Hahahah yes they do!
A distant relative of mine got married and my parents did so much for him and his family. Gave every member in their family presents, cash on their wedding and even we kids used to get annoyed that why do you need to.. but my mom was like no, they are our relatives, it's proper manners to do this. Anyway so after my nikkah, I was looking at the notebook where the salaamis were noted down, and I started laughing soooo hard when I saw his family had given us 21 bucks. And no, they are actually quite well settled and a doctor by profession so we assumed they were being kanjoos and nothing else. I could not stop laughing, it was so amusing. My mom was like shhh, koi baat nahi.. whatever they wanna give, that's still very generous of them. lol.
My invitation card said, no boxed gifts because I was moving to another state and I had a bridal registry also. I also had asked if someone wanted to donate to the masjid, they can. Still people are people.
these are some things that I got as wedding presents.
Makeup brushes (that cost $13) from Target
Free bags that you get with your cosmetic or perfume purchase
Switched desi clothes (that were not my size or style)
Toasters from CVS
My mom said the same thing. I just thought it was funny!
^lol, i got a stitched desi dress from an aunty in ny (not my size in very cheap shamu satin). i was like omg, im totally gonna give this outfit back to her daughter when she gets married. ive got a suitcase filled with what me and my husband call 're-gifts'
we also chose to write "no boxed gifts please, as the couple is in transition" and thank god most guests didn't bring boxes!
we had one family that were invited as husband and wife only bring along their 3 grown daughters and son in law and gift us a sugar and creamer set that looked like it was straight out of their china cabinet. pshh, when will desis learn?
Can you believe this aunty who came to my Nikkah brought along 2 other families with her who we don’t even know all that well and they were not even invited- as it is we had a limited guest list and ballroom restrictions but since when do some desis care Guess what her reason for doing this was- at my mehndi, she had seen this lady who my mom DID invite but assuming that oh, how come she’s here when bride’s family doesn’t even know them so well, she figured that lady must have come with my mom’s friend as a guest. So she thought it was perfectly okay for her to bring along an army of her own guests.. grr. I found out just a month ago about this when my mom was talking about it and I was so pissed off. Needless to say, she’s not invited to my rukhsati
^lol, i got a stitched desi dress from an aunty in ny (not my size in very cheap shamu satin). i was like omg, im totally gonna give this outfit back to her daughter when she gets married. ive got a suitcase filled with what me and my husband call 're-gifts'
Funny sumorani - what would you even write in their thank you card?
it was at our own hotel so they really didnt pay for the extra guests. on the other hand, i heard from my cousins later on that there wasnt enough seating for people... haha some desis are retarded. i woudlnt wanna go anywhere i wasnt invited.
i know uninvited guys maybe the grooms friends, friend or someone like that would show up uninvited but a whole posse showing up is completely absurd...i'd be furious if someone ended up doing that at my wedding---I am trying to see if i can do something like serving food (ready prepared food platter for each individual) from the kitchen and not buffet style so only the people that are seated are served food all others can go get their own food from elsewhere. i think at desi weddings ppl think no one will notice since the food is all out in the open and immediate families are busy with guests. also loads of food is left over and when the families take it home they have to end up distributing it so no point of getting lots of food made and having it out as a buffet also will save u $ on food. I am trying to come up with a plan and see if i can do that this way if anyone is not eating and is standing they will stand out and look like losers this way everyone will know he the uninvited one and the next time will never ever think of crashing someone elses wedding.
^lol thats a very good idea. we were working with a professional chef at our wedding and he was coming up with menu ideas. at first we were thinking of a 7 course meal (only him and god know what comprises 7 courses :)) he said there will be waiters that will bring out the dishes, 1 waiter to 3 guests and the guests will have the option to choose from 3 main dishes. eventually the idea was ruled out cuz some desis would end up being upset about not beign enough choices.
on the mehndi though we had food stalls of different cuisines and the food was open thru out the event, so people could eat whenever they wanted.
...its actually pretty nice in the sense that u can organize who ur guests sit with (people they already know) . whoever's name isnt there will obviously have to leave :D i've heard a lot of weddings outside of pakistan done this way.
people don't necessarily sit during weddings, so i don't think that would stop uninvited guests. plus, most weddings are at banquet halls, hotels, restaurants, etc...with plenty of places to hang out without having to be seated. i've seen and known of wedding crashers to just show up, walk around, check out girls, eat and leave!
Sometimes I think it really takes the fun out to have a wedding in western countries because you have to limit your guest list.
It's pretty sad that the people you don't even know - that want to enjoy your wedding - who are not invited - cannot come - YET choose to come - and you don't want them there. I mean it's sad for both the bride and the uninvited guests.
Guess what her reason for doing this was- at my mehndi, she had seen this lady who my mom DID invite but assuming that oh, how come she’s here when bride’s family doesn’t even know them so well, she figured that lady must have come with my mom’s friend as a guest. So she thought it was perfectly okay for her to bring along an army of her own guests.. grr. I found out just a month ago about this when my mom was talking about it and I was so pissed off. Needless to say, she’s not invited to my rukhsati 