My Sister's Friend

Lifestyle Relationships
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zash, daam's story is slightly different :p

but ya the similarity between daam and hassan's story is the zalim sister :p

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sheesh S baji needs to get a life, no need to feel guilty. If i was you, i wouldnt talk to her further, except for polite distant unavoidable conversation

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What's the chip on the shoulder....that makes the Daam wali sister so zalim? Just curious, haven't seen the drama, but have heard it's good.

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As for the no go area, I have seen so many families where siblings are close and interact freely with each other’s friends. Well to be honest I haven’t seen any cases where siblings strictly do not interact with each other’s friends. Nothing twisted happened to my knowledge. This is the first time I am hearing about a sudden change in niyyat and the intense longing for this innocent guy. Things just don’t add up.

Well lets just wait for Mr. Bond to load up his golden gun and reveal some more ‘facts’.

Oh and I am hoping that his inspiration didn’t come from that drama someone mentioned. I mean its bad enough that you watch these bored housewife dramay :hehe:

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Redvelvet, ya daam is definitely a must watch

actually in daam, what happens is the sister(maleeha) and her friend(zara) study in the same medical college and maleeha being a rich girl has done zara a lots of favors(money job clothes etc) since zara's family belongs to a very humble background

cutting story short maleeha's bro falls in love with zara and proposes to her and maleeha comes to know about this deal when her brother asks his parents to ask zara's hand from her parents...maleeha gets offended that neither junaid nor zara told or shared anything about it.. which leads to bitter feelings in meelha's heart for her best friend...

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Thank you for the summary. So, Maleeha (I've never like the name....reminds me of malaai).......her beef with her Zara is that Zara never told her about the relationship with her brother? It seems like another reason might be that.......Maleeha kinda sorta "looks down" on Zara and may consider her to be "inferior." But in the case of the OP.....S Baji DID inform her friend about her interest in her brother.....but she's repulsed by the idea. I wonder what the reasons are behind such a reaction.

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ya maleeha feels betrayed that zara didnt mention it to her but in OP's case....it could be different...

you know sometimes you are friends with people just because you need a company and when it comes to developing relationship with them then you back off saying their background isnt right or the person is not good enough or you dont respect that person enough to be included in your family then why be a friend to that person?....maleeha in the drama has the same problem

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plus why roam around "bajis" ? just stay away. She is your sister's friend and you are not required to entertain her...

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SBaji likes you and was hoping you'd be interested too. Then she was embarrassed.

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lol, this made me laugh, idk why.

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^Maybe because it was put so simply.

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Hassan, you chick magnet. Bow chika wow wow.

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I am definitely not interested in her although i think my sister got angry because she is being protective. I can’t help being awkward if i were to see her again. But it’s alright, as you said forgive and forget.

Well you see communication with opposite gender i am very confident and straightforward. So it is understandable may be i un-knowingly said something which she S took seriously?. Don’t know.

Paki or Indian dramay are not my cup of tea and especially when you are busy professional. Well it could that as someone said, she is feeling lonely? I mean that woman spent so many years getting herself educated and set her career to very high. Now she is facing difficulty looking for a chap i guess??.

@el topo. Call me extreme..extreme chick magnet.

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Thank you everybody for your comments. Here is an update:

Called that woman and straightaway asked her what is her problem. First she was not speaking up and then started tearing up saying sorry and told me that i am well set in my career and she is looking into getting married to someone but can't find suitable rishta for her. I told her that she has made things very uncomfortable by all of this. I mean you could have asked me straight-away and this could just be secret. Anyway, i told her once again that i am not interested (said it nicely). So hopefully things are going to be ok.

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You “straight away” asked her what is her problem? I hope you don’t mean that literally…cuz that’s a rather harsh opening…I’m not surprised she started tearing up. She must have felt even MORE embarrassed than when your sister had talked to her.

This phone call wasn’t necessary. Your sister already hinted to “S” that there’s no interest in this rishta…so “S” got the idea. “S Baji” was already rejected once by your sister, you didn’t need to reject her again. “S Baji” ko do martaba reject karnay ki kya zaroorat thi? :rolleyes:

Now “S” is going to feel awkward/embarrassed whenever she runs into you…because she’s aware that you KNOW about her feelings. If you had tried to keep “parda” over this knowledge that she was interested in you…I think that would have been better. “S” may not have approached this matter in a smart way…but I think that if you had pretended that you didn’t know about her feelings…and if you had behaved in a polite but distant manner…it would have been less weird.

Maybe your sister was being protective of you…but you’re not a bacha. You’re old enough to take care of yourself. Even your sister KNOWS that “S Baji” can’t force you to marry her. Was your sister afraid that “S Baji” would seduce you into marriage with her feminine wiles? You are a grown man and can decide for yourself whom you want to marry…you don’t need so much protection.

“S” felt embarrassed…your sister could have tried to encourage her by saying that she’ll eventually find a decent guy…and both women could have made the effort to continue their friendship as before. It wouldn’t be fair to put all the blame on “S” and say that she’s the one who stopped talking/calling. Communication and relationships require mutual effort.

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^i agree. Sometimes it's best to let things go to leave people with some dignity.

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^Love the succinctness :)

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I totally agree with RV's post and feeling sorry for "S". I hope she feels better soon and finds a decent guy.

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poor S Baji.

Both ur sister and you handled the situation very inappropriately.

Poor gal

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Oh so the Vin Diesel-Daniel Craig bit was true eh. She did lose control over herself after all. You go you stud von studinstein :k: