Re: My story- dumped by a bangladeshi guy
Like Deeba said, you're lucky to be rid of him. Be thankful! A guy that would stalk and beg and practically coerce someone into being with him is not husband material. Also, given that you said his family is rather backward, can you imagine what it would have been like after marriage? :D
I'm 30 though, although i cant go backwards. Im not getting any younger, how am i gonna move forward.
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Why blame any nationality for it? This guy was a jerk. Period.
true. it can happen with guys of any nationality. this guy is a jerk and good riddance. OP should thank her stars for not being spared a miserable married life due to his parents.
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Because she wasn’t as small-minded as you?
Not even going to bother with the second part of your comment..
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I didn’t mean it to be taken offensively. I thought that’s what most girls wanted, and the consensus among them is that. I know many Pakistani girls who don’t even like guys from Karachi because of their skin color.
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I'm 30 though, although i cant go backwards. Im not getting any younger, how am i gonna move forward.
Why didn't you marry in your earlier years?
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Why didn't you marry in your earlier years?
We had no money and i was hoping he would leave me back then, plus my parents would have not let me marry. Now im getting old, it was more accepting to marry whoever.
Things got serious in the last couple of years.
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We had no money and i was hoping he would leave me back then, plus my parents would have not let me marry. Now im getting old, it was more accepting to marry whoever. Things got serious in the last couple of years.
No as in when you were 19 or 20 around that age, you didn't have any other suitors?
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I was stupid and naive. What doesnt make sense.
we agreed to buy a house so we had somewhere to go.
this for one.
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No as in when you were 19 or 20 around that age, you didn't have any other suitors?
I wasnt that young maybe about 25 when we got together. Ive had siblings with failed marriages, so parents did not put pressure on me to get married.
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this for one.
What do you mean? I wanted security. I thought he wouldnt leave me so i asked for a house.
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No matter how bleak it looks and how much you don't realize it now what happened was for the best. The guy had no backbone and after marriage it would have been hell.
You may think you've left your best years behind but that's not true. You have your whole life ahead of you and so many more people who will come into your life who will value you so much more.
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I wasnt that young maybe about 25 when we got together. Ive had siblings with failed marriages, so parents did not put pressure on me to get married.
Well you're still not that old. You can find someone better, make sure that he's Pakistani. Hope for the best and never compromise again and go back to him. You'll be fine.
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Not everyone is the same and judgemental.
when i was growing up, all the pakistani men in my family were abusive towarss women, and didnt have any respect. Yes this guy did stalk and pester me into getting into a relationship, but throughout my time with him he treated me with respect we were best friends. His put his family first.
Yes his family turned out to be racist and he had no idea this was gonna happen. I dont blame him. I blame the family for blocking him out for so many years not communicating to him and suddenly telling him how they feel.
He even said to his own mother i tried to tell you so many time about this relarionship but you didnt want to talk to me you ignored me.
i told him from now on communication is key with your family, i could be alot more broken than i am if he used and abused and then left me, so i will always have some respect for him.
They say blood is thicker than water for some. I was willing to make sacrifices to be with him in the end, but he couldnt do it for me.
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Not everyone is the same and judgemental.
when i was growing up, all the pakistani men in my family were abusive towarss women, and didnt have any respect. Yes this guy did stalk and pester me into getting into a relationship, but throughout my time with him he treated me with respect we were best friends. His put his family first.
Yes his family turned out to be racist and he had no idea this was gonna happen. I dont blame him. I blame the family for blocking him out for so many years not communicating to him and suddenly telling him how they feel.
He even said to his own mother i tried to tell you so many time about this relarionship but you didnt want to talk to me you ignored me.
i told him from now on communication is key with your family, i could be alot more broken than i am if he used and abused and then left me, so i will always have some respect for him.
They say blood is thicker than water for some. I was willing to make sacrifices to be with him in the end, but he couldnt do it for me.
It's rare that women go to such lengths for their love. Usually it's the girls who succumb to the pressure of their parents and marry someone else. But you were willing to go all the way. But he surely didn't deserve you, if cannot stand up to his parents then he wont support you at all. Allah is giving you another chance. You should make the best of it.
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Well you're still not that old. You can find someone better,*** make sure that he's Pakistani***. Hope for the best and never compromise again and go back to him. You'll be fine.
Actually, whatever race he happens to be, make sure that he isn't a needy, unstable twit with no backbone (like this guy was).
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Really? I don’t even find goray chittay guys attractive. I think that might be a generalization. Plus personality matters more than looks ever will.
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It's better you found out now - yes it hurts and you will miss the time you spent together but in all honestly, it's better that it didn't break apart after marriage.
Always be thankful that you got out before it was too late.
Also, there's no point in crying over a guy who can't stand up against his parents for you. If you had married him, and in the future there was ever a conflict.. what would happen if he doesn't have a backbone? Personally speaking, that was the most important thing that I needed in my husband, for him to have my back always. If he can't do that for you, then it's better that it didn't work out. You will be happier in the long run and I'm sure you'll find someone who is willing to fight for you.
Just give it time, and if he does come crawling back, please show him the door.
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I know it’s hard now since you’re still feeling the pain from it but don’t see the time you spent with mr. jerk as a waste of time. You must have learned something about what you truly want in life and in a life partner and especially what you don’t want from your experience with this guy. This is just one bad apple amongst Bengali men or men in general. I think what everybody else has said makes sense about being thankful that you didn’t waste anymore time and you didn’t actually make a life time commitment to a guy that’s a coward and spineless and can’t make atleast one or two decisions on his own.
Oh my god imagine the rest of your life with such a man. His life is controlled by others so good riddance to bad rubbish learn from this experience and be thankful you got another chance to pick someone spectacular for yourself. Salon visit,workout, self improvements, boost your self esteem by whichever way you want, make yourself into a person that you(first and foremost) would fall in love with and than watch other people including men fall for you too. Act like this didn’t effect you one bit, brush it off, love yourself. 
Don’t be so quick to give away your heart next time and be thankful to Allah you dodged that bullet.
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Those East Pakistanis… 
Sorry you had to go through this.
I feel you are better off without him, and you should think twice should he come running back to you.
Here in the DFW area, it seems to be the rage for Bengali men and women to marry out. Have close family friend's, whose daughter married a Bengali boy. Many Bengali families disapproved of the match, and the girl's in his family make things difficult for her. MA, she carries on and does not let it bother her.
My cousin is engaged to a Bengali girl lol! :D (Both families approved of the match though shukar alhamdulliah!)