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in ybride's case, it could be, the couple will be relocating to so and so place soon so please no boxed gifts would be appreciated.
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It is a good concept, it just needs to be handled with care. There are a million and one lines better and much less blunt than "no boxed gifts". Comeon people, be creative!
less blunt? hmmm lets see. 'No Boxed Gifts PLEASE'? :D I agree though we just need to come up with an indirect politer way of saying it. Maybe adding a note with the reason why one is discouraging boxed gifts?
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It is a good concept, it just needs to be handled with care. There are a million and one lines better and much less blunt than "no boxed gifts". Comeon people, be creative!
Yeah, and I've seen plenty of them. I think my favorite was something along the lines of "your duas are the only gift that is requested...but should you still feel it necessary, a cash gift would be greatly appreciated." Its still super tacky and rude.
As for the people who don't want to have to lug around all the gifts that their guests have burdened them with...feel free to tell people that you prefer donations to the Edhi Foundation (or any other charity of your choice) in lieu of a gift. Problem solved.
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yeah i love that - "should you still feel it necessary" - erm... right.
gifts are not a necessity or requirement. why don't people get it? :p
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yep, she called to ask if my mom was bringing a present along.. and my mom said yeah of course.. so she goes, oh well please make sure it's cash.. we aren't taking boxed gifts.. and to think her daughter isnt even moving anywhere out of state!
shay, are you serious?? she called and TOLD your mom what to bring?? i would have given the gift anyway! the nerve of some people!
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some ppl r jst too open or straightforward..which is nt a bad thing actually...since its their big day so its ok if they tell u ... they want cash or boxd gift!!
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^ i think like elsewhere you're playing devil's advocate, so i'm going to leave it at that :p
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Do let us know what you end up doing.
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we are doing the no boxed gift thing we asked many people beforehand their thoughts and eveyone agreed that this is an elegant thing now adays as couples cant carry the gifts if they live far away also they end up getting repeats its better to give cash or nothing... and it is not considered rude
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So if everyone understand its the elegant thing to do i.e. not give boxed gifts, why does it need to written on the invitation card?
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good question
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theres nothing elegant about asking for a gift, pf :)
your wedding sounds wayyy too classy for that line on your invite, imho.
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we are doing the no boxed gift thing we asked many people beforehand their thoughts and eveyone agreed that this is an elegant thing now adays as couples cant carry the gifts if they live far away also they end up getting repeats its better to give cash or nothing... and it is not considered rude
thats what we did, 'white' ppl have had gift lists for years so they can have some help when setting up home............i mean it makes sense but each to there own...............x
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whats ruder, a bridal registry or no boxed gifts ?
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No boxed gifts, cuz its directly implied.
A bridal registry can be announced on a card simply as "registered on ____.com" and doesnt have to say "Please buy us gifts from here" lol
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^ i agree
although, etiquette-wise, putting in a gift card saying where you're registered is a no-no too... its meant to be spread by word of mouth, through close family and friends... that way i guess is gentler and people can know what the couple prefer, but of course, its also told if people ask... if people don't ask, then you don't volunteer the info.
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well if you are giving people access to a wishlist isn't that pretty much telling them what you need and want? i thnk they r the same.
I think it wouold be best to just not specify anything at all. worse comes to worse salvation army zindabaad.
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I would add another elegance to this mode of thinking. Instead of inviting people to a big hotel , serve dinner, get tired . Just send a card announcing that you are getting married and then put a gift card for dinner for two at a nice restaurant where they can go and have dinner at your expense and enjoy. No headaches , no getting tired on your wedding night.
The text of the card can be like this .
"Mr. and Mrs. Khan are pleased to announce the wedding of their daughter Gull Pari to Pathar Gull son of Mr. and Mrs. Choudhery. Please go and enjoy a dinner at Kabab King to celebrate this occasion and please pray for us all."
Do you think it is a good idea ? No ?
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I would add another elegance to this mode of thinking. Instead of inviting people to a big hotel , serve dinner, get tired . Just send a card announcing that you are getting married and then put a gift card for dinner for two at a nice restaurant where they can go and have dinner at your expense and enjoy. No headaches , no getting tired on your wedding night. The text of the card can be like this .
"Mr. and Mrs. Khan are pleased to announce the wedding of their daughter Gull Pari to Pathar Gull son of Mr. and Mrs. Choudhery. Please go and enjoy a dinner at Kabab King to celebrate this occasion and please pray for us all." Do you think it is a good idea ? No ?
yeah.... no. you're taking it to the other extreme...