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All in all, one should not feel compelled to give 'x' amount or a said item. Money is probably most helpful (especially in such an economic climate and the sheer expense of weddings), so I can see why people purposefully stipulate this.
In our family, money has always been given for aslong as I can remember, without having to stipulate it, just the way it is. People do bring the odd gift too.
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hmmm interesting dilemma, we havent thought about it yet. but if ure starting up a new home with ur hubbie then a gift registry may be really useful actually. or money lol!
"No boxed gifts."
How often do y'all see this on invitations? It feels a little tacky asking for money but that's sooo much better than dealing with crappy wedding gifts! I've even seen couples set up a paypal acct to have thei gifts sent online by guests lol.
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^ lolzz..i never got any card/invitation like this :D
Creating a paypal account is a bit too much,seriously.
It think its invidual but a big NO in our family would never write in the cards!
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NO WAYYYYY…that is so tacky…and weird 
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That's what most newelyweds need... money to buy whatever they want... at least they can go out and choose things together as a couple with the money they have received...
but i do understand how it comes off tacky/ greedy....
hmmmm im neutral on this...
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Sahar I agree... but what if they want to use the money for their honeymoon? Or something of that nature?
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its absolutely ridiculous to expect, presume, hint, imply monetary gain(s) by sending out wedding invites.
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ive seen it all the time. no big deal. actually easier for the guests, IMO. No need to hit the malls to buy a wedding gift for a couple I barely know.
I personally don't like wedding registries...I dont like what people tell me what to buy for them. I'll give you the money, and you buy it yourself. I aint your personal shopper (but I coudl be, for a fee :) ).
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Isn't the honeymoon supposed to be planned with the wedding????
doesnt matter where the money is going to be used for,its "asking" the guests for money,which feels wrong :)
ive seen it all the time. no big deal. actually easier for the guests, IMO. No need to hit the malls to buy a wedding gift for a couple I barely know.
I personally don't like wedding registries...I dont like what people tell me what to buy for them. I'll give you the money, and you buy it yourself. I aint your personal shopper (but I coudl be, for a fee :) ).
Agreed... it makes life easier for the guests.
Also people keep in mind weddings are expensive. Who doesnt want to have a nice wedding. If people receive money it helps them pay off some of their wedding expenses... and sometimes that is needed more than a new toaster oven, or dining set.
Isn't the honeymoon supposed to be planned with the wedding????
As in financially planned?
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Uhhhh..yeahhhh...mayb i am wrong...mayb im not desi enough...but for me a honeymoon is not a honeymoon if I have to spend it in my hubby's place...i'd be too embarrassed :o
So i'd rather have my honeymoon planned way in advance, as in b4 i get to it.
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Do people **give boxed gifts in Pakistan? I thought it was mostly salaamis...**
Uhhhh..yeahhhh...mayb i am wrong...mayb im not desi enough...but for me a honeymoon is not a honeymoon if I have to spend it in my hubby's place...i'd be too embarrassed :o
So i'd rather have my honeymoon planned way in advance, as in b4 i get to it.
ohh I see what your saying. Yeah the plan tickets and the hotel bookin is planned in advance... but there is also eating out and shopping which can be very expensive... it helps financially if the bride and groom receive money so that they can use that on their honey moon rather than putting everything on a credit card and going into debt...
You have to keep in mind.. weddings these days can be over 30k...
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I dont think its tacky...
When I got married, God knows how badly I needed the money. I used to give cash gifts before but after I got married I realized how hard it might be for couples who are starting a life on their own. Cash gifts help.
It's been said before, but I will say it again. You are not obligated to invite 500 people to your wedding. You are not obligated to wear designer attire to your wedding, have the function at the poshest location, serve 15 items on the menu, go to the most exotic location for your honeymoon. If you want any of these things AND can afford it, more power to you. Host a wedding you can afford and invite people who will celebrate your happiness with you.
Demanding a gift is tacky. In fact expecting a gift is tacky as well. There are many people out there who want to celebrate in your happiness but cannot afford an expensive gift or are uncomfortable giving cash because it looks too "cheap" (the amount they can afford to give becomes apparent and may not be enough). Why put your guests in such a predicament. Those who know you well, will give you something you appreciate (and it may be cash), those who don't, shouldn't be coming to your wedding - the guest's should not be paying your way into married life.
All one should expect are the kind duas and well wishes of the people attending. Anything more you get is bonus.
Do people **give boxed gifts in Pakistan? I thought it was mostly salaamis...**
I don't know in general but from what I have seen, there is no restriction as to what salami can be. It can be a watch, ring, bracelet, neck chain, money.. so on.