yanzala
September 23, 2010, 8:28pm
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if you don’t mind me asking, how old are you zobia?
zobia
September 23, 2010, 8:29pm
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My roomie had only one ‘demand’, and some not-so-important preferences. He wanted someone who ‘loves God above all’. He found someone who did and it feels like a match made in Heaven. (He is not a Muslim).
One needs to know what you really want in your potential spouse, that would keep you happy in good times and bad. Superficial things don’t really matter for a serious long-term healthy relationship.
you are right and to be honest i know this process wont get me anything great. but it is satifying my parents that they are at least making any initiative so i am happy.
there are many thing you do to make others happy.
zobia
September 23, 2010, 8:34pm
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even if he dont ful fill any of this but i have surety that ALLAH SWT has choose him for me i will go for him.
Monk
September 23, 2010, 8:44pm
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Mubarik ho zobia.
you getting into next stage of life.
you know you can have “fun” with your husband
allah swt don’t have any problem with that
Now don’t make hubby feel guilty for having feeling and armans
Re: My Rishta demands
Since my parents are looking a rishta for me here in Canada and US and ALHUMDULLAH i am also getting many proposals so my mother asked me to tell her precisely what are my demands. Since my parents, especially my mother dont want to hurt others so she says to be as direct as possible.
so far they demanded is larka should be shareef , educated, and working here in Canada or US (and there are only three options for Pakistani guys to pursue as their career Engineer, Doctor and business) and between 26-29.
but now my mother asked me to narrow it down further more and i also believe that the above mentioned demands dont really do the justice.
so this is what I am going for so far
Recite Quran every single day (even single ayat counts) with translations and tafseer.I dont want to marry a gadha who has a phd in human psyoclogy but dont understands the rights and values of his parents, siblings, the people around him and especially his wife.
Education
3. height: atleast 6 feet.
and the things I would liek to know after if and only if I get to meet with the guy
is he planning to do Istakhara?
his dream wedding plans
ps1: i know except for 2 and 3 my mom will reject all of em.
Good thing for me my wife wasn’t so demanding.
zobia
September 23, 2010, 8:58pm
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did you know her or her family before marrying her?
S02
September 23, 2010, 9:17pm
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[mod]Stay on topic.[/mod]
soni27
September 23, 2010, 9:29pm
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good luck zobia .. i hope u get who u want ..
keep an open mind n heart
Re: My Rishta demands
I kinda get why zobias doing this, yes typically resumes are applied to jobs and not mariages but in an arranged marriage where you don’t know a person , you do sort of have to treat the initial stages like a job application. I mean if she has no requirements and just meets anyone who asks for her rishta she could easily have 100 s based on her eligibility. My uncle had a pretty set criteria and even then he looked at about 60-70 girls in a period of two years, simultaneously meeting them, talking to them etc. Don’t know how he did it always sounded exhausting and confusing to me. So there should be some way to narrow down the search from the get go so you don’t have to meet with a gazillion people.
I think your criteria seems fine maybe just make it more general instead of so specific ie shareef, Well educated, tall and enthusiastic about improving himself in accordance to Islam. And then maybe look at every potential suitor on a case by case basis.
Best of luck!
S02
September 23, 2010, 9:33pm
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^it’s good to have criteria. But my comments are referring to to the fact that maybe they need to be reprioritized.
EDAL
September 23, 2010, 11:27pm
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Since my parents are looking a rishta for me here in Canada and US and ALHUMDULLAH i am also getting many proposals so my mother asked me to tell her precisely what are my demands. Since my parents, especially my mother dont want to hurt others so she says to be as direct as possible.
so far they demanded is larka should be shareef, educated, and working here in Canada or US (and there are only three options for Pakistani guys to pursue as their career Engineer, Doctor and business) and between 26-29.
but now my mother asked me to narrow it down further more and i also believe that the above mentioned demands dont really do the justice.
so this is what I am going for so far
Recite Quran every single day (even single ayat counts) with translations and tafseer.
Education
height: atleast 6 feet.
and the things I would liek to know after if and only if I get to meet with the guy
is he planning to do Istakhara?
his dream wedding plans
ps1: i know except for 2 and 3 my mom will reject all of em.
ROFLMAO, I totally meet all your requirements though, except for age, I just turned 25. Plus I am married to a Palestinian chick.
I’m laughing at the fact that all those “shareef” guys in the U.S are going to be mommy’s boys and constant porn watchers. You don’t want that.
Why don’t you go for a guy whose at least had a few girls and will know what hes’ doing. So he won’t be “finished” in about 10 seconds.
zobia
September 23, 2010, 11:38pm
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thank you. really need it.
I kinda get why zobias doing this, yes typically resumes are applied to jobs and not mariages but in an arranged marriage where you don’t know a person , you do sort of have to treat the initial stages like a job application. I mean if she has no requirements and just meets anyone who asks for her rishta she could easily have 100 s based on her eligibility. My uncle had a pretty set criteria and even then he looked at about 60-70 girls in a period of two years, simultaneously meeting them, talking to them etc. Don’t know how he did it always sounded exhausting and confusing to me. So there should be some way to narrow down the search from the get go so you don’t have to meet with a gazillion people.
I think your criteria seems fine maybe just make it more general instead of so specific ie shareef, Well educated, tall and enthusiastic about improving himself in accordance to Islam. And then maybe look at every potential suitor on a case by case basis.
Best of luck!
Yes…atleast someone understood what really i am going for. I really appreciate you words. thanks
I dont want to hurt anyone. and if i priortize every single thing then it wont gonna take me anywhere. besides its not just me…other party also asks my qualifications, age, weight etc.
that ain’t even a IM language dude.
EDAL
September 23, 2010, 11:44pm
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No no, i’m sorry I wasn’t laughing at you. You sound like a good Muslim sister.
What I meant was, a lot of the so called “shareef” brothers are “shareef” for a reason. They watch too much porn and are “mommys boys”
Go for a refined bad boy, that way you will get the best of both worlds.
zobia
September 24, 2010, 1:04am
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No no, i’m sorry I wasn’t laughing at you. You sound like a good Muslim sister.
What I meant was, a lot of the so called “shareef” brothers are “shareef” for a reason. They watch too much porn and are “mommys boys”
Go for a refined bad boy, that way you will get the best of both worlds.
lol. and the one who are not shareef, they also watch too much porn
kher i am myself a fine arts graduate and i am also very close to my parents but that doesn’t mean i am mama’s gals or daddy’s gal. i respect their opinion and also respect them but only do things that i feel doing so it also doesn’t mean i obey each and everything they order me.
Krypton
September 24, 2010, 1:07am
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zoiba…you…too?
is this a mock-life1 thread :aq:
im confused.
zobia
September 24, 2010, 1:12am
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lay…did i mention any where that i want to marry a rich (let alone filthy rich), handsome, caring dude? i personally believe that my demands are pretty valid cuz almost everyone gets education and almost everyone has read Quran (all they need to be is punctual).
K337
September 24, 2010, 1:17am
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if i was a man and 6 feet tall ,i would be ur dream boy.
