My story- dumped by a bangladeshi guy

Dear all

its been a while since i posted here.

last time i posted it was regarding marrying a bangladesh guy.

i thought i wouls post an update to what happened.

Ok long story short, im pakistani girl that wanted to marry a bengali guy.

I was due to get married to a bengali guy, who was very confident that his parents would approve of the marriage, however it turns out they don’t. The whole time 6 years, we’ve been seeing each other, he was very distant from his family, and his parents treated him quite bad, anyways i stood by him through thick and thin.

I was hoping he would stand up for me, but it seems like he has changed, and would rather his parents fix his marriage rather than the hassle in the long term.

I don’t understand why when pakistani guys get married to bengali girls things are fine, plus both parties stick up for each other- correct me if im wrong, but i have seen a few cases.

What i’m trying to say is, are some guys that are weak they can’t stand up for themselves.

P.s we bought a house, so even without his parent approval we could have done our own thing.

I feel he will come begging after he realises, but it will be tool late by then.

I thought id share this before it happens to someone else.

Still upset but i know i have to move on and not look back. Anyway lesson learnt the hard way.

Re: My story- dumped by a bangladeshi guy

Sorry for what you went thru.. We're part Bengali and my brother fought for a girl my mum didn't approve of.. It didn't work out in the end but they did marry..

I know a lot of Bengalis married to people of other races, in fact far more than I've seen with Pakistanis.. It's far more common for Bengali girls to 'marry out' as well..

I think you're lucky to be rid of an idiot who couldn't stand up for you though.. It's disgusting that he could be with you all that time but not fight for you in the end..

Re: My story- dumped by a bangladeshi guy

Thanks Deeba.

Ive heard some horror stories after the marriage has happened, so i maybe lucky i'm out of it.

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^I really think you are.. Imagine if this had happened after marriage..

You deserve MUCH better.. If he comes crawling back just tell him where to go..

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What happens w the house now?

Re: My story- dumped by a bangladeshi guy

there are so many other bengalis, don't lose heart.

but what the heppan to house now? who buyed it? you or him?

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Why blame any nationality for it? This guy was a jerk. Period.

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Sorry you had to go through this.

I feel you are better off without him, and you should think twice should he come running back to you.

Here in the DFW area, it seems to be the rage for Bengali men and women to marry out. Have close family friend's, whose daughter married a Bengali boy. Many Bengali families disapproved of the match, and the girl's in his family make things difficult for her. MA, she carries on and does not let it bother her.

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Fortunately, he does not want it, due to the guilt.

i need to sought legal advice, so there is no come back.

if anyone can provide me with legalities and my position please pm me. I spoke to a solicitor last week and she still hasnt got back to me.

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i am going through depression i feel at the moment, as i have no one. I'Ve lost siblings, friends and have no contact with anyone. I don't want to look at another bengali again tbf.

Thanks. Anything regarding house i can pm only.

Re: My story- dumped by a bangladeshi guy

Yes, you are totally right.

however, i had to put down the nationality as i was with him for so long and he led me on. He was the most genuine, sincere person, even is till today, but is a weak person.

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His parents threatened to disown him.

we had a house, if my dad agreeed to give me away then there shouldnt have been an issue really. Parents always come around eventually.

he will come back, but i a, scared i will fall for the guilt and tears he will cry.

i need to be strong though i know it.

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You guys bought a house together before getting married?

Yes people, please don't blindly invest in property unless you are married to the person.

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The house is only in my name and we had not moved in, he redocrated it. I am in the porcess of selling to rid myself of all the memories.

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a lot of things dont make much sense.

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You shouldn't ruin the Feng shui of desi marriages by marrying someone outside of your culture. Stick with Pakistanis, we understand each other. If he can't laugh at Umar Sharif's jokes he's not for you.

Btw don't take this as an offense but how did you get past his "Bengaliness"? Or ultra browness... I thought girls go for Goray chittay guys.

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I was stupid and naive. What doesnt make sense. I fell for someone who i thought would take care of me. There was no physical relationship between us, as i didnt want to be with him in the first place. But the constant stalking and begging me to get with him ended in me looking after him more than his own family could.

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I look at a person as a human being, not by the colour of their skin.

yes i didnt want to be with him at first, but i put conditions on the relationship no physical relationship till we are married. He was sincere throughout.

we agreed to buy a house so we had somewhere to go. My parents were all for it, as they saw him as a nice guy. However, his parents are backwards with cultural not religious thinking values.

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i had alot of offers from pakistani's whilst in this relationship who questioned why i was with him, but due to my loyality and commitment i stood by him.

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Like Deeba said, you're lucky to be rid of him. Be thankful! A guy that would stalk and beg and practically coerce someone into being with him is not husband material. Honestly, that alone makes him sound not very stable.

Also, given that you said his family is rather backward, can you imagine what it would have been like after marriage? :D