I do hope none of you studied past GCSE’s. Your uni grades would have appalling if you analyse ‘no boxed gifts’ as the above essay stated. Damn.
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@Reha

Aside from your Devon cab drivers, no one else really considers this practice rude

So , like SanaZ says below:

“Pointing fingers rather than admitting your own wrongs…also tacky behavior.” Lets stop this and move on.

[Sugar_50]

@janab-e-ali

Referring to the behavior itself as unsophisticated and tacky (which is what I did) isn’t the same thing as calling someone unsophisticated and tacky. Nor do I recall making any comments about anyone’s socioeconomic status (that was all your buddy Reha). I’ve seen brides from affluent families demand cash, and brides from more modest circumstances who are as mortified by the practice as I am, so I am entirely aware that this is an issue that transcends class.

I’ll help you remember where you edited one of my quotes…and basically told me I was ill mannered.

Pointing fingers rather than admitting your own wrongs…also tacky behavior.

We’ve created a India against Pakistan scenario here. lol

[janab-e-ali]

@SanaZaidi630

Pointing fingers rather than admitting your own wrongs…also tacky behavior.

Nope. Just responding to baseless accusations.

[gulab_jamun]

Re: “No boxed gifts.”

okay this trhead has beaten to death…it needs to shut down. it’s getting annoying.. I don’t even know what we’re agrueing abt anymore.

[indylady]

Re: “No boxed gifts.”

hahaaha.. if there were men reading it .. I could hear them say " cat fight cat fight cat fight" hahahaahah

[Sugar_50]

@janab-e-ali

Nope. Just responding to baseless accusations.

wow.

[distinctiveflair]

Erm… not to dig an old grave an all but someone reminded me of this thread and I just had to post.

I got back from Pakistan 2 weeks go and I had my wedding cards made and they didnt say ‘no boxed gift!’

[Desi_BeauTii]

Re: “No boxed gifts.”

haha great. Mine probably isn’t going to say no boxed gifts either!!!

LOL wow we did so much arguing over this, and we arent even going to put it in our invites!!! lol

[distinctiveflair]

Re: “No boxed gifts.”

No I just thought it was wrong to call people cheap who do want to write it!

I’ll show my invites. Theyre so simple though not like the ultra cool fancy ones these days

[PunjabiRose]

Re: “No boxed gifts.”

no worries distinctiveflair!!! Sometimes simple and elegant is the way to go … i’m sure your invites are luvely

[distinctiveflair]

Re: “No boxed gifts.”

I’ll put them up and you guys can be the judge hey!

[Desi_BeauTii]

@distinctiveflair

No I just thought it was wrong to call people cheap who do want to write it!

I’ll show my invites. Theyre so simple though not like the ultra cool fancy ones these days

Yeah that is true.

I’m sure yuor invites are beautiful, you have excellent taste!

@PunjabiRose

no worries distinctiveflair!!! Sometimes simple and elegant is the way to go … i’m sure your invites are luvely

Yup

@distinctiveflair

I’ll put them up and you guys can be the judge hey!

Definitely I would love to see them!

[distinctiveflair]

Ive posted them!

hides away

[Sara516]

@Mehnaz

Nearly every wedding i’ve been to in the past 5 years has had this on the invitation. I wasn’t offended. There have been registry cards in some of the invitations. I wasn’t offended.

Weddings are seriously overrated. All these little details, the clothes, centre pieces, table settings, it’s overrated. The wedding is just a day. Your life won’t be over if someone decides to give you $100 or a boxed gift. What matters is the rest of your life that happens after that one single Wedding day.

Yep!

Honestly, for those of u getting married…chill out. even the most sane and rational ones forget that its just a single day..yes its an important day, but all these little details like what ribbons what chairs what kind of candles to use etc…they really truly do not matter!!!

@janab-e-ali

I’m sure the girl who’s picking her nose and farting in public thinks its rude when people don’t appreciate her behavior. Who cares?

Im just curious and this has nothing to do wiht the topic at hand. but is it still considered rude and disgusting to fart/burp/pick nose in public when theres absolutely no one around?

@janab-e-ali

If someone is so desperate to make a couple bucks that they’re willing to sacrifice their manners and their dignity and ask for money outright, I certainly wouldn’t dream of denying them their payout.

Okay really? you’re making it sound like they’re selling their bodies…

@Reha

Reha sweetie…CHILL!!!

With this all said…i honestly don’t remember if it was even written on our cards…since one set was printed in TO and the other in Lahore…

[Aish]

It’s not offensive. It’s easier for me cause I never know what to get anyone, I’d rather give them money so they can get whatever they want

but I won’t be writing it on my cards, I’ll be happy with whatever I get. Just be happy for me, that’s enough

[v1nz]

Re: No boxed gifts please

bridal registry is a good idea, or asking ppl to contribute to your honeymoon would be ok too.. honeyfund dot com is a nice site to go about it :)) but agree with all commenters who say saalaami is most commonly gifted to the couple.

[Desi_BeauTii]

Re: No boxed gifts please

lol I cant believe this thread re-surfaced.