hey all…another dilemma…what do you think of writing this on a wedding card? I’ve seen it on almost all paki wedding cards here but apparently my fiancee is against it and he moved here from Pak about 10 yrs ago and says no one writes that in Pak…so he doesnt want to…
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what does no boxed gifts mean anyway?
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it means to give money as gift and not like a blender or tray :p
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yeah either money or jewelry but no kitchen sets or anything big that requires them to carry it in their hands lol
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ur getting married in pakistan? how about setting up a bridal registery or something. do they have that in pakistan? try to make ur husband understand that boxed gifts are very common esp in weddings. i dont think he'd want 5 coffee makers lol
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But wht if people in pakistan are stupid enough to think tht no boxed gift means no gift or money at all 
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ah man. well then you better word it in a way where they'd understand what 'no boxed gifts' means.
id probably write 'sirf paise dain'..with a polite 'shukriya' at the end LOL
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In pakistan normally ppl don't give gifts anyway, they give money (or salamee) to teh bride/groom.
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yeah i like money better
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No...getting married in Canada :D ! And I'm for "no boxed gifts" actually..but hes from PAK and totally against it...I wouldnt mind the bridal registry but we'll be moving after the wedding but he's still agaisnt it...so just asking the general opinion for or against?
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^ Well doesn't each side has their own set of invitations? y dont u write it on urs and they wont write it on theirs?
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Thats a gud idea 
I will defintely try to convince my mum for this sentence 
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they give salaami/money or give gifts they received from someone else who got it on their wedding from someone else who themselves received it on their shaadi from another couple. recycling gifts and passing them on to anyone who gets married is a very popular trait there.
In pakistan normally ppl don't give gifts anyway, they give money (or salamee) to teh bride/groom.
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next time I see a note that says no boxed giofts I will just put the recycled crystal vase in a brown paper bag and hand it over.
see no box...
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^that’s what i assumed it was.. 
gifts not in boxes but in gift bags or something instead.
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I've seen it once, and only then.
I understand the concept. But you know what, I still find the request a bit rude. For one thing, I am uncomfortable giving people my age monetary gifts. It feels like a real auntie/uncle thing to do, and it's awkward. So when they make that kind of demand, I don't know what to do.
Anyway, I wouldn't write it.
A bridal registry is fine -- great, in fact!
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^ no one buys things off the registry. My cousin recetly got married and the wedding invitations said ‘no boxed gifs please’. But she had a bridal shower and had a bridal registry. My sis and I got her a gift off the registry and the person who threw her the shower got her a gift off the registry but the rest of the people who showed up ended up giving her money or whatever gift they felt like giving her.
Of course my parents gave money at the wedding.
I’ve seen the ‘no boxed gifts’ request at another wedding I attended as well. I dont see anything wrong with it. It would be wonderful if desi people followed registries but they dont 
ybride - did you as your fiancee what the problem with writing that is anyways? Or is his argument just that people in Pakistan dont write it? All you have to do is remind him that people in Pakistan KNOW that the only gift to give is money. People in Canda dont :s
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I understand why your fiance is against you indirectly asking ppl for money instead of gifts. The reason may be…
Everyone has different budgets and different lifestyles. If you were to ask (indirectly) for money, ppl would be compelled to at least fork up $50/75/100, if not more. Not everyone feels as comfortable with giving this amount because it may be a stretch for them.
However, had they had the choice of being able to give you a gift, they may be able to do so by gifting you say a cake tray that may cost $20-30. This may mean that you end up with 5 cake trays in the end
ummm… best of luck with everything.
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^she's right- this is why you should do the registry and include all kinds of things so people can choose.
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its luks so bad and rude on the cards..my in laws r gna do dat on their valima cards..but im so against it..let ur guests give whtever they want to.....or if u dnt like dese sort of ppl..dn jst dnt invite dem..and only invite close ones!