Opinions and advice are one thing GJ....up right name calling and telling people they are of a lower class for making their own decisions on what is right or wrong for them...is a judgment call.
True that..... and being from the other side of the camp..I was equally offended with ppl calling ppl stingy, cab driver's, rude and uncouth, etc just becasue they disagree with the action.
Let's criticize the action, not the person....(most ppl here think the ACTION is tacky, not necessarity the person..For ex. I don't think Reha is tacky at all, however, I do think that writing "No boxed gift" on a wedding card is tacky")
Now if someone, say your sister, or friend asked you about your opinion wouldn't you gladly give it to them....Wouldn't you say no plz dont use that lne cuz it sounds cheesy, or dont wear that color cuz it's blah blah...what ppl are doing on this forum is no different...OP asked a question, where sharing what comes to our mind, even if it's just for merely a few seconds...
Below is not merely an opinion...:) Its an attack.
If someone is so desperate to make a couple bucks that they're willing to sacrifice their manners and their dignity and ask for money outright, I certainly wouldn't dream of denying them their payout.
Their actions have consequences - and they should know that such behavior will be considered unacceptable and rude by virtually all of their American/Canadian/European guests, as well as a sizable chunk of their Desi guests.
Opinions and advice are one thing GJ....up right name calling and telling people they are of a lower class for making their own decisions on what is right or wrong for them.
Referring to the behavior itself as unsophisticated and tacky (which is what I did) isn't the same thing as calling someone unsophisticated and tacky. Nor do I recall making any comments about anyone's socioeconomic status (that was all your buddy Reha...btw, denigrating those less fortunate than yourself is really an excellent way to prove how sophisticated you are). I've seen brides from affluent families demand cash, and brides from more modest circumstances who are as mortified by the practice as I am, so I am entirely aware that this is an issue that transcends class.
I do hope none of you studied past GCSE’s. Your uni grades would have appalling if you analyse ‘no boxed gifts’ as the above essay stated. Damn.
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So , like SanaZ says below:
“Pointing fingers rather than admitting your own wrongs…also tacky behavior.” Lets stop this and move on.
Referring to the behavior itself as unsophisticated and tacky (which is what I did) isn't the same thing as calling someone unsophisticated and tacky. Nor do I recall making any comments about anyone's socioeconomic status (that was all your buddy Reha). I've seen brides from affluent families demand cash, and brides from more modest circumstances who are as mortified by the practice as I am, so I am entirely aware that this is an issue that transcends class.
I'll help you remember where you edited one of my quotes...and basically told me I was ill mannered. :)
Pointing fingers rather than admitting your own wrongs...also tacky behavior.
We've created a India against Pakistan scenario here. lol
Honestly, for those of u getting married…chill out. even the most sane and rational ones forget that its just a single day..yes its an important day, but all these little details like what ribbons what chairs what kind of candles to use etc…they really truly do not matter!!!
Im just curious and this has nothing to do wiht the topic at hand. but is it still considered rude and disgusting to fart/burp/pick nose in public when theres absolutely no one around?
Okay really? you’re making it sound like they’re selling their bodies…
Reha sweetie…CHILL!!!
With this all said…i honestly don’t remember if it was even written on our cards…since one set was printed in TO and the other in Lahore…
bridal registry is a good idea, or asking ppl to contribute to your honeymoon would be ok too.. honeyfund dot com is a nice site to go about it :)) but agree with all commenters who say saalaami is most commonly gifted to the couple.
