MY SAAS :( HELP

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Sorry i didnt understand your first comment..... and as for the second point my baji has discussed it with her husband a billion times but he is soooo arrogant. he just gets mad at her. And honestly speaking i doutb he's getting a supply bcuz baji is to freaked out the auntyjee will walk in.
I honestly don't understand what is wron with her sasural.

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At first I would have suggested that she lock the door, but she already tried that. Well, the only thing I think that may help is if you stand by your sister's side while she keeps insisting her point to her husband. He can't ignore her forever.

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Hello everybody just an update on the crazy saas (my poor poor baji).
Today my brother-in-law went to work and my baji was not feeling so she told her saas she was going to lie down. Saas said, "pehle ghar ka kaam karte hain."
Toh Baji made the kaana, and cleaned and jo bhi hai and went to lie down.
5 minutes before my brother-in-law came home the saas picked up a washcloth adn sat down on the kitchen floor and pretended to clean. Obviously her son wlaks in and sees his mom scrubbing the floor and he got really mad at baji.
Does anyone else have a chalaak saas like this??// It's crazy. I was going to go visit my baji but now i m tooooo scared. Everyone has made good suggestions and baji has tried them all like
1) lock the door---husband gets mad
2)avoid husband--- saas feeds beta posion against bahu
3) discuss with the husband-- he doesnt care
4) stop fulfilling husbands needs in bed---- husband didnt say anything

We are running out of ideas..Please koi new idea

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Dear Mahiya_f,

kya kahoun, meri saas apki baji ki saas say 1 million% gai guzri hai.....

i suffered all this and much much more then took the initiative and left my hubby in his moms lap!!!!

my hubby refused to step out with me but accepted me leaving his moms house with our 2 daughters.

after me applying for divorce he came back to my folks n begged ok we will live seperately..

i was the elder bahu who used to clean all the 3 bedrooms plus the 2 and a 1/2 toilets plus the living and dining plus the entire kitchen... not to mention mein saray khandaan kay kapray bhi dhoti thi ar khana bhi bunati thi... uf kya kya butaoun :(

baki meri saas ki bahu-ain donoun betiyaan unki behnoun ki never did anything!!!

it was a disaster trust me!!!! my hubby was a worse case then ur baji's... her raat humari larai honi... maa nay ye kaha to maa nay wo kaha tumharay baaray mein.... God knew who was right!!!!

so i left their house with my daughters and started work again

now i am living with my hubby in a seperate house!!! jis ki waja say in janaab ka dehaan sara ar dimaag bachoun ki teraf hai... yes of course it is his mother... magar ab wo mama's boy wala koi scene nahi!!!!

take care dear, i will pray for your baji!!

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1: I went to stay with my In laws for few months. I decided to help my MIL with the house work as her three grown up daughters didnt, so eventually left all the house work for me to do and went to neighbour place or invited someone over. so i had to do.

  1. when i used to do my ironing, asked me to do others as well.

  2. i always wake up early. few times i was out of my room about 9 am but i noticed my FIL and MIL having breakfast together and talking. so i didnt liked this and i told my MIL that i will stay in my room till my FIL leaves for the office. my MIL ended up telling my mother's sister that i normally wake up 1pm. i was shocked.

  3. she told my brother and parents that i have some issues, when i didnt really had. and asked them to talk to me about it in front of her, i told them my issues that i had, she was so embrassed and told my mum not to tell anyone.

  4. now they want me to come and live with them. i rather commit suicide than live with them. i told my hubby. i went with my choice to live with them and things didnt turn out to be good and i dont want to relive that again.

so sis its life. my MIL when she talks she showers you with her lovely words but infact she is not that nice. and she had convinced everyone that how much she loves me.

she told my brother's wife's parents that my brother's wife tells stuff about me to her. how nice.

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Sindoooooooooooooooooo Ra

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my mum spent 26 years living with my grandparents. mum often tells me that my dad's younger sisters and brother grew in her hands. all other 4 bahu's left them but my mum never did, even she wanted to live her own life her way. people still in our khandan praise my mum for 26 years that she spent with my grandparents without complaining. my grandmother was very bad to my mum whereas my granddad was very nice.

before we got visa, my grandmother used to ask people to pray that we shouldnt get visa otherwise who will never look after them.

but she never admitted or praised or said any good thing about my mum to anyone. we know and everyone else in our khandan knows that she wants my mum to come back and live with them and she even says indirectly to us.

but my mum says that she had hard life with her MIL but dont have any bad thing in her heart and would invite her MIL to live with us again.

trust me if i was on my mum's place, i wouldnt even live for one night let alone 26 years.

