Pakilass, what you have said is wrong. like others have pointed out the nikkah **is **the wedding, after that the couple can do whatever they like as husband and wife. I didn’t realise this before but it’s actually a sunnah (obviously not obligatory) to consumate the marriage before the walima which totally contradicts what you have said. You have got Islam mixed up with culture.
Can A Couple Avail Of The Benefits Of Marriage Before Walima and After Nikah?
**Question:**
**Now it is very common to get your nikah done but still live at your parent's house for various reasons and after a period of time have a reception and the walima. So during the period that the couple has their nikah done, is everything allowed that a fully married couple could do? **
**Answer:**
In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,
Once the marriage ceremony (nikah) itself takes place, properly, the couple become wife and husband. Everything permitted for husband and wife becomes permitted for them. However, some social sense and sensitivity is needed, because one’s family may well react very negatively if certain limits are breached.
And Allah alone gives success.
Faraz Rabbani
Source: Can A Couple Avail Of The Benefits Of Marriage Before Walima and After Nikah?
Consummating the marriage before the rukhsati & night or walima
Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbanir
**Question:**
**I have a question regarding Nikkah ceremony and Consumation of the marriage. I recently had my Nikkah Ceremony (Aqd) not long ago. Thereafter, we have been spending a lot of time together--but we haven't had the rukhsati or walima celebrations. Occasionally we go to his apartment. We do engage in foreplay and the like, and have already consumated our marriage, before our walima. Traditionally in our culture-- there are the occasions of 'rukhsati' before the walima, where the couple consumates the marriage the night of the rikhsati. Have we sinned in consumating our marriage (we had mutually agreed to engage in the act)? Are we supposed to have waited until the 'rukhsati' and the time I am actually living with him? Our families have no idea we had consumated the marriage already-- do they need to know?
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**Answer:**
Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,
I pray that this finds you well, and in the best of health and spirits. May Allah grant you all good and success in this life and the next.
There is nothing wrong with consummating the marriage any time after the marriage takes place. The walima can thereafter be held at any time after it. Please search SunniPath Answers (SunniPath Answers: The Source of Relevant & Reliable Islamic Answers) for related answers on the fiqh of “walima” ] The rukhsati itself isn’t a sunna celebration.
There is no need for the family to know whether and when a marriage is consummated.
And Allah alone gives success.
Faraz Rabbani
Source: Consummating the marriage before the “rukhsati” night or walima