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If I was married, yes I would mind if she flirted. I wouldnt flirt either.
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flirting is one thing, but what about just talking?
MQ - you make it seem that he shouldn't even TALK to other girls. How will you handle it if he's got a female boss or coworker?
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PCG- of course he can talk to them. Maybe even be friendly. But flirt and get interested, that I would mind.
Shikra -- :o
sadz-- you're free to reply. Keep the personal insults away.
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I edited my post, I hope you read it :halo:
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My My how did I miss this thread. Well what if you have significant other"s" as in two wives? What are you women gonna do. Irem? Muslim_queen? LK? etc Oh Minah_pa (even though not allowed but what if?). Lets here it.
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MQ, i said u flirted... how is that an insult?
u made a comment that was rather demeaning, suggesting i was incapable of understanding what u said...
geez girl..
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Sadzz---You dont understand my point. How is that demeaning? You did NOT and you WILL not. Even my best friend doesnt. Does that mean Im demeaning her? NO. And sadzz you dont know me at all, you cant say I flirt. And I didnt ask you to get personal. The thread is would you mind your husband if he flirted with women. I said I would.The end.
Shikra-- thanks. I didnt say he cant look. I just dont want him to get interested in her or flirt with her.
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Sadzz I think what MQ meant to say was: If you were married or engaged, would you mind your significant other flirting around?
When your not seeing some one its easier to flirt.
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MQ, i dont know u... but i see ur posts hence i made a comment.. im sorry if u dont agree
thanks dutch_paki for clarifying...
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Maybe this might help: in most people’s eyes, inlcuding mine, look = checkout. How come men never look at ugly girls? You can’t restrict looking, it’s pure instinct. But flirting 
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Verizon - Basically it comes down to consent, right? If he had a wife already, no way would things have developed to that point. I really don't share, I wasn't raised that way, so no way now.
BUT.... I guess if I was raised to believe that a second wife could be introduced into the mixture, I would be insecure, definitely. Mostly because our marriage is a love marriage. If I wasn't married for love, I think it might be so much easier to accept another. Especially if it was an accepted way of life.
If my other half would ever be so bold as to bring up the subject of another wife, my answer would be I would like another husband (Who wouldn't!!). One a bit younger, less argumentative, less frugal, less Pashtun hard-headedness, hmmmmmmm........
All of a sudden, it looks good, lol
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:k:
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Not stick around to see his other wife.
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^ Love the answer, very you, MQ, love your strength and conviction.
Don't ever settle, I really hope you find the perfect person for you.
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^^What hey you are muslim_queen so its allowed now say you?
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When I started reading this thread, I was almost shaking my head. "Oh no, not another of those naive threads" kinda feeling, where you can almost tell the person has no experience and little clue as to what they are talking about. But with 2+ pages of posts, with some really interesting thoughts from different people, I can see MQ's position better.
I think each person has their own comfort zone. Its better if you define it early on in the relationship and see if you can sync up with your significant other. This will save a lot of trouble later on when you start accusing each other of being unfaithful or whatnot.
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I agree there is a comfort-zone and it should be established early on however we are talking about reality. I’m not advocating flirting ..I’m opposing over-possessiveness. Everyone should be possessive about their significant-other and keep a balance at the same time or else half of the world will pull OJ Simpson. Men and women both have their prides but they need to be aware of their shortcomings as well. You & I are not perfect no matter what we claim.
It is understood what the institution of marriage is all about. People make a commitment and adhere to their respective responsibilities. Islam goes in even more leniency for men regarding number of marriages (with it’s due conditions of course) . The point is which man in his right frame of mind would want to commit and go to a prison. You better be worth every second of it…and most women aren’t unfortunately…it’s a fact of life…humans are not perfect and you should be ready for it instead of living in denial or a textbook book life.
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I say you give me a headache.
Faisal and fayz— yup thanks. Naive - hardly.But not wanting them to flirt with other people is not the same as being jeaous , possessive, or insecure. I suppose its just about expectations, and what people feel comfortable with in a relationship.
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M_Q I know truth does hurt and cause pain/headache etc. Nice to ignore a societal issue that plagues muslim countries, In a way we in the west should consider ourselves lucky to be shielded by the very laws that a few here criticize.
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Waisy I'd be pulling my hubby's ear everytime I saw him look at another woman...so it's all good MQ :D