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I dont understand these typical desi saas.... its sooo annoying...my baji and me were both raised here in canada....btw this baji is actually my cousin but we grew up together..... and we both cant understand...baji lived with their family for one year before coming back from pakistan and it was very hard for her...bcuz u know she was raised her whole life in canada and then had to go spend one year in a pindh..it was very difficult but baji handled it veyr well...the other daughter-in-laws are nice alhumdulilah so i dont know y saas cant visit them...how can ppl live like this?

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HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! :d

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maybe your bajji's saas can not have enough control over her other baahu's or it could be that their husbands dont listen to her as much as your bajji's husband.

tell your baji to be brave and stand up for her self. i didnt when needed now i regret that.
what about your bajji's father in law. is it possible to ask him to involve in this, maybe he can control her.

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this is possible ..... baji's father-in-law is a very quiet guy...and doesnt like to interfere in any matter.... bajis husbands pupo is very nice and she helped a bit but then saas just got more mad.... baji ne kaafi baar kaha hai ke woh ghar chorke chali jaye gi...par bhai ko samaj nahin aata....he is poisoned by his mom.....

bechari baji job karna chaati thi..saas ne nahin kaha.....woh hum subko milna chaati thi..saas ne phir nahin kaha.... we r very worried for baji...bcuz how much stress can she handle? she has one small daughter and she is busy looking after saas and house and husband..... its too much.... anyways we r too worried.... baji mujhe chup chupke phone karti hai... ok its ok saas is like this but y is her husband so stupid and ignorant..doesnt he see his wifes pain??
jab baji preganant thi toh aunty ne usse daka diya.... alhumdulilah unhe kuch nahin hua.... par baji kehti hain ke shayad agar uss time kuch hota unke husband ko samaj aata ..... my aunty (bajis mom) is very worried all the time...
baji kehri thi ke unke husband or woh ek couple ke tara nahin rehre.... or isse bhi tensions barti hain.... he takes his mom out for dinner but not his wife.... moms birthday he remembers but not his wifes.... gift for mom but not wife..... baatein mom ke saath or biwi ke saath nahin...yeh kisteraan ke aadmi hain?
and when baji says something he says you dont want me to be a good muslim..janat is at the feet of your mom/...Allah ne kaha ke amee ko sabze zyaada izzat deni chaaye... haan yeh sach hai...par Allah ne yeh toh nahin kaha ke biwi se koi rishta na rako

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is he trying to make your sister jealous or something.

But Islam gives rights to wives as well and doesnt say that one should ignore wife for mother.

tell your baji to move out for few weeks and than see what they do.
how is he with his daughter?
what kind of mother and son are they?

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exact same story is my cousin's. She has shifted to dubai for good frm pak. saas dear was with eldest bahu in pak and now she has said she will live with my cousin cus she is the only (dumb) bahu who "khidmet's" her and takes care of her and dusnt argue or talk back. other bahu's are sharp tongued and the saas knows that.. shes told my cousin on face ke.. mein unke sath nahi rahon gi , i will live with u, tum mera khayal rakhti ho... she has faced alot of prbs becus of her.... it just shows all saas r like that.. u cant help it... but ur baji's hubby is extreeeeeeeeeeme...... dus all those things with ammi that wife ke sath hona chaiye... except for that... warna in mardo ka bas chalay!!!!!!!!! sheesh... really!

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The longest recorded flight of a chicken is 13 seconds.

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huh? what dus this have to do with this thread!!

How would you react...
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kill this b'tch

but the greatest advise NOW would be, put the damn sleeping pill in her chai/milk...
but then there comes this Islamic "conflict"...we should be patient. Putting someone
to sleep against his/her will is a sin...

I'd run away for a few days, just run away...are you his playing ball? Stand up and speak for yourself. You need help. Don't worry or is Allah not enough for his Servant!?

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phir to yaar sub say pehlay meri saas ko maar do koi!!!

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HAHAHAHA! wot abt mine? ;) aww... shes not that bad u know jst a few irritating things here and there.. otherwise bearable i guess :)

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in the first comment he is being sarcastic that why did the saas have to go and share the intimate details of her son and bahu in public .. thaz what he meant

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these are all tests and I ask myself what kind of friggin' test is God sometimes 'forcing' us thru?

How can we respect someone if they don't give us a chance and why are so many mama boys in the world living. I think for some people it's just enough that their mama gave them birth, but forget that was Allah's will even though a mama has a special place, God is the greatest and when you ignore God, may God's wrath be on you...

my dad says all the time when we have argument:

mene tumhe barra kiya hai! wtf?

tumari maa ne 9 maheene tumhe peth meyn rakkha hai!

if you are about to say this someday to your kids, do you deserve any respect then? Chuck You!