Doing Nikkah a year or six months before rukhasti …
Is that a good idea and Islamically allowed ?
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Yes, it is allowed and it's becoming pretty common over here, gives the couple time to save up for a new home, also make the wedding perfect etc. as well as obviously allowing them to see as much of each other as they like. I know a couple of ppl who waited a year after nikkah to hold the reception. I think Islamically tho ur meant to make people aware that the couple have actually done nikkah so incase they are seen out in public together rumours don't get started and so on..
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So you mean, they can publically see each other after nikkah,,,, Sweeet, i thought u cant meet before rukhsati.
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LOL some people have nikkahs that last for 5 6 7 years before they actually get married married and have rukhsati. It's pretty common and Islamically she is your wife once you get the nikkah done so yes you can meet with her.
So you mean, they can publically see each other after nikkah,,,, Sweeet, i thought u cant meet before rukhsati.
Nikkah means religously you are married, that's it. The rukhsathi etc is just the party, way for families to formally announce marriage, but really all that matters I believe is the Nikkah to make each other halal for each other etc....
So you mean, they can publically see each other after nikkah,,,, Sweeet, i thought u cant meet before rukhsati.
Yes cos Islamically ur legally married. It is 100% halal to meet up, have a relationship, do whatever u want as husband and wife.
The ppl who say u can't are just influenced by culture. Also, some backward thinking parents get scared people might 'talk' incase daughter gets pregnant before rukhsati even tho obviously it's allowed. Some parents will allow the couple to meet up but say they can't sleep together for this reason.
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yeah, the coupe signed a document so now they can see each other. But if they dont sign it then yeah, they cant. That piece of paper gives you permission to have sex with the opposite gender.
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Um yes. What kind of a question is this
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so everyone is for it ? no one against it ??
how abt the fact that after nikkah you r married ... but you r actually single :s
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for... if that's what the couple wants...
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I am considering the Nikkah now and Marriage later part ;)
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I just think the whole nikkah is stupid. signing a paper gives you permission to have sex. wth?
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nope ... reading Nikkah in front of four witnesses and making both halal for each other gives em permission to have sex.
isnt mutual agreement enough?
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Well if u dun care whether ur child r halali or not then Mutual agreement shld be enough.
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Slickstar, you just love making trouble dont ya? LOL
Nikah now and Rukhsati later is very common. It helps in the situation where two people have found each other but are not ready to live out a marriage due to financial issues. They can complete their education, get a job and then have their blow out rukhsati. That is the main reason why people wait for a rukhsati, there are probably many more.
I do not believe there is anything wrong with it as its probably going to make your life a lot easier when it comes to being able to meet your husband, get to know him, develop a relationship with him, etc.
Rukhsati is not a religious concept, its a cultural concept...in Islam there is a Walima...no Rukhsati. Nikah and Walima is all you need.
deeba I agree with u, if u have had the nikkah done, u can have a relationship,
but what I dont understand is the waiting around for the shaadi and rukhsati after u are having a relationship and in some cases moved in, with the guy!
I mean what is the point of the rukhsati?
and what if u have a bump on the wedding?
I think some people just dont want the whole "Getting married" phase to be over,
poor parents it proberly takes them years to be finally able to say " jaan chhuti";)
anyways I think its a little strange and a western approach to marriage, but thats my view!!
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ok what is rukhsati? you have the nikah, mandhi, valeema and reception. where does rukhsati come in?
when u cry and say ta ta to every1 after the shaadi, and go to ur hubbies.
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not forgeting the chaaval!!! 
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THis is how it goes:
If you go for an engagement, that comes first.
Then towards the date of the wedding comes the Mayun, whichi is the tradition where the girl has to sit with ubtan on her face and body for 7 days or so. Many people opt not to do this.
Mehndi is obviously mehndi night...girls get together, sing, dance put mehndi on, etc.
Nikah is usually done on the day of the wedding...either earlier in the day or evening. After the nikah ceremony, if the guy takes the girl home with him...that is the rukhsati. Many people delay that part for a year or so and then have a reception/rukhsati later on. This party is usually from the girls' side.
Valima is a reception thrown by the guys' side of the family.
SOme people are beginning to combine it all by doing joint mehndis and joint receptions.