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Yeh desi beautii what have you got to say about that?!!
rolls over laughing
Yeh desi beautii what have you got to say about that?!!
rolls over laughing
Which comment are you referring to? lol
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How is this grubby? Certain people are going to get you something regardless of what you have printed on the card... isn't it better that you dont waste their time and money and let them know what you need?
As previously stated some people do not like picking up after the clutter of boxes. They may not like the look of boxes lying around at their reception either....
...I have nothing against the people that do not agree with this... but I wouldnt call them distasteful... and I wouldnt expect them to call anyone else distasteful...
... Ok i think that is enough for today... as I do not want to get banned....
:)
Today I got an invite for my friend's sister's wedding, and the invite said "We ask only for your blessings"..I thought that was lovely!! I mean I am going to give them a cash gift anway, but I love the simplicity and modesty behind that line. I mean I'm quite sure that everyone is going to give them a gift anyway, and most likely a monetary one, but yeah :)
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^that's a nice note
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I agree that is nice. :)
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when will people stop looking at weddings, birthdays, anniversaries as occassions to expect gifts of any sort?
if I am having a celebration and want you to be a part of it then heck yeah, I should pay for it. whether I choose to spend 50 quid per plate or if I decide to serve you a glass of OJ...that's entirely my business.
what happened to the original concept of celebrating where you include those in your social circle so that they can share your joy and be witness to an auspicious event in your life?
if the couple or families have not planned well then why should any guest be responsible for setting up the new home?
sheesh.
a few years back we had an event, a bismillah ceremony for our daughter and we wrote this:
"May the presence of your company be your only gift to us."
We didn't want to get any gifts at all. We just wanted to have all the people we knew get dressed up and enjoy an evening of ceremony, great food and some light hearted entertainment with us.
^ When one makes a comment such as "No boxed gifts please", they are not demanding that you bring a gift. I feel that they are just saying that IF you are going to bring a gift (which is 100% your choice), they'd prefer that you offer a monetary gift instead of something which is not going to be used. I think that's reasonable, no? There's nothing worse than a useless gift. It's not something that is useful, yet you feel guilty that they spent money on it.
On my birthdays for example, I have never asked anyone to get me a gift, rather I tell people not to. But most people get me a gift anyway because they want to. But then oftentimes the gift ends up being something not useful to me, so this year I've asked that IF they insist on getting me something, then please donate some money to a charity on my behalf, rather than getting me a gift.
So doesn't it work kinda the same way for weddings? Many people will insist on giving you even a small gift, so isn't it reasonable to specify what you'd prefer rather than have guests spend money on gifts which will collect dust anyway?
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Apprarently not rani... it makes them greedy, grubby, classes hosts. lol
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LOL this is so humorous... I had to actually show this thread to my dad for him to see how how many girls are getting high blood pressure over 'NO BOXED GIFTS'. I myself cannot stop laughing but then again I am the lowest of the low, grubby classless money grabber holds head down in shame and rolls away laughing!
LOL this is so humorous... I had to actually show this thread to my dad for him to see how how many girls are getting high blood pressure over 'NO BOXED GIFTS'. I myself cannot stop laughing but then again I am the lowest of the low, grubby classless money grabber holds head down in shame and rolls away laughing!
OK now I am rofl!!!!
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:D
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Well I don't really see the big deal in the 'No gift boxes'...people do what you want, it's your wedding, just remember to enjoy it :)
OK now I am rofl!!!!
Desi Beautii whats your story when are you getting married? Us low classes have to stick together you know...
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Lol distinctive... we are too poor to afford a wedding cermony thats why we are so desparate in finding other resources in order to fund our special day.... LOL
ok i'll be serious. We are looking to get married sometime next year inshAllah.
what about you?
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yes stupid SCUM me lol
We should go in the 'your shadi story' thead so you can tell me all about how you met! I am so nosey :)
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Hmmm tempting...
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Umm... this may sound dumb but does "No boxed gifts" means please give cash?
I didn't know that.... the last 2 weddings I went to they said No boxed gifts on the invitation so we gave them Bed,Bath & Beyond gift cards. I'm supposed to go to another wedding next week.... should we give cash?
Also, how much cash is appropriate if its just an acquaintance and not a close friend or family member? $25, $50, $100?
Also, how much cash is appropriate if its just an acquaintance and not a close friend or family member? $25, $50, $100?
I am told that the "going rate" is to double your plate cost per person.
So if the venue is such that the cost per plate is $50 and you are going as a couple then you should be giving $200